Am I wrong in thinking this is more a job for the man in the house??

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Happy to be told I am so in the dark ages...honestly I value all your opinions but just need to get some perspective on this. Tonight DD 18 (young niave thing...well i think..but thats not the issue) is going out tonight and needs to be taken to her friends house very last minute thing..she was meant to be getting picked up from here but last minute probs meant we had to take her there... its only 3 mins in the car but walking is through a dark alley....yikes.... scooby doo neck holding stuff... its just not a nice little cut to take but has to be done on foot to friends house...takes bout 15 mins there and the same ( necking holding alley on the way back) I hate it and would never ever ever allow her to walk the 50 yds or so of "terror". Anyway ...tonight...previous to this.... both hubby and I where out at clubs with our other kids at different venues, and he kicked off about having to go out with DD again ( he wanted a beer) I had been home half an hour before him had opened wine and had bout half a glass at this stage....obviously I cd not drive her...He wd "not" drive her so I had to do the walk of terror.... he thought this was ok. I had to be all brave with DD on the way there and was absolutely "cacking" myself on the journey back.. Im home now and in a state of shock of what I had to do.. do I need to just like wise up and grow a pair or is hubby not being very fair.. Sorry for rambling post but I'm just peeved at the minute.

Making tea and crackers now..ummmm xx

YABU. She's 18, she either makes her own way or you as parents have a shared responsibility with no 'it's a mans job' rubbish involved.

You say your husband didn't want to go out with DD again, does that mean it's usually him that takes her or picks her up at night?

You would "never ever allow" her to walk down a dark alley? At 18? Good luck with that.

My daughter will and has had to miss venues as she cant get herself there for various reasons. I am happy to oblige and offer lifts to ease the burden but she is more than happy to get buses or taxis etc...on this ocassion neither was feasible, it was all very last minute. She is having a particularly tough time with her social group of friends and her A2's I did not want to cause more stress to her night out. thankyou everyone for your helpful posts.

Im home now and in a state of shock of what I had to do..

Why didn't you both walk her there? And actually, I think stats show men are more likely to be attacked at night than women.

Is there a reason she couldn't walk alone?

Haggis... because we have other kids at home in bed.

I just did not want her to walk alone..thats all. Obviously thats what I shd have done given the opinion here.

Justmuddling why nit pick at sentences that out of context have little meaning?

We ensure our DD's safety at every opportunity, can't understand why anyone wouldn't. She's much older than 18.

Better safe than sorry eh OP.

I'm not nit picking OP. I'm highlighting a sentence that you posted. A sentence that frankly I find bizarre.

Yes a sentence taken out of context none the less, whether that is bizarre is only your opinion. With the whole text read it fits quite well to how i felt. thank you tho for your post to highlight your feelings.

Ah. In that case, I would have called a taxi to do it or for some of Dds friends to come for her.

You're a brave lot on here.

I'm scared of dark alleyways, but couldn't sit at home and let my daughter do a tricky walk alone, she is more important than my fears.

My DH hasn't had a drink all evening, so he could take her home 20 minutes ago.

She's precious, as is OP's DD.

Haggis time was not on our side for booking a taxi... city centre taxis in a major city on Easter holidays and a very big night in the city generally meant this not an option as previously stated. She is having problems with her social group and i was trying to limit the stess on her albiet impact on the group.

I completely understand you OP.

We live in a village, it's pitch dark at night (no street lamps).

At 18 both DDs had part time jobs in the local pub, to get to that pub you have to walk down a very, very dark and creepy footpath. (Think, very tall trees, hootong owls and bats) We all walk down this path during daylight but not a chance in hell would anyone do it at night. We took it in turns to collect DDs from the pub.

In your situation Op, you're H should have taken the 3 minutes to drive his dd to her friends.

Thankyou Lydiand DD is more important than my fears too.

Does your daughter drive? Could she learn?

At 16 I had a moped. Could that be an option?

Thankyou also Bakeoffcake that creepy footpath sounds so like what Im describing.

I would absolutely love to be able to afford her the spare cash for driving lessons but sadly thats just not an option.

What if she just went out without you? Or would she not do that? Just interested. If she just decided to go out would you stop her?

Beg pardon?

Sorry, I hate doing a TLDR, but my eyes glazed over at dark alley. A bit of proper punctuation really does help, sometimes. If you were telling me irl, I'd beg for you to stop and take a breath.

More than happy for her to go out without me and does so regularly... Why ever would i want to do that? I would never ever stop her doing something she wanted to do. I only ever ever support her never hinder her. I want for her what she wants for herself.

Sorry Ouryve I'm Irish and never ever come up for air

The REAL statistics - not the ones that are fed to us by media- show that it is young males most at risk of receiving violence .

Not young females , older females etc.