Heard dp having sex.

[Disgustedandhurt]

I received a whatsapp voice message from dps ex on Boxing Day of them having sex I haven't said anything to him yet as I don't know what to do I feel physically sick.

No he didn't say it was an old recording he didn't say much apart from where did I get it from and that his ex was jealous as we are living together but I don't think that's true we have been together two years and as I said before have never had any problems so why now? It doesn't make sense to me.

OP - can you talk to someone in RL?

You need friends and family around you right now xx

Sorry, OP.
What happens tomorrow?
What do you do next?
That decision only involves you.
You are in charge now.
Don't make your plans around anybody else.
Good Luck, but most of all Good Choices.

Well, I think you have your answer. He didn't deny it, didn't say it was old, didn't reassure you, says she is jealous and has gone.

You are well rid. They are both shits.
Start tomorrow and sort your life out and move on. Don't be persuaded or get involved in conversations about it. Put yourself first. He made a choice, not a mistake. It will hurt and it won't happen over night but you can make it happen and make your life good again without him. He is not worth anymore of your life.

Him going elsewhere for the night isn't really evidence one way or the other.

Him not saying more about the recording is very strange.

So sorry

Lulu is right. Take care of yourself with small, practical steps. And make sure you have real life support around you.

Ex could be worried that now your living together that the next step is a baby? Less money for her dd, maybe. Sorry I can't see any other reason a previously amicable ex would try and stir. It looks pretty bad, did he try and explain it at all?

What a horrible woman. Please ask him about it.

How old is his dd? Does she nap? Can't see how they would get away with it with an older kid on Christmas day.

Hope it's an old recording.

I can see another reason... And I'm really sorry to say it op, but this may not be the first time, he may have been having an affair with her, telling her what she wanted to hear about getting back together etc, but never following through and telling you so she's forced his hand and made the decision for him. In a 'if he won't tell her, I will' kind of way.

The setting up of the recording was pre meditated, she must have known it was highly likely something was going to happen - and the most likely explanation for that is that it is predictable because it's happened before.

It would also explain why a previously amicable relationship with her turned to this.

Oh so sorry he's left you alone instead of supporting you.

I hope you can find some strength. Take care of yourself.

I know things are bleak now. You must mourn your relationship. Do whatever you need to heal from his betrayal. I promise, you will heal. That woman did you a favour ( in a disgusting way) you can move on and find a new love. Leave those two to get on with it, they deserve each other.

OP, sorry you are going through this. Sending extra strength virtually and a warm (((hug))).

I hope you have someone in RL to talk to about what your are going through and to offer shoulder to cry on.

I agree with others that just him packing a bag and leaving instead of talking things out is a HUGE sign it is unfortunately true.

Stay strong and lean on your friends for support or keep posting and there is always someone available to chat things out with. Sending you extra strength. Good luck, you don't deserve this vile treatment.

You've been together 2 years but only moved in together in the last 6 months?

If I have that right from yours posts I think you have your answer right there.

She was never his "ex" and got pissed off when you moved in together.

He's a shit and you should LTB

Be very thankful you don't have a child with him. You are much better off now he's gone and you won't have to see him again.

I wonder why some of the posters on here are surprised that a man would do this??? It's not as if it never happens. I'm surprised that women are still surprised by this type of behaviour, it seems fairly standard these days.

A bit of cold comfort... I doubt he'll be running back into her manipulative arms too soon. You're well rid of him. Too weak to say no to his desires for the ex and the ex played him like a flute, used him just to get evidence of infidelity in order to sh*t on your relationship. What vile people. Move on, don't look back. If you play in the mud, you'll get filthy. And he's filthy. I am jut so sorry OP. What rotten luck. Remove this loser from your life. He is an obstacle on your path and will keep you from meeting someone worthy. Don't be tempted to patch things up.

Hope you are ok x

What a shock it must have been to hear that. The pair of them are both horrible people. Unfortunately it looks like this wasn't the first time it's happened as you don't record someone just incase something might happen. :(

Blimey OP what a horrible shock. How are you today?