The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Shaking Off The Winter Blues And Getting Out Our Booze Free Summer Shoes!

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Hello, tis me, Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. It's a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers, occasional slurpers, sneaky sippers, we're all a very different bunch but we ALL have the same thing in common.

Alcohol.

We all have a story or two to tell, we have all been through some terrible times, some more than others and we all have our reasons for drinking or even not.

The one true wonderful thing about this Bus is that we don't do judging!! We're all on a even playing field, no matter what has brought us to this thread.

So, if you'd like to talk, then talk. If you want to lurk and see how we work for a while, that's cool too :)

The Bus is never full, there's always is room for YOU.

And, if you'd like to see what started this off, amost good 5 years ago now, have a look at A TRULY AWESOME HEARTFELT THEAD HERE

And our last thread is just here too for those who would like some more history THIS IS WHERE WE'VE JUST BEEN

Hope to see you soon :) xxx

So glad that Puss is home and being good. How long will it take her to recover and does she need any more treatment?

Hi Joey sorry you're having probs sleeping - sounds horrendous - didn't know that the menopause could do that.

Hi April when is the lunch with friends?

Dcs are still poorly and now in bed

Hi Khalisi sorry didn't see your post. Was last night the night with your new fella?

What will you be doing with the old chicken shed?

ruby, I hope the DC are better tomorrow, and they have a good sleep. Lunch was today and, in the end, not a challenge at all. Neither of my friends was drinking. It wasn't even discussed, we just all drank sparkling water. I worried about nothing.

joey, hope you sleep too.

khalisi, that sounds very Good Life!

That's great April another big tick for your achievements.
I'm off to bed to try to catch up on some much needed sleep that I missed on my week away.
Night all

Aw, ds has touched down at his holiday airport. I'm so sad, I tracked his progress on flight tracker. Only cos I know he won't text me to say he arrived safely. Smartphones are wonderful things. Now for a week of entertaining dd as if she really were the only child she feels she is entitled to be treated like Britain's Got Talent and then Glee marathon on Amazon Instant Video was tonight's menu! Country park with the little nieces and nephews tomorrow. Trying really hard not to worry about work .

Sweet - glad puss is home!

April - well done on today's lunch!

Ruby - hope dcs are on the mend tomorrow

And Mouse, Joey, Khalisi (whispers) ... I hope you are all fast asleep and getting some well earned rest

Morning babes,

I'm managing to read and keep up but not posting much, that's not to say I'm not thinking of y'all cos I always am, wishing and willing good things for all of you.

I was thinking last night, am I strange cos I don't like Sat nights? It's the only time I feel hard done by that I cant drink the obligatory bottle of wine (or 3) and can't eat a big fat Indian takeaway (SW on Tues). I'm very very pleased and relieved to be sober, honestly it's amazing but I still feel I'm kinda doing a Benny Hill version of life, tearing around, running away from depression and big grown up feelings, afraid to be on my own and actually think. I feel I'm still bustling through many of the bigger issues rather than perhaps deal with things. This applies to everything from gutting the attic to dealing with my huge visa bill to painting the house and getting dd2 in her own bed, even the ironing pile looks scary. Now we all know the relief that comes with the completion of these tasks BUT still I run and run and run!!! I'm not going to overthink it coz it's the Easter holidays and can't do much other that keep the kids occupied and I reckon there are worse things than running away TO the gym. I feel like now I've decided to tackle my excess weight it should fall off but that's not how it goes, I've a long way to go but no patience whatsoever.

Another week of kids then hopefully I'll make a productive plan to get the house, kids, mind, body, dh and pets all perfect and fabulous!!!

AYE RIGHT

Big hugs my lovelies, thanks for letting me prattle on xxx

Sorry I should have been clear that I don't know for sure it's the menopause - my blood tests came back 'normal' last year - but I'm becoming more convinced of it. Sleeping a bit better, despite being back on the wine - I will be AF today though.

babyj you sound really positive! I know your moods go up and down - is there anyway you can chart them so as to anticipate and cope? Sorry, don't meant to bring you down, I've just noticed that with you it's when you're buzzing that a sudden shift can take you by surprise. xxx

Hi all just back from a marathon yoga session- it was fab, hard but good. Still got cystitis though so will drink lots of water today and hope it will be gone tomorrow (def better than it was). DC are still both poorly with matching temperatures but are on the mend.

Baby I know what you mean about there feeling like there's too much to do. Can you write a list? Can you move your huge visa bill to a 0% credit card then at least your not having interest slapped on it. In terms of running away from scary stuff, I'm good at that! Maybe trying to tackle the depression might help or are you already doing that? I'm reading a book at the moment about borderline personality disorder and a lot of it I can relate to just not as severe but reading it has been therapy for me. Not suggesting you read it just mentioning cos I found that helped me and was wondering whether something similar would be helpful to you?

Thanks joey your sooo right about my highs and lows, the low's catch me by utter surprise every single time, I'm naive not to expect or prepare for them, thanks for advice, I will track my moods over this coming month.

Thanks also to you ruby and well done on the yoga. My diagnosis is borderline bipolar so it's totally tied in with both your comments. Also will try for a 0% card this week.

Feeling really up and down today, of course life is sometimes just like that for all of us . Had my niece last night and she and my dd2 are all sugar or all shite and it's been very stressful trying to keep calm so I guess I need to stop overthinking and just roll with it.

Thanks lovely wise caring babes xx

Just checking in. Sorry not to name check or respond. Am ok. Am breathing.

Hello Babes!

Yes, Ruby-doo, it was the night with the new fella. It sounds serious calling him new fella. I'm adamant ist just some uncomplicated adult fun. He is so good to be around, I must say. I was rather sensitive (a.k.a. bitchy) yesterday and he was so sweet. When he finally had it out of me that I'm on my period and feeling rather miserable, he said 'oh thank god, I thought I'd upset you'. And then proceeded to make a joke. We laughed and that was that.
In comparison with ex-WB, that was almost an orgasm!
I'm using the chicken shed as my storage space right now. Needed to sort it out and just clean everything and put my tools all in one place (they were all over the place!)

So, Builder No. 1 came by again - un-announced today. Told me how he can't forget me. Women like me are so rare. Blah blah blah. I said, you know what, I'm sure your wife is a woman like me. Because if you recognise that I am special, you are the type to marry a special woman.
He said that he'll come back again. I said I'm seeing someone. He said I knew you first and I'll keep trying my luck. OMG. When I asked should I move away he said 'you'll have to leave the world to get away from me'.
FUCK!!!!

good night, Babes!

A special hug for you ma, I wish I could magic things better for you, really I do xxx

baby, my darling.

Day 13 almost done

Sweet glad puss is on the mend, such a relief x

to you all xxx

Delurking to say hang in there ma, things will get better with time.

Evening, tis me Mouse

Ma - you know where to reach me should needs be babe. Don't let this drown you anymore, start taking the YOU back! You're gorgeous. I know...... I know.

Just wanted to pop in, sleep came to my house for a few hours last night in the most delicious form, milk and a sweet biscuit, plus one 2 a night sleeping pill. Does that make sense?

I took one and not two as they say!

In better news, I have won £100 John Lewis voucher on here, just by filling in a survey on the MN Panel.

Lush! Will it be spent on me? No.

BUT!!!!! - This time it IS GOING TO BE ALL FOR ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry not to NC back on you all but I love you and care about you, hoping you're all safe wherever you are this evening.

Does anyone remember LaDame? I miss her..... and others.....

JWN started all this and has moved so far on with her life that to come back here and say hi or start getting close to us again, may risk her sobriety? I do wonder that....

Anyway, thank you all for posting and keeping this thread going, someone will always need somewhere like this place, this Bus, this crazy gathering of parents, singletons, executives, whatever's to keep it alive.

We all drink for a reason, or have drank heavily for a reason or several.....

Anyway, I need to try and get my sleep pattern back into some kind of 'normal'

Good Morning All
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DC back at school today, holidays over, back to reality

Day 14 (2 whole weeks!!) I feel better, less anxious, less grumpy, more patient to name a few improvements.

Friday after work I went to a friends DC's 5th birthday party. I took presents, Cava and a bottle of fizzy water. These 'Do's' are usually a boozy affair, I stuck to drinking my fizzy water. Left at 6pm sober and proud knowing that I wasn't going to feel like shite in the morning

New Manager starts today. lovely bloke who I've met a couple of times. fingers crossed that he'll be a good addition and a good leader. We're in real need of some good leadership, watch this space, my plan is to give him 3 months, which will take me to one year's service and if he's not cracked it, I'll be moving on.

Sweet I hope puss is well on the road to her old self

Hope have a lovely week with DD

Ma I hope you're feeling better lovely

Ruby I hope DC are feeling alot better, it must be lovely being home sweet home x

Khalisi Builder number one sounds like a complete knob with bells on!!!! The other one sounds lovely and good company. Flattering as it is, he really does sound like a potential Wank Badger, who is with another woman - Dick for Brains, twunt Rant over, sorry, but I had to get that off my chest

Baby darling, hang in there my lovely, I am also running away from all sorts of reality stuff at the moment, but the only thing we can do , for sure, is take on day at a time. Life is full of trials and tribulations, ups and downs, AND hell it is sooooooo boring at times. Remember, your DDs have your undivided attention and a sober Mum which beats everything, hands down You should be really proud of yourself, please give yourself a huge pat on the back

Sorry not to Name Call everyone! Have a good day y'all xxx

Morning all.

Very quick because I have an early check up at the vet. Puss is getting very fed up being kept in the guest room, but very happy to have a who.e double bed! She is giving me the biggest purrs when she eats, which is lovely, but I need to keep her away from Pup because of the way they play.

Spanna, big at your description of Khalisi's builder number one, could agree more!

Will be back for a proper catch up later.

Morning babes

Have been away on holiday- and drinking but not to excess. Today will be an af day.

Ds is bouncing round like the crazy monkey he is so I can't NC right now,love to all.

My meditation app has lots of little points to do / keep in mind which help when I'm down or when life has been so crap that I feel run over. one of them is to imagine the grey clouds parting and to 'see' the blue sky above. Well,I sometimes only manage a tiny bit of blue sky for about 30 secs but it does help. Worth giving a go to if anyone is feeling crap today. : )

thanks all. you guys keep me going..
mouse I remember ladame - daft French tart!
And I miss thurso and wry and that bunny-murderer indie

Hello, Babes

Spanna I'm not flattered at all. I feel sick and really worried about him. I could hardly sleep last night. You know I have a Restraining Order against my ex? Seriously, the last thing I need is another crazy fucker in my life!
I told new fella about the visit yesterday. Also because I need someone in rl to know that this man is unwanted and is basically forcing himself into my life.
He was [shocked]
He also calmed my nerves, bless him.

Will be back later, ...

mouse lovely to see you - how's your arm? still cheesy?

ma do you need to vent? Have you killed him? Did you bury the body nice and deep?

babyj I did wonder about bipolar because you reminded me of a friend who tends to go suddenly from high to low - didn't you have bad PND as well? It all leaves you vulnerable to any emotional changes; I guess you need to cultivate a robust lifestyle which can cope with mood swings - but that's not easy with a teenager and a toddler!

khalisi that sounds quite scary. Bet you are glad you didn't get involved with him at the time. Hopefully he will be scared off by builder number 2

Khalisi darling I'm so sorry I hadn't realised how much he was worrying you Glad you've mentioned it to lovely man

Long day at work, no desire to drink Millionaire Match Maker for me, living the high life down here Mindless TV has to be better than drinking

Have a good evening all x