So upset about something that's happened to me today.

[tallymo]

My son is in year 1 at school. Within weeks of him starting reception year I'd somehow managed to piss off another mum from his class for reasons unbeknown to me. I tried a couple of times to approach her and try to sort things out but was told to "fuck off".

If she doesn't like me then that's fair enough I don't really care, but she will not let things lie, and regularly talks about me loudly at school collection, pulls faces at me, and bad mouths me at any opportunity.

This afternoon I took my DS to a birthday party, and halfway through the party this other mum walked past me, stopped next to me, deliberately sent me flying, pulled a face at some other mums, who all just laughed, and walked off.

I was mortified, had to fight back tears, and took DS home as soon as possible.

The mums that laughed were all mums that I thought I got on well with, but they clearly don't like me much. After it had happened they were all chattering away to her like she was their best friend in the world. None of them asked if I was ok.

I feel so upset. I'm angry at myself for not saying anything but I didn't think it would do any good for me to start arguing at a kids' party.

Did she push you??

She assaulted you?

She sort of walked to me, stopped, and then jolted me with her shoulder and side really hard and unexpectedly. She is quite a tall, heavy lady and I'm only small so I think that's why she was able to push me so much.

I'm really disappointed in the others who seemed to think it was so funny. I've never been anything but nice and polite to them all.

She actually walked up to you and pushed you over on purpose?

You should have called the police immediately. She assaulted you.

Really?

Ok so she did it on purpose but in such a way that it would be difficult to prove it was a deliberate assault and not an accidental bump.

I don't think the police would do anything though would they as the only other witnesses were these mums and I doubt they'd be willing to say anything to the police. It'd be my word against hers.

How horrible, they all sound revolting. Hard to avoid them though if they've all got kids in same year

Did she assault you? I'd report her to the police.

What a nasty piece of work, can you give us a bit of backstory as to why she hates you!?

You might have to be very brave and ask her what the problem is.

I don't know why she hates me.

She chatted to me on the first few days of school and then suddenly just decided that she hated me and started being unpleasant.

I avoid her as much as possible but unfortunately our kids are in the same class. My son says her son has said he isn't allowed to play with him though.

the others might have been embarrassed. you did the right thing by saying nothing. you come across as dignified and nice whereas she comes across as a vile childish thug. maybe have a chat with one of the other mums, put your side of the story

I have tried, Countess but she told me to fuck off both times I tried.

I think id try another school. Their kids are likely to have the same value as their parents.

What on earth?!

I can't stand these cliques - and as for those that were laughing, it beggars belief!!

Stand tall, she will get bored. Those that were laughing do not deserve your friendship, you're better off without them.

I would be inclined to calmly talk to the bully and tell her to stop or you will have no choice but to take it further.

Report it OP. Seriously, if she gets away with it once whats to stop her doing it again

Okay, just read update. She tells you to f**k off!! Nice!

Can you speak to the Head? I know they will probably say that it's a personal matter but this vile woman is swearing like a banshee on school grounds in front of the children. It also may filter into the classroom if your DCs are in the same class.

She is a nasty bully, what a shit role model for her kids! Talk to your ds teacher and head. Chin up and ignore, she ain't worth it!.

I'd also suggest reporting this bizarre behaviour to the head teacher. They tend to take a dim view of aggression or bullying whether it's from children or adults. If the shoulder barging is repeated, report it to the police. Otherwise carry on as normal.....

That is dreadful. You must be heartbroken. I think you must move school. Forget worrying of your DS will settle into somewhere new. He will and you don't deserve to be scared for your safety around this person. She'll never change so move away from her.

What completely vile behaviour. There must be a reason she is picking on you. Is there a difference of race / culture / religion? ie is she racist?