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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Shaking Off The Winter Blues And Getting Out Our Booze Free Summer Shoes!

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Mouseface · 01/04/2015 14:49

Hello, tis me, Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. It's a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers, occasional slurpers, sneaky sippers, we're all a very different bunch but we ALL have the same thing in common.

Alcohol.

We all have a story or two to tell, we have all been through some terrible times, some more than others and we all have our reasons for drinking or even not. Smile

The one true wonderful thing about this Bus is that we don't do judging!! We're all on a even playing field, no matter what has brought us to this thread.

So, if you'd like to talk, then talk. If you want to lurk and see how we work for a while, that's cool too :)

The Bus is never full, there's always is room for YOU.

And, if you'd like to see what started this off, amost good 5 years ago now, have a look at A TRULY AWESOME HEARTFELT THEAD HERE

And our last thread is just here too for those who would like some more history THIS IS WHERE WE'VE JUST BEEN

Hope to see you soon :) xxx

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aliasjoey · 16/04/2015 20:20

Oh god ma you poor thing. Sad I take it there's no support from DH? wish I could just bundle you up in a warm blanket.

SweetLathyrus · 16/04/2015 20:20

Ma, there is surely a limit the the amount of shit the universe can throw at you? [Flowers] the AF break will be good for you., and we're all here for you; don't be afraid to rant, rail, moan or sob, just don't say "sorry".

dementedma · 16/04/2015 21:05

Yeah, I seem to be really copping a load of shit at the moment. 2015 has been dreadful so far. I texted my sister about my " annus horribilis" and autocorrect changed it to anus hornbills. I am being pecked to death by hornbills...I can cope with all of it but not losing distracted chap.his emails give me a reason to live.

SweetLathyrus · 16/04/2015 21:16

do you think the anus hornbills are the mortal enemies of the exercise Dolphins?

Was the argument that bad then? Can you blame email as an imperfect medium and give him a call?

dementedma · 16/04/2015 21:23

Lol sweet I think they probably are. I hope the exercise dolphins win through.
It wasnt that bad but there was a clearly different interpretation of something that was said. Too difficult to explain. No, I can't phone him. I have to attend an event with him through work a week on Monday. I hope to God things have been resolved by then or it is going to be very difficult. My inbox( not a euphemism) is coldly empty. If I dont have him and I can't drink either, fuck knows how I'm going to get through the long miserable evenings with just wb for company....

SweetLathyrus · 16/04/2015 21:34

Sounds like you need Auntie Derek, if only for an hour.

dementedma · 16/04/2015 21:42

I am booked with Auntie Derek a week on Saturday. Can't wait....

HellRunner · 16/04/2015 22:11

Any room for a small one?? Think I might need to cling to the sidecar for tonight but really need a seat on the bus soon. Long time lurker (even posted in past in a previous name) Needless to say still drinking,

things really reached a head with DH this week and he is pretty much done with the situation unless I sort me shit out which I have realised as I have spiralled ridiculously over the Easter Hols and know its bad, I desperately want to save my marriage,

Hopefully this is day -1 for me (if you can have such a thing)

SweetLathyrus · 16/04/2015 22:23

Sleep tight, Ma.

Welcome aboard Hell. That first step is the hardest, but you will find all the support and understanding you need here. If you have a drink now, put it down. Don't finish it, you don't need to. Make yourself a warm drink if you're not ready for bed, then try and get a good nights rest. If you and DH aren't too at odds, talk to him about what you want to do, and what would help you to achieve it. Not that it is up to him to do anything, but perhaps there are some practical things like not offering you drinks, only having drinks in the house that you WON'T want. Any support is good.

I'm for bed now, so sleep well babes.

SweetLathyrus · 17/04/2015 07:15

Morning All.

I am sleeping so well, must be all the dog walking.

What ever day this is for you I hope it's a good one.

Khalisi · 17/04/2015 08:29

Good morning, Babes!

Sweet Exercising never looks bad. Especially running. Even the fittest of runners will nod (here, at least), because it takes a lot to leave the house. Even the fit ones sometimes just don't feel like it.
So, use those dog walking minutes to clock up running kilometers!

ma heerje, I have no words. I just honestly do not know how you cope with everything (and not drink more! Shock).
Flowers babes. And really sorry about the smear.

alias is that even legal that your boss asks what you have? Jeesus, tell him they suspect the pest. Cheeky fucker.
Here we have two sheets. One for the employer and one for the insurance. No need for work to know what's going on. Unless I have a cold which is obvious, I generally say I don't feel comfortable discussing my private concerns at work.
But I am a bit withdrawn anyway so that is easier, I know.

Sweet I'm torn. My run buddy who was initially going to run and pushed me to go with her has pulled out but my coach gave me the sweetest encouragement that I can do it.
I'm just not sure. Really have a lot to do in the house and wanted to spend tomorrow doing things there.
Will think about it.

Welcome Runner. I always hate hearing about husbands being fed up. Of course I can understand it, but I still find it shitty.
On the other hand, living alone in our situations and drinking unchecked is also bad.
One other reason this bus is so great. I'm never alone at home. Yesterday was hell and on the way home already I was looking forward to a half a bottle glass of wine. But when I got home, I thought of of the babes having a shittier time than me and I did yoga instead. Two cups of tea later the horrors of the day were well past and the WW (Wine Witch) had give up.
Good luck, babes! Flowers

Hey to all other Babes! I'm afraid to go back to the last page because I usually lose my posts then but please don't feel offended that I don't NC all!

Big hugs,

babyjane1 · 17/04/2015 08:33

Morning babes,

Another sunny day in Scottyland!!! By god it makes you think about wine so much more. Lots of friends and neighbours are out in the garden and wine and beer is all around.

So far I'm ok with it, I'm having big problems with my 4 year old's tantrums and tbh I need to be totally on the ball to look after her, it feels like she never sleeps, wants everything she sees and generally doing my head in so right now I'm getting through everything in my life (including my marriage) ODAAT.

Sometimes that's all we can do!!!

Love and hugs to all xxx

dementedma · 17/04/2015 09:21

morning all
welcome hellrunner Day 1 for me here again.
Gorgeous day here to lift the spirits but I hear you baby!
I actually got out for a short walk last night and am going to start my first "run" of the year on Saturday. This will last approximately 2 minutes and then I will throw up.
However, I need exercise dolphins to keep the anus hornbills at bay.

lookingforhope · 17/04/2015 09:44

Hi babes. Just popping in to say I am back from short break with dd. It was wonderful, we both adored the quality time together without grumpy wb/dad and had far too many lovely meals / afternoon teas together,not to mention a chocolate tasting tour! Not had chance to read back yet but will catch up later and post properly. Love to all and much quality holiday chocolate on the dashboard for you, my best friends x

needsomewillpower · 17/04/2015 11:07

Checking in on Day 2.

Isindethickofit · 17/04/2015 12:08

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aliasjoey · 17/04/2015 12:27

isinde ! Where have you been, lovely? How are you?

SweetLathyrus · 17/04/2015 13:20

Isinde! Grin

We missed you.

SweetLathyrus · 17/04/2015 13:20

Hope your break sounds FAB.

SmallFox · 17/04/2015 13:24

Adding some rather melty clotted cream fudge to looking's dashboard offering. We're en route home too. Haven't read back yet but hi all and a big wave to all newbies - you're in the right place.

Such a fab holiday - feeling v weepy to be returning back to normality but so proud of a holiday where I was properly present for the kids. After my mid-week rant about staying AF on holiday, things improved and I am safely arrived at day 107. Phew - really wasn't sure I'd make it. Ocado will be bringing a new truckload of becks blue for me tonight and that should keep me on the straight and narrow!

Will check back and say a proper hi later but for now, a special hug for Ma. You are proper amazing.

dementedma · 17/04/2015 14:42

isindie!!! will you fecking stop disappearing! Glues indie's arse to seat with industrial strength glue - lots off!!!!
hope that sounds just like what you needed.
thanks small coming from someone who has just done an awesome 107 days, that's a great compliment.

SweetLathyrus · 17/04/2015 18:02

Out for our monthly night out with the neighbours. This month it's a Queen tribute band Shock Grin . I've got the car keys, so no wine for me.

dementedma · 17/04/2015 19:18

Sorted things out with distracted chap so thats good!
Day 1 of AF and bored already but it needs to be done.

babyjane1 · 17/04/2015 22:07

Hi lovely babes,

God tonight was close!!! For the first time in a long time I very nearly drank, the reason BOREDOM....

Pure and simple, nice weather and seems like most of the village are enjoying a few drinks. I know it's great to eat well, excercise, be a better mother but it's all a but BLAH, let's be honest, seeing results from my diet will take a long time, 2 stone to go, the more I do for my kids the more they want and dh doesn't notice if I'm done up to the nines or slobbing in stained joggy bottoms with baggy knees.

Obviously I didn't drink and I won't, the stakes for me are way too high but just sometimes it's a whole load of sacrifice for very little gain.

On the upside when I wake up tomorrow I'll be damn glad and proud I resisted and clobbered the wine witch across the head.

Join me and give her a slap.

Big hugs my very dear friends xxx

SweetLathyrus · 18/04/2015 08:12

Morning.

Good stuff, Ma, you will start to feel better for the AF days.

Baby, I know what you mean about the sun, but you are doing so well. The trouble with weight loss and fitness is that we live with ourselves every moment. We don't experience the change because it's so incremental. Why not find some photos from Christmas, or arrange to meet a friend who hasn't seen you for a month or so. I bet the difference is amazing! I thought my weight loss wasn't that much until I put on a pair of trousers yesterday that I haven't worn for two years because I couldn't do them up. Now I can't keep them up!

The night out was a hoot! The least charismatic Freddie Mercury impersonator ever, but a good Queen song is hard to ruin! I stuck with the lime and soda and I'm beginning to get the hang of sober dancing! So, this morning, I'm a bit tired, but I have a clear head, and no resentment at getting up at 6.30 for the animals.

If you've been sitting in the side car, make today a day to climb on board fully, the views are great!