Still finding it hard to move on......

[Hobbitwife001]

Hello everyone, this is a continuation of my previous thread, so a big welcome to everyone who participated on that one, and hello to anyone new who would like to join in this one.

A little recap of my story, my husband of 27 years left four months ago for another woman that I considered a friend. We live in a small village, and he has moved in with her and her son around the corner from the family home.

I have two sons at home with me, they are 23 and 19, the youngest has Asperger's syndrome and dyspraxia.

I am having counselling to help me get over the massive shock of his betrayal, for months I couldn't sleep or eat very much and started to suffer panic attacks and anxiety.

At the moment I am at the nisi stage of our divorce, I have petitioned for unreasonable behaviour. I am now trying to get the best settlement I can before I apply for the absolute. Needless to say, he is trying not to provide any provision for my youngest son, and has put forward a 50/50 proposal for division of the assets.

So, let's carry on ladies shall we?

Iwas that is a brilliant idea! Yours made me laugh!

Psst, drifting is back, how do I remove those pics?

mmm! i actually like Tom Cruise - except that he needs to wear heels!

How about David Beckham? As long as he doesn't talk.....

I'm actually struggling to think of anyone I fancy, sad cow!

Hello Drifting Izzie looks even worse than the pictures Pleased your dog is okay, sounds like you have had a good weekend. You sound quite positive which is lovely to read. Have a good sleep.

Izzie those picture which are such a good likeness of you will be there forever!!

Jenson Button swoon

Izzie, those picture which are such a good likeness of you will be there forever!!

Oh gutted.....

John Thaw as Reagan whoarh

Sean Bean, but with short hair mmmm

Prince Harry....I think that makes me a paedo.....

Robbie Williams....barking but all the same....

Stop dreaming you guys ladies will have nightmares about the Sweeney with Regan and co ! Good to see we're all having banter ladies. Keeps us sane .

Dog is asleep on sofa just come up to bed and hoping for some zzz's.
We are getting there , I really mean it , I just hope we can all keep together until the end and we all can talk about the journey and hope we look back with indifference if that is the right word ? Where it doesn't upset us ? I really hope so .

Izzie - just so you know , you don't have to post piccies , you sound lovely anyway .

Good night everyone sleep well you all , back soon .

Right, on that note, I need to go have a bath so I'm not skanky for tomorrow. Ooh reminds me, that geezer Amy Winehouse RIP was with, Reg. Defo not the tosspot she married

Izzie - just so you know , you don't have to post piccies , you sound lovely anyway

Ha!

We will Drifting. This is a huge event in our lives, and there will always be a bond between those of us sharing the journey. As you say, we have shared a lot of ourselves, bared our souls. Sleep well

Gutted! I think Izzie won round one! I turn me back for five minutes to watch some Scottish hotness, ( and rugby) and in she swoops with pictures and her fancy schmancy English ways and steals Drifting from under me nose.
Pah!

You ok WWK? Been quiet today, working on your writing, or still trying to put your desk together:)

Evening all, just having a flick through thread and note there has been some comments about harassment. I am the authority on this one...so thought I'd share. My STBXH makes continuous and repeated complaints of harassment and visits various police stations in various locations to do so. I have had numerous police visits to my home and indeed have also been interviewed under caution. That was because I completely lost my temper and called him a succinct profanity starting with the letter "C" and ending in the letter "T". He claimed it caused him, the OW and indeed her 8 year old son psychological distress and they couldn't sleep they must have shown 8 year old child the text clearly, yawn. I have been exonerated every time. He is now claiming harassment as I am a self-repping litigant dealing with ancillary relief proceedings, hence I have to "harass" him quite a lot ask him why he has spent around £30K on the OW and left us with nothing. I have been told this is "lawful harassment" and he can fuck off. Just so we're clear. So my advice is, as much as you'd like to use to C word, call him a plonker instead .

Can't we call them complete cunts on here Mrsc?
This is anonymous, don't take that away , I wouldn't in texts< well only the once> or emails, because he would have record of that.
I am so sorry that you have had to deal with such shit, they are both evil specimens, but you are getting the better of them now. X

Harrassment I will post tomorrow about that. Prof that the police can tell the difference between harrassment and an unhinged woman...the unhinged woman NOT being me!

Oh Hobbit you can call them what you want on here! I also did it "only once". However my husband's behaviour has now lead to the police doing a a MARAC referral to include all the children in this situation. They have started to see that he is using agencies as a means to bully me emotionally and psychologically, it is domestic abuse. They have even arranged for my locks to be changed. My husband does not realise at all the seriousness of this situation. It is a bloody mess and I am so drained with it all. How two people could be so inherently evil is beyond me. I hope her dead husband haunts the pair of them....

Good God Mrs C. But I'm glad they are on to the bastard

How was gallivanting, Hobbit? I am back from t'pub where I have been mingling with male species...

That Izzie is a right tart, first Iwas' husband, now drifting ...honestly, my pearls are being clutched, my judging underwear hoiked, and my long nose peered down.

I like Iwas' suggestion of things we liked (I am not using the L word) and loathed about the ex-spouses to be. Unfortunately, I will fill the rest of this thread if I started on that. I would just be hours of 'and that, and that, and THAT'. It's a wonder I married the fuckwit...but I did.

Oh, well. Monday tomorrow - that means the solicitors can carry on having their ding-dong.

Anyway, as I'm "Mother" I have elected myself to complete the weekly 'reward chart' on all the divorcees according to how well they meet the challenge of the week.

Last week's challenge:

To survive it: Yep, almost all present and correct. Well, Izzie gets half marks.

Humour Intact: Yep - all mighty fine there.
Navel-Gazing: Yep, all done sufficient amounts of that.

Swearing: Getting there. A few of you need to work on improving those potty mouths.
Washing Up (Optional). Yep, most of us have under performing housework skills - am delighted.

This week's challenge it to survive it and have one moment when you 'thrive' for whatever reason. One moment when you say out-loud 'Meh' about something. You do one thing you've never done before (but a good thing - even if it is try an Izzietini ) and you say something nice about yourself. And learn one new IT skill (Mine is typing - but Izzie you can work out how to remove those pics! he he he).

Sleep well all. Lets hope we make a few strides this week.

Half marks?

Could you switch some of my swearing score over?

I'm afraid MrsC is the expert on 'harassment' it is through her that I know STBXH's claims that he's being 'harassed' by NC me, is nothing to worry about. Her STBXH and 'thing' (she's not someone to call a woman) are hideous creatures. KOKO MrsC.

I'm here Hobbit. My desk work of installed structural modern art remains unused as there was so much fuckwittery last week that I lost the ability to concentrate. I am back at work tomorrow, having restored the levels of gin my system needs to function.

But you have minus points there, Izzie, you barely swear!