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A thread to say something you can't in real life!

381 replies

Sodthisagain · 19/03/2015 22:25

To my not so dear sister
Fuck off to the far side of fuck then fuck off some more! I am not the scheming, money swindling bitch you have insinuated I am today and will no longer going to be your doormat to shout at when you are stressed!!
Oh and don't forget fuck off!

There that's better :-)

OP posts:
gammoneggs · 07/04/2015 13:16

Dh - you lazy,selfish cock lodger. You've not worked for several years now but are always telling me that I should get a better paid job or promotion to pay the bills. When I have suggested that you possibly get even a part time job you won't as it would interfere with your hobbies at evenings and weekends. You have a hobby which you think will be profitable but you've given me just £40 this year towards bills from your meagre 'income'.

You are quite happy spending your days watching tv,gaming or messaging your mates but if I complain about nothing being done around the house you say I'm not right in the head or that I'm menopausal and have lost the plot. I want to split up as I've had enough now and you say if I pay you off you'll go. When I ask how you will support yourself you say you'll get a job yet you won't get one to support me and the dc will you?. Just sod off!

plinkin · 07/04/2015 15:06

Dear work colleague

You are the one who will end up helping me to decide that I want to jack this effing job in. I dislike you immensely and wish you could just, for once, listen to yourself and your selfish, whiney, drama queen ways and grow the fuck up. It's not all about you.

Dear other work colleagues
I'm sorry you will still have to put up with this when I've gone. You are a great bunch and don't deserve this but I'm afraid I'm going to have a breakdown if I don't get out.

cookiemonster100 · 07/04/2015 19:47

DH man up. We have toddlers. So by default we permantly have colds / bugs. We don't have the luxury of lieing in bed all day recovering & not doing your share around the house. I had to do it whilst you worked over Easter. so when I come from work today to find the house a tip, no dinner (at least started), no kids ready for bed, despite your mum having the kids all day I am allowed to be pissed. I do it every day. Yes, even when I work or ill or just can't be arsed.
So when you decide to spend the day off you were going to share with the kids, & then palm them onto your mum, turn the house into a slum & CAN'T EVEN MAKE THE F'ING DINNER I am allowed to be pissed.
Oh yeah & if you think your moaning about being ill is going to stop be going out tomorrow. You are wrong. Man up & stop being a wuss.
Thank you op for this thread. Much love to you all, some really heartbreaking threads on here XX

captainflash · 07/04/2015 19:52

Dear H,
Did I do something wrong? I don't understand what's changed but I know something has. Did it get too close for you? Do you regret saying what you did? Is that what changed things in your head?
You were one of my best friends. We talked so much and you kept me grounded through some tough times. I so very much miss the banter, smiles and cheeky messages. I wish I knew how to get it back to how it was but I don't know where to begin because I don't know why it happened. It makes me so sad. And I can't tell anyone why I'm sad because of who you are. I miss you.

Bonkerz · 07/04/2015 19:54

This may be a rant!!!!!

To my sister: I don't understand why you let your friend (who you hated a year ago) isolate you from all your other friends and slag me off on FB. What's worse is you join in and bitch about me too thinking that I won't see it..... Well your nephew saw it and was gutted. Obviously blood means nothing and as for contacting the alcoholic druggie of a brother who you haven't spoken to for 6 years and inviting himup and using the money I haven outdo do itYES that has hurt me. It's broke my heart. You've shown me no loyalty or respect and you are making me out to be the bad guy. For 6 years I've been the only sibling to give a damn about you. I've supported you and helped you and you stab me in the heart like this. Just waiting for the FB updates of you with that alcoholic drug dealer and his nasty wife. But I also know I'm a mug and when your world falls apart because your sibling and your 'friend' let you down I will be there to pick you up again Hmm

ShumbTucker · 08/04/2015 14:17

To the father of my son.

You had your chance. I see the annoyance pass over your face like a dark cloud when you enter our home and your sons head is so close to his stepfathers that you can't tell where one starts and the other begins. Do you regret not being around much in the past ten years? Not forging a relationship with our kind, intelligent and loving boy? Does the sight of your sons eyes lighting up with love at the sight of my husband bother you? Or is one more job you don't have to do? Do you realise that the man I married lays for hours with your sons head on his chest letting his mindless chatter warm his heart like the rays of the sun? Does your heart not break at the sound of his proud and earnest "I love you to the end of the universe" speech that he gives to both me and his stepfather before he leaves for his 4 hours with you or does the stiff little hug and lack of backward glance when he returns to us, sting even more?

To my DS and my DH

What you have is special. A bond formed not from biological duty. You love each other because you want to. I am both moved and in awe of the love you have for each other. They say that blood thicker than water but seeing you two together makes me certain that it's not true. You appear to be cut from the same cloth, you laugh at the same jokes and speak in a language I sometimes fail to comprehend. I wouldn't be able to guess which one of you is prouder of the other, you are each other's biggest fan club, each other's best friend. I love you both with everything I have but bloody hell, you don't half make me feel like the 3rd wheel sometimes. Grin

jesy · 08/04/2015 16:19

To the dwp

Yes I don't have a job but don't want . To sit around waiting for your call to miss it whilst in the loo, no number to call back either,
I've sat for three hours in my kitchen waiting as that only place got a signal.
I declared the work I did but some one messed up on your . Behalf now your going to take about ten a week off me , that's me finished basically I try my hardest to get work but my family now suffer ,ppl can't retire as they paying my car off most months .
Yes there are days I don't bother as only so much rejection you can take
Looking my job has effected me physically , emotionally , financially and to be treated like a number makes me cry I sat in my car today n cried not only as I aS tired n hungry but way I was treated .
I'd love you to walk in ppl shoes for a bit.

Yes I have a car , fone funded by family but needed to get work

shovetheholly · 08/04/2015 16:21

Shumbtucker I seem to have something in my eye. Flowers

Gileswithachainsaw · 08/04/2015 16:29

to dp

ffs will you go to the Dr. I'm so sick of being kept awake at night because your snoring sounds like a jack hammer. I'm sick to death of hearing your hacking cough day In and day out. It's making me feel sick.

will you stop shouting at computer games the kids hear you as your so fucking loud. If you start a job then please finish it cos I'm. ice. of having to re do it every morning. yes I know you have a physical job but even unemployed you were no fucking better. You can be the nastiest person I know. nd your mother blames me for the lack of birthday cards etc. tell her the bloody truth will you.

if I wanted three children I'd have had three children. I do every other thing around the house few repairs would be nice. I hate it here and I hate you.

Lara2 · 08/04/2015 19:46

DBF when I was 15 - thanks for raping me, I've never told anyone - you have spoilt sex for me my whole life. I always end up feeling used and have managed to push everyone I've ever had a relationship away, except DH. God knows why he's stayed.

DH - you have stayed with me with a pretty sex-starved relationship for years and I do appreciate that. But I don't love you - I haven't for years. It probably started when I told you I was pg with DS2 - all you could do was complain that the timing was shit. We'd talked about it - he was planned!!!!!
It's got worse - you're selfish, you take me for granted, you've put us into debt to prop your fucking business up - I have no money to feed us or pay the bills because it's all paying what you owe. And to make matters worse you now have a dx of a progressive debilitating disease and I so want to just fucking leave you. I don't want to care for you, you wouldn't do the same for me. But I can't leave - what would that make me? How could I live with myself? I'm going to end my life caring for someone I no longer trust, have no respect for or love.

Everyone - you have no idea how in debt we are. I know it's none of your faults, but at the moment I hate you all and resent the hell out of you all. I don't want to hear about your holiday, meal out, great children - just fuck off and leave me alone. I can barely feed us - I don't want to be around you.

DF - I know that you took Dsis on that fabulous long haul holiday because she's had a truly shit time of it and I know that I said I didn't mind - but I do. I'm so jealous - I know that you'll never do anything like that for me.

DM - it's been three years since you died, I still miss you and love you.

DS's - I love you both so, so much - but FFS please stop yelling all the bloody time!!!!!

takemeuptheeiffeltower · 08/04/2015 20:28

Woman sat behind me on bus today, who sniffed loudly every second for the whole half hour journey.
Would it have hurt you to use a tissue? or failing that your sleeve
But that non-stop bloody loud sniffing drove me and the other passengers insane.

Ludoole · 08/04/2015 20:55

To my dp,
We have known since july that our time is limited. We were told 6 months if you didnt have treatment, and up to 5 years with treatment.
Well gorgeous man youve had the main treatment and now we start maintenance treatment.. I cant say words out loud to anyone especially not you, but I watch you go downhill every day. I dont think we will have another year...even though we are making plans for our long term future. You are the strongest person i know but this bloody cancer is stronger than even you.

I love you beyond words. I will always be here for you and i will keep my promise to let you end your days in my arms at home.
I know how much it means to you.
Stay as long as you can my darling.xxx

GreyMare · 08/04/2015 22:49

ludoole Flowers

Dowser · 08/04/2015 23:12

Ludoole...so sad

I so hope it works for you.

RuggerHugger · 08/04/2015 23:39

Dear DH,

You ask what's wrong, well here's what's wrong. I'm sick of the broken promises, the great plans which go nowhere. Your favourite program is only fools & horses, You are like Del Boy, full of shit ideas.

I'm fed up of being the one who makes most of the money in this house, just because you decided years ago that you didn't need to make an effort because I was doing enough for both of us. How pathetic are you.

I'm fed up working long hours, commuting because you are a useless piece of crap & won't push himself. Why do you thing an acceptable alternative to me staying in a job I don't like is the kids going without, why isn't the solution you making more of an effort.

Yes, I'm resentful, I resent working this hard and having nothing to show for it personally, I don't buy designer clothes, we don't do fancy holidays and my wish to send our kids to private school isn't going to happen either is it. I worked so hard for all my qualifications and feel you are the one who has benefited the most. When I think back on all the things you got to do with the lads, while I worked, it sickens me. I'd have loved all those trips to New York.

I hate how you make out to all our friends & family that it's a more equal partnership than it is. Just like you are currently telling people that you have gotten a promotion in work when you haven't, I know you are only saying this because I've gotten one.

If you had a decent job we'd be able to do all these things, this isn't what I signed up for, because you couldn't be arsed my kids & I don't have the life we should have.

You can go on about how much my feeling jealous of other people isn't healthy, you are right it isn't but I wouldn't be feeling like this if you were doing your fair share

You think you are making such a huge contribution to the family finances, you barely cover your share of the finances, it's my money that pays for all thre nice stuff.

Once I've figured out the finances of doing it on my own, you are out of here

CarbeDiem · 09/04/2015 08:21

Ludoole
I'm so sorry Flowers
Bastard Cancer!

SecondMrsAshwell · 09/04/2015 13:22

To V Ex, who was in contact earlier this year.

You disappointed me when you didn’t have the balls to dump me in person and I know you tried to make it up, but it was crap. And I took YEARS to get over you. Years.

But your ability to disappoint has not diminished. I know what the friendly e-mails were about. You want someone to take care of you. You wanted someone who would cook for you…. And, I presume, clean, wash and iron. I hope I’m wrong, but I don’t think I am. I always dreamed you’d come back to me….. But because it didn’t work with her, because you missed me, because you realise now that we would have been right together. But when I mentioned a male friend (not husband, not boyfriend, not lover, but friend), the shutters went up, not a word since. I believe that you were prodding to see if I am single and, I suspect that if you had believed I am, you would try to get back into my life. What did you think would happen? How long did you think that would last? I don’t do housework for myself, what makes me think I’d do it for you? Did you truly consider dumping your fiancée to court me? If I am right and you did consider leaving her just so you could get yourself a housekeeper with benefits, then I am more disappointed with you than I ever thought possible. You are not the man I once loved.

To the aforementioned male friend. Can we go to bed, pleeeeease? You're driving me mad.

SunshineBossaNova · 09/04/2015 14:03

Dear Husband

Congratulations on achieving a personal best of 14 pints of beer in one night. I admire your dedication to something that is ruining your life and has killed our marriage.

I always told you your drinking would split us up. I've done the ultimatums and all the other nonsense. You've made a number of half-arsed attempts to give up or moderate. And I'm done.

I am sad it has come to this. You're not a bad man. But I can't watch you kill yourself any more.

I no longer nag, shout or cry about your drinking because I'm leaving you. I'm not smiling because of the antidepressants - but because I have a plan. A life without you.

It's taken me 3 years to make my mind up, and there's no going back. You may have wondered why I'm so keen to get a job when I graduate. Well, I'll need to pay for a solicitor and a place to live.

It'll be hard, but I'm looking forward to it. I suspect you'll deal with it the way you deal with everything else: by getting battered. I hope you get sober one day.

ThenThereWereEight · 09/04/2015 17:57

No, actually, you really are that bad and your email this morning confirms that.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 09/04/2015 21:07

Dad. You can't always be the most important person in my life!
i didn't ask to be born. It's not my duty to be at your neck and call. You've had your life. You've made your choices. my nan your mum was the loveliest lady ever but you treated her like dirty all because of a mistake she made. May be you deserve a taste of your own Medicine.
You also treated my lovely mum like dirt as well, you may think I've forgotten but oh no.
Life will be easier when you're gone.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 09/04/2015 21:09

Brilliant thread op. It's such s relief to be able to speAk anonymously and not be judged

WingsofNylon · 09/04/2015 22:39

Thinking about dying comforts me like a smooth pebble kept in a coat pocket might.
The idea is a little trinket I carry around with me and, like it or not, it calms me to have it as an option.

To people ar work. No, I don't hate children I have just experienced first habd hiw no amount of love can protect a child from a rapist and no amount of love will ever remove the scar from that wound. I won't take that risk. I can't.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 09/04/2015 23:37

To those who bullied me.
Called me an ugly cunt.
"Don't cha wish your girlfriends were hot like me"

Oh and very ex friend... Who can't handle pregnant women now.

Rebecca1608 · 10/04/2015 13:09

Dear OH, I'm desperate to get our relationship back on track but finding it hard to leave the past in the past as we've not actually spoken about how you made me feel when I announced I was pregnant. I went through 2 scares and my dad had a really bad stroke you weren't there for me much as it was too "overwhelming" for you although we're now living together and you try and do things to help me out and are there for me more. You weren't there when I needed you most. I love you but resent you a bit and feel distant when we sit in silence at home I sometimes go upstairs just to have a little cry & if we can't get our relationship back on track. I feel we'll just be two people bringing up children together.

Slumberparty · 10/04/2015 13:39

To my DF. I only see you or speak to you out of a sense of duty. You are difficult to talk to and I don't enjoy your company. I don't know why I feel duty-bound to do it because you were absent for most of my childhood. You succeed in making me feel guilty because of how lonely you are, but it's all your own doing and you don't do anything to better your situation. Your shitty life now is a direct result of your greedy and selfish past. I wish I had the courage to tell you to fuck off and not have anything to do with you anymore.