Still finding it hard to move on......

[Hobbitwife001]

Hello everyone, this is a continuation of my previous thread, so a big welcome to everyone who participated on that one, and hello to anyone new who would like to join in this one.

A little recap of my story, my husband of 27 years left four months ago for another woman that I considered a friend. We live in a small village, and he has moved in with her and her son around the corner from the family home.

I have two sons at home with me, they are 23 and 19, the youngest has Asperger's syndrome and dyspraxia.

I am having counselling to help me get over the massive shock of his betrayal, for months I couldn't sleep or eat very much and started to suffer panic attacks and anxiety.

At the moment I am at the nisi stage of our divorce, I have petitioned for unreasonable behaviour. I am now trying to get the best settlement I can before I apply for the absolute. Needless to say, he is trying not to provide any provision for my youngest son, and has put forward a 50/50 proposal for division of the assets.

So, let's carry on ladies shall we?

"f88K" izzie sorry - its a bugger isnt it! - snap!

Ah Green, do you want a shag? No, not with me, silly! See upthread some friend I am

But back to the rest, no problem, my love, we all have to grieve. You ok now? Xx

Lol izzie DD wondering what Im laughing at again!

ive just been going through my "file" & doing a bit of reading - when you have written everything down & read it all back in one go it hits you - there is no getting away from what has been going on - no wonder the SHL remain so calm - each isolated incident definitely a nutter- put it altogether completely different story!

Haha yeah I wouldn't mind but I've given iwas loads of support from her first thread, different name. Charming!!

I was sitting here today looking at the desree video and doing the hand actions to it. Then went on to my "never can say goodbye" video posted last week and did the same. And my eldest was in the same room and he didn't bat an eyelid. WTF!!!

Absolutely Green. As a friend said to me, my texts are reactions to his behaviour. Not harassment. He doesn't like them because they tell the unvarnished truth

Hello Green. Everything together, all of the shit together, I think that's a bit too difficult to go through in one day. Hope you are okay.

I was hoping to get round to PMs but Izzie keeps making me laugh distracting me by criticising my sexy husband!

Izzie yes you were lovely to me, so I might reconsider and declare mix the winner. Not definite yet mind!

Well iwas, it's time for a song about him. Nice one though, one of my favourites. Any excuse to get a song in

www.youtube.com/watch?v=UpFotOi3hDs

here's one for mine!

and what's with these flashbacks - had another interpretation of events today - its like my brain is uploading all the stuff i was suspicious of at the time but didn't quite get the message - now its coming through clear as day!

Just catching up with last night's thread - Izzie I see you decided to watch TV instead of seeing my husband I might have to change the winner then!!

Paddling sorry to read your experience. It seems to be the case on here a lot that they make the mess and we have try to clean it all up. I too find it very hard to think that my husband doesn't care about me, he says he does but he acts like he doesn't. You and your children are still a family, yes it might be different from the one you are used to, but it doesn't make it less of one. You have not failed, he has.

Hobbit reference no 6 on your list we need a link to oldgrandmama's video on WWKs thread. Over to you Izzie with your new found skills...

Thank you Hobbit for the thread and to all of you for making it what it is. God that sounds like an Oscar speech pass the sickbag What I was trying to say is that sometimes it's a bit of release from the seriousness and stress of it all to come on here and be stupid have a giggle.

I've been posting since September and it has been a huge help. I had lurked for a while before that but was too lazy to register and actually post

Ah Izzie I forgot, the smoking, that might let you off the hook...

And this song is for my ex.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=YNSxNsr4wmA

Smoking huh....

OW has seen a picture of me. Clearly she's nothing special because it worried her. She is chubby, dresses in an old fashioned way and is mentally unstable. When she met my ex we were separated and I was seeing a considerably younger man. Ha!

Especially for my husband:

Lyrics below:

Death On Two Legs (Dedicated to... iwas husband ) - Queen

You suck my blood like a leech
You break the law and you preach
Screw my brain till it hurts
You've taken all my money
And you want more
Misguided old mule with your pig headed rules
With your narrow minded cronies
Who are fools of the first division
Death on two legs
You're tearing me apart
Death on two legs
You've never had a heart of your own
Kill joy bad guy big talking small fry
You're just an old barrow boy
Have you found a new toy to replace me?
Can you face me?
But now you can kiss my ass goodbye
Feel good are you satisfied?
Do you feel like suicide?
(I think you should)
Is your conscience all right
Does it plague you at night?
Do you feel good feel good?

You talk like a big business tycoon
You're just a hot air balloon
So no one gives you a damn
You're just an overgrown schoolboy
Let me tan your hide
A dog with disease
You're the king of the 'sleaze'
Put your money where your mouth is
Mister know-all
Was the fin on your back
Part of the deal? (Shark)
Death on two legs
You're tearing me apart
Death on two legs
You've never had a heart (you never did) of your own
(Right from the start)
Insane you should be put inside
You're a sewer rat decaying in a cesspool of pride
Should be made unemployed
Then make yourself null and void
Make me feel good I feel good

Younger men.....nah, don't bother.

Very good Izzie and Green.

Is that last photo a good likeness Izzie??!!

And here's one for the unstable bitch

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Od6hY_50Dh0

When the outside temperature rises
And the meaning is oh so clear
One thousand and one yellow daffodils
Begin to dance in front of you - oh dear
Are they trying to tell you something?
You're missing that one final screw
You're simply not in the pink my dear
To be honest you haven't got a clue
I'm going slightly mad
I'm going slightly mad
It finally happened - happened
It finally happened - ooh oh
It finally happened - I'm slightly mad
Oh dear!
I'm one card short of a full deck
I'm not quite the shilling
One wave short of a shipwreck
I'm not at my usual top billing
I'm coming down with a fever
I'm really out to sea
This kettle is boiling over
I think I'm a banana tree
Oh dear, I'm going slightly mad
I'm going slightly mad
It finally happened, happened
It finally happened uh huh
It finally happened I'm slightly mad - oh dear!
I'm knitting with only one needle
Unravelling fast its true
I'm driving only three wheels these days
But my dear how about you?
I'm going slightly mad
I'm going slightly mad
It finally happened
It finally happened oh yes
It finally happened
I'm slightly mad!
Just very slightly mad!
And there you have it!

Shame it worried OW Izzie! He's got a corker there hasn't he?! I wouldn't bother with older men neither Izzie!

Is that last photo a good likeness Izzie??!!

If it gets me off the hook.....don't believe it Drifting

Hi everyone .... you have all made my evening ... such fun even when we're having a shit time you all can still find the energy to have a giggle. Dog to vet Saturday. Gardening done. Lunch . Long dog walks. Pub last night enjoyed it first time out since she left really. I felt quite odd really in that I felt for the first time stronger , yes I was single but didn't feel that bad really. Anyway it was fun .

Today it has been awesome weather so pretty much the same . Been outside walking dog , cycling ( not lycra just a casual cyclist enjoying the sun ) .

However you know when I log into MN I just honestly feel like we're such friends - so strange to think never seen any of you lovely lot and yet , you know my journey from day one really , such a find MN is .

I think its certainly a help when I am on my own in the evenings , but having such good RL support I am quite happy to spend some time on own with dog end of day . I love the photos . I will try and post something soon that will make you all swoon / gag / laugh / shriek / faint .

I have just made a milky drink now , hoping to sleep well , so to be certain taking some piriton tonight . I hope we all get some good sleep and we all have a good week .... I will read daily and try and post too . Keep well everyone and you are all making it easier for me , will always be grateful for you allowing me into the club . xx.

Think Tom Cruise / Brad Pitt for now.

I wouldn't bother with older men neither Izzie!

Funny because I've always had a thing about older men. Until I've got to my age. And now that would make them ancient......

Drifting darling!! Haven't read post yet ......

I've thought of a good idea I think Ex's good and bad points. Hopefully this will help us see how much better off we are.

Good points:

kind, lovely, thoughtful, decent, sound morals, caring sorry I thought he was, think I was wrong
funny particularly when he looked in the mirror
Good company when he wasn't lying
Attentive in bed - he can have that one shame it was in everyone else's bed too
Confident
Gift of the gab (think that might now be a bad point)

Bad points:

Liar
Cheat
Insensitive
Selfish
Opinionated
Cocky (I did used to like it)
Quick tempered
Negative
Likes complaining
I'll be kind and not include looks
Likes Roy Chubby Brown

Tom Cruise.....weirdo
Brad Pitt....hooked up with a weirdo

Lights off.

I will come up with some better suggestions.....