Jessmay I'm going to the one who is not in agreement with the majority here, but then I am assuming you would like a variety of views. I have no desire to upset you.
I do think he is into you but I thin he does not realise how important this area of phone calls is to you, and I think he may be very unsure how you feel about him, which could make him hold back.
When you say he gets angry if you mean aggressive, violent etc I would say run a mile.
If he is controlling, I would say run a mile.
If not, he doesn't sound horrible to me. He just sounds like someone who doesn't realise how important it is for you to talk on the phone. Yes, I know you have told him.
If he doesn't like talking on the phone I would discuss it and then choose if you can cope with the way he is. If you can't so be it.
Liewise, if he works too hard or too many long hours I would see if this can be addressed.
I would not waste a lot of time on a relationship you are not sure about. But I would at least talk to him and get his perspecvtive.
I just feel you are in a state of upset when to call him would have been the logical thing to do IMVHO.
My husband hates phone calls and was quite hard work in the conversation stakes when we first dated! He took along time to ask me to marry him and we split up a ocuple of times on the road to marriage. I think he was pretty confused about how I felt about him, but eventually we had a kind of counselling session and I was able to tell him how I really felt and he asked me to marry him. I don't think guys always understand exactly what pisses some women off. I am not talking about agressive or controlling me, I am talking about regular me,n.
My dh has turned into the most lovely and kind, consdierate and hard working husband. But I did need to accept him as he is, and he me. It works both ways.
It sounds like you were not ready for a relationship and he bowled you over. You are falling for him but you need certain things, if those are things you cannot compromise on, then so be it.
I also think most of us may well not get a relationship where everything is how we like it, that's life, we are all different. I am an extrovert who married an introvert, but I love him and he has brought out the best in me. Settling for some things not being perfect is not weakness IMVHO. But being treated badly is terrible. Only you know what is right for you.
When you say My mind is made up and I have been thinking this since we started really and it's not gotten better. Not just the lack of phonecalls but also him not talking much about what's going on in his life. I do feel like he keeps me at arms length but he wants to hear every details of my life and my day.
This can be true for some people, but then lets look at the facts here, you have not been dating very long and for the first half of that time you were not that keen on him. You did not want to be with him for these holidays and you have not told you family much about him. Have you shared all that with him?
The fact you have discussed marriage and children is significant to me, as is the fact he wanted to be with you for some of this holiday but you did not.
There have been lots of negtaive critisms of this man, and it is clear from his texts he doesn't realise what deep shit he is in!
It just seems there is a lot of advice here and you are speaking to all of us but not him!
And ultimately all our stories here are of our relationships, only you know what is right for you.
I have tried to read all the thread, at least all your comments, so I felt I needed to comment.
Whatever you do, I wish you all the very best. 