Am I wrong in thinking this is more a job for the man in the house??

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Happy to be told I am so in the dark ages...honestly I value all your opinions but just need to get some perspective on this. Tonight DD 18 (young niave thing...well i think..but thats not the issue) is going out tonight and needs to be taken to her friends house very last minute thing..she was meant to be getting picked up from here but last minute probs meant we had to take her there... its only 3 mins in the car but walking is through a dark alley....yikes.... scooby doo neck holding stuff... its just not a nice little cut to take but has to be done on foot to friends house...takes bout 15 mins there and the same ( necking holding alley on the way back) I hate it and would never ever ever allow her to walk the 50 yds or so of "terror". Anyway ...tonight...previous to this.... both hubby and I where out at clubs with our other kids at different venues, and he kicked off about having to go out with DD again ( he wanted a beer) I had been home half an hour before him had opened wine and had bout half a glass at this stage....obviously I cd not drive her...He wd "not" drive her so I had to do the walk of terror.... he thought this was ok. I had to be all brave with DD on the way there and was absolutely "cacking" myself on the journey back.. Im home now and in a state of shock of what I had to do.. do I need to just like wise up and grow a pair or is hubby not being very fair.. Sorry for rambling post but I'm just peeved at the minute.

Making tea and crackers now..ummmm xx

Is it an unsafe walk or a matter of being afraid of the dark? Women are more vulnerable than men, who are the biggest that to women. So, was your walk through an unsafe area, or were you worried about scoobie ghosties?

I loathe 'his/hers' splitting of jobs. In this situation it sounds like your adult DD could have just got a taxi tbh. Or go on a pushbike.

I actually think its a bit of an unsafe area to be honest..much more than me being afraid of the dark...stuff doesnt freak me out like if that makes sense..its a known Kinda bad mans land!! ... dont mess round that area rather than ...if you enter her you will meet your doom. Hope thats a bit clearer. Still not somewhere I even wanna be in day light hours...too may trees and noises. thanks for your answer xx

50yds? She's an adult. You both need to get a grip.

I don't really hold with 'man/woman of the house' jobs tbh, if your adult daughter wanted to go out are should've got a taxi if it was unsafe to walk

You sound quite melodramatic tbh, is there any reason to think this walk is actually dangerous or is it just dark?

Was there not a longer, less scary, way round?

Plus, she's 18. It's up to her to organize her transport/escorts, not you.

Why is it obvious that you can't drive after half a glass of wine?

'Meet your doom'

No real reason to think its dangerous..just dark and not a comfortable walk..though not life threatening and so quick a taxi is just awful in this area at said time she would have been rather late. Melodramatic.... lovve it :-)

Honestly? You have a very warped idea of where bad things happen.

You sound a bit wet to be honest.

Sorry.

It's not a job for the "man of the house". As with any other job, it is a job for the most suitable for the task in question.
In this instance "the man" generally has the physical presence to avoid any unpleasantness.

Plus any Father who allows his DD to go down a dark alley while he has a beer, needs a word with himself.

I think you sound extremely over dramatic to be honest which absolutely will not be helpful to anyone. On the other hand if it is that unsafe then nobody should be walking that way and she should of gone in a taxi if neither of you were sober enough to drive?

Whats...with all... the elipses...?

Yes but, why can't you drive after 1/2 a glass of wine?

Didnt even know my pauses had a name, so thankyou for educating me "Clive".

Lydiand my best freind at 15 was killed by a drink driver.

How sad OP, perhaps that has made you ultra cautious about your DD's safety, I'm with you on that.

Obviously you shouldn't have drunk ancho and driven. I'm shocked by posters suggesting you do that!
Your DP should have done it as he hasn't had a drink! Stupid to make you walk it.
Although will DD not walk alone? Or get a taxi? If she's relying on you for last minute lifts then she's got to accept some times she just can't go. She could have stayed home if she couldn't make her own way there.

I'm sorry. I was just finding it hard to read.

Nothing shocking about driving after 1/2 glass of wine. Understandable that the OP might not want to though.

You wouldn't drive after half a glass of wine? I don't get that.

pp, that's NOT drink driving.

Probably not LadyBlaBlah I just know Im not totally myself even after such a small amount of alcohol ..its just my tolerance and I dont feel safe going over zero in fact. Others may be quite comfortable but for me its just a no. Its just my issue and not the issue of this post. Thankyou for the posts.

Any amount of alcohol impairs your reactions. Even under the legal limit. Don't make any non-essential journeys, it's not worth the risk.

At 18 I really think your DD should be making her own arrangements.
If this alley is so dodgy then you walking it alone on the way back is just as dangerous for you as it would be for her walking it alone, so either it's too dodgy, in which case neither of you should have walked it, or it's not too dodgy and she can jolly well go herself.

Does she not go out alone in town at all?