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HOBBITS BAR - still finding it hard to move on ......(part 3)

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greenberet · 15/02/2015 12:08

here we go ladies & drifting dogs welcome too of the harvey kind!

grab your drinks - Brew, Wine and izzietinis dependant on time of day & how we are feeling

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Part two

anyone welcome, new, old, lurkers we share with you all.
no requirements re posting as & when, one offs, rants, extreme rants, blubbing we dont mind, we've done it all .

we like songs, we like pics, we like humour, we like the words "twunts" and "fuckwittery" & we send each other Flowers often!

Our motto KOKO and our theme tune

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greenberet · 18/02/2015 22:41

if only he knew the discussion I have had today and the response -

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Izzie595 · 18/02/2015 22:41

Why I meant to reply this morning. Absolutely, you will never be replaced as their mother. You are a wonderful mum.

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greenberet · 18/02/2015 22:45

i am bored of this game - i want to play with some grown ups - ive dealt with the toddler tantrums - why am I having to deal with it all over again drifting where are you - need some sensible interaction with a grown up man!

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greenberet · 18/02/2015 22:47

obviously he thinks dd has the same emotional retardation that he suffers from

izzie got any jokes!

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Izzie595 · 18/02/2015 22:50

Hobbit/iwas. I understand why iwas wants to stay where she is for now. I was thinking about how OW had talked about moving. Well, I reckon DS may put pressure on DH to move at some stage of he's of the same opinion as others, ie that it's too close for you. Even if it were a bit further, say a five minute walk, that would give some distance. At least you would only see him at work then

Izzie595 · 18/02/2015 22:54

Jokes? I'm thinking......

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greenberet · 18/02/2015 22:54

next year my DD doing psychology - boy are we going to have some interesting discussions - adults only though no fuckwits allowed - wonder if he'll keep asking her "did your mum tell you to say that"

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greenberet · 18/02/2015 22:55

hows the painting izzie

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greenberet · 18/02/2015 22:59

funny feeling this "bored" - what does this mean - free headspace? - has it all just finally dropped into place

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greenberet · 18/02/2015 23:02

bored of talking about DH- bored of thinking about him - bored of dealing with pathetic behaviour -

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Izzie595 · 18/02/2015 23:03

I have a name for the pair of twunts in/ out of my life. Fruit and nut. As in "everyone's a fruit and nut case" advert.

The other thing I was thinking about tonight was about his stupid haircut, since he no longer goes to the same hairdresser. I was thinking of whether I could ask him "you had a haircut?" And keep a straight face. Haha no chance. Or I could just look quizzically up beyond his eyes.....nah, still couldn't keep a straight face. In my old life there was a really awful manager who had a bobby Charlton wig, remember the comb over. He was an absolute cunt. A real little man thinking he was a hotshot. Anyway, one of the young girls told her dad how she felt intimidated by his attitude when she had to go see him in his office. So her dad said she should keep focussing in his bald spot. And she did. And she said within a short time he started looking uncomfortable and started touching his head. He was sooo hated, we even laughed when his dog got run over.......we used to get a staff magazine, and years later I always used to check the obituaries so I could celebrate his death. Ooh I still hate the bastard

Izzie595 · 18/02/2015 23:04

Painting going well. Although I sliced my index finger today on something paint related. I hope you appreciate the pain I'm going through to talk to you, mate Grin

Izzie595 · 18/02/2015 23:08

Bobby Charlton wig.

HOBBITS BAR - still finding it hard to move on ......(part 3)
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greenberet · 18/02/2015 23:08

apparently one of the tell tale signs of abusive personalities is never doing what they say they will - all i want to say here is "well who knew"

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greenberet · 18/02/2015 23:13

Yay another advert Grin

& bald spot Grin

& oh hairdresser - this is interesting though - same hairdresser been cutting hair for 20+ years & he has never said a word - whats that all about

actually i know - you dont talk to servants - goes with thinking entitled - twunt!

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Izzie595 · 18/02/2015 23:16

Q: Why do men whistle when they're sitting on the toilet? A: Because it helps them remember which end they need to wipe.

Haha , men jokes aplenty here

source: www.jokes4us.com/dirtyjokes/menjokes.html

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greenberet · 18/02/2015 23:17

ive been told to go to bed - by kids!

best do as I'm told - i'll listen to them - they got my best interests at heart too!

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greenberet · 18/02/2015 23:18
Grin
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greenberet · 18/02/2015 23:21

three words to ruin a man's ego?

answer in the morning! Grin

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Izzie595 · 18/02/2015 23:21

Oh it is late! Me too xx

Izzie595 · 18/02/2015 23:33

A good day's work today and a good sport tonight having a text chat with the ex. Anything to mess with Nutty Nora's peace of mind. Yes Batty Dtawers, it's payback time......ooh wonder if the boys in blue will be making a call about me trespassing on her airwaves. She's that loopy. She likes making complaint calls, anonymous calls, silent calls........

Hobbitwife001 · 19/02/2015 00:27

I've got three Green; IS IT IN? Ha ha, that'll get 'em every time Grin

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greenberet · 19/02/2015 08:33

yay hobbit - that made me chuckle last night

I have just been looking through my bookshelf for a book I used to have "toddler taming" - i thought it may be useful in my current situation as I have just emailed DH explaining to him why it is not appropriate for him to ask DD to raid my food supplies -ie manipulation, abusing his parental advantage and overstepping my boundaries.

couldn't find it but did find "Why men lie & women cry" - didnt even know i had it, dont know why I had it & if ive read it - but looks interesting!

just read that when an adult refuses to discuss anything further - what they are actually doing is going into a "sulk" - because they haven't got their own way and are incapable of putting forward a reasonable objection - izzie you know that point when you realized you'd married the father! bingo!

and yes I can guarantee the response is thank god I escaped the MIL - but there is a part to the story that is not known - totally changed my perspective of my DM - and another lightbulb moment - i have the same strength she had!

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Izzie595 · 19/02/2015 10:08

Morning Green

There is one thing to remember when emailing/texting men. I read that they can only take on one point; the rest will be lost on them. So a long communication will be lost on them.

That book why men lie, and also men are from Mars women are from Venus, give quite good info about the different ways they think. Mind you, I'm now beyond analysing too much. I've spent too much time in the past trying to get inside his head, living my life one step behind him, and it being all about him. The dark years. Now I'm making it all about me. Thoughts will pop into my head, of course, but if don't go looking for answers anymore. I do respect though that you need to do this. I've done a lot of that already, so maybe I've just reached a point at the moment. I know though that I will return to analysing at some stage. I need for my own sake to "write" my own version of what happened to my marriage. Maybe I'm just blocking it all now, and it will come into focus again when things move on financially. For now I'm just in my "me'" bubble. I can only add that, considering I'm someone who normally faces things head on, it must be soooo traumatic that I'm blocking it out.

Random thoughts there

So......the answer to three little words??

Izzie595 · 19/02/2015 10:10

Apologies re lack of punctuation from a grammar and spelling snob. Sometimes one cannot be bothered. Or maybe I'm just trendy Grin