Won't/Can't quit drugs.

[magicgirl79]

Sorry to still be going in but from others threads you will see my H is quite a heavy cannabis smoker. It all has come to a head with the moods and sulking behaviour, we had a huge talk, I told him how he makes me feel, anxious and nervous, I asked him to stop smoking cannabis, he says we can't and won't as he needs it? What now? Sorry just I don't really have r/l people who I can talk with, sorry still whittling on about this.

CadMaryzCremeEggzAreASwizz ~ Thank you for your view on it. I don't personally know anyone else in my situation. I know people who recreationally use drugs but not who actually need drugs. Cannabis is seen as a soft drug but H disappears for 20 - 30 mins at a time with a joint, im actually lonely to drugs!! I think I still love him but will no longer allow my self too, the whole thing is so messed up. And I can not bear the thought of my D thinking its a normal thing to do.

Magic - I think that you are hung up on others seeing cannabis as recreational and soft - and that you think you are over reacting - and cant justify our feelings of despair.

Hi is an addict - he is out of control - in that his addiction/habit impacts negatively on those around him.

It makes no difference if the substance was alcohol, cocaine, crack or heroin - he is absent emotionally from you and his DD when he is stoned and also when he is hung over - so 24/7 - it controls the mood in the house 24/7 as everyone tip toes around.

Please get out for your DD. He wont even notice - any pain he will have will be masked by weed.