So upset about something that's happened to me today.

[tallymo]

My son is in year 1 at school. Within weeks of him starting reception year I'd somehow managed to piss off another mum from his class for reasons unbeknown to me. I tried a couple of times to approach her and try to sort things out but was told to "fuck off".

If she doesn't like me then that's fair enough I don't really care, but she will not let things lie, and regularly talks about me loudly at school collection, pulls faces at me, and bad mouths me at any opportunity.

This afternoon I took my DS to a birthday party, and halfway through the party this other mum walked past me, stopped next to me, deliberately sent me flying, pulled a face at some other mums, who all just laughed, and walked off.

I was mortified, had to fight back tears, and took DS home as soon as possible.

The mums that laughed were all mums that I thought I got on well with, but they clearly don't like me much. After it had happened they were all chattering away to her like she was their best friend in the world. None of them asked if I was ok.

I feel so upset. I'm angry at myself for not saying anything but I didn't think it would do any good for me to start arguing at a kids' party.

I think Norway has had a few well it is Saturday...

If you're sincere in your posts NorwaySpruce you're definitely odd, or at least unaware of how normal human beings interact.

Yes Norway, you are odd and lacking in empathy. Bullies exist in all age groups. You are lucky that you haven't had to deal with something like this. Perhaps you need to consider how you come across if you think something like this is funny?

I would ignore her and give her a very wide berth. I also wouldn't discuss it with other people and would rise above it. It always pays off in the long run.

If the problem persists, I would consider moving your DS to another school.

Norway if you have not encountered people being horrible you are very lucky. I am very lucky that where I live now the people are mostly lovely but some of those kids at school can be awful. They do not all grow up and grow out of it. Some of them grow up into horrible adults!

there are sometimes reasons for this horrible behaviour. People's own insecurities etc. When I was a lot younger and thinner I worked for a boss who was obviously very uncomfortable with people younger, thinner and better educated than her. She chose to be friends with people that made her feel good and was rude to other people.

OP can you go for a coffee with one of the other women you thought you got on with? You need to get to the bottom of this.

Without casting aspertions the girlfriend of an old boyfriend of mine, took it into her head I had it in for her. He rang me to tell me to back off, that is apparently "looked at her like shit" and shoved her and "nearly put her on her arse."
Except I was in Austrailia at the time, had been there 3 months and stayed for another 5. The girl she'd seen was a cousin of mine who had no fucking idea who she was.

She's acting more like a child than the children! Who acts like that?!? Bizarre.

We have a mum at school who behaves like this. She spoke to me normally in Reception, then started to blank me at the end of Year 1.

No idea why - I'm pretty easy going, don't gossip, get on with everyone etc. I did ask her outright on a couple of occasions, but she blanked me.

She has pushed my dc over. Thrown his coat into a puddle. Walked across me as if she hasn't seen me, and knocked me flying.

I understand that she has numerous issues with other parents in various classes, so she is clearly a very unhappy person.

To be honest, I just ignore her. I checked that there was no problem in class - worth talking to the Head to make sure. We're year 6 now, so she must be knackered with all the hatred

She sounds exactly like one of the "mums incubator" at my son's school. You need to report her, she assaulted you. She's dirt, just like above "drop my draws and fake a baby" is her nick name.

Don't get dragged down x

I think Norway is stating she suspects the OP is making it up.

It does sound bizarre but there are some pretty weird people out there so I can believe it.

I agree Amy and that's how I read her posts too but that's what the report option is for. OP hasn't been back for a while.

I have a mum at my girls school who is really unpleasant to me and has banned her girl playing with mine even though they were best friends. turns out she is a very jealous woman and I was at first upset but now I give her none of my time or head space. I don't see her very often though as you obviously do with your unpleasant mum.

I say move schools. honestly. your d's will maybe not immediately be on board but I think it is the best decision all round. you must dread seeing her. as for all these other mums who you thought were your friends be polite but flinty from now on. They are not your friend. move to another school and make real friends.

sorry you are going through this is sounds horrendous

sunnyfrostyday er, what? She pushed your child over?! If she did that to one of mine, she'd not do it again!

Norway i totally agree with you. I cannot believe someone would behave this way, let alone a whole group of other women sitting and laughing at this happening.

OP hope you are feeling better.

So report it to MN! Jeez, has the "please dont troll hunt" message not got through yet?

Just twat her one if she tries anything like that again. And say to your dc 'that's how you deal with bullies'.

No, OP, you have my sympathies. Avoid her, call her out if you're confident enough, or chat to the school Head.

Norway our school has seen much worse than this, for the victims (and these were parents who were bullied) were left feeling incredibly vulnerable. Ordinary people do behave like that sometimes. I think a bully distorts the dynamic so ordinary people behave badly- this isn't news plenty of psychology tests produce just this kind of result.

I have posted this before but when DS was in primary there was a full on fist fight started similarly to this, except that both the women involved were bullies (I had been at school at the same as both of them and they were rivals then too, and were vile to everyone else), so when one allegedly tripped the other it ended in carnage, police called, the works. That was one of many reasons that I didnt send my other DC to that school, thankfully DS was in his last year. It made the local paper!

I think a bully distorts the dynamic so ordinary people behave badly- this isn't news plenty of psychology tests produce just this kind of result.

I would assume that people who laugh along do it because its a safe thing to do. Be the bullys friend and she wont turn on you. Very short sighted though because bullies will turn on anyone for any reason, being in their gang wont save you.

I'm not afraid of confrontation at all but given that the op's DS is so young I honestly believe the best option is to move on. It's very unlikely the school would want to get involved in this type of situation.

OP, I had a similar situation. I did speak with the head, not because I can't defend myself (I can, just as I'm sure you can) but because I felt the behaviour of these people (a couple), was inappropriate conduct, in front of children. I did point out that I also had a right to drop off and retrieve my children in peace!

The head wholeheartedly agreed and hauled the pair of them in for a telling off. He also logged the incidents, in case I ever required it as evidence for an injunction. Following his involvement, there was a further incident. He hauled them in again! Had very strong words with them. He logged it again and there has been nil further trouble.

Any head and if not, board of governors worth their salt, will take this type of behaviour on school grounds or at the school gates very seriously indeed.

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