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The other woman

227 replies

winkywinkola · 16/12/2014 18:16

So, you have her phone number and her email.

You know your h is the swine who betrayed you.

How do you resist contacting her to give her a piece of your mind?

I have a friend who got 'her' ow by the throat once. She said it felt so good to see the witch shit her pants.

OP posts:
NannyAnna · 16/12/2014 19:49

Mince pie, she didn't take my dad back at any point, although he begged and he regrets the affair to this day.

pinkfrocks · 16/12/2014 19:57

There is no acceptable reason to smash another woman's car. Promoting this type of violence as a gesture of revenge is just appalling.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 16/12/2014 20:03

I am glad of that, Anna. Now that is proper revenge.

usualsuspect333 · 16/12/2014 20:10

I think I'd have to contact her, probably wouldn't be the wisest move though.

I don't think I could do dignified.

lol at SwearAboutMincePies.

CheeseBuster · 16/12/2014 20:18

It's tacky and I dignified to direct anger at OW when it should be for your husband.

usualsuspect333 · 16/12/2014 20:21

Its a damn sight more tacky to shag a married man.

APlaceInTheWinter · 16/12/2014 20:26

Its a damn sight more tacky to shag a married man.

Exactly this!

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 16/12/2014 20:29

NannyAnna... No, we are not 'allowed to go a little bit mental'. What kind of stupid thinking is that? You sound so very proud. Urgh. Hmm

The OW should have pressed charges against your mum. Disgusting behaviour all round, no exceptions.

usualsuspect333 · 16/12/2014 20:37

Of course everyone on MN would never blame the poor innocent OW.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 16/12/2014 20:39

I can see how people get incandescently angry at being on the receiving end of such utter disrespect but I really believe that if I were going to physically attack anyone it would be my husband, not the OW. I would hope to keep my dignity all round though, because my first gut feeling is that no man is worth this

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 16/12/2014 20:41

The thing is, usual, directing your blame and anger at the OW puts both of you on the same level...

Competing for a man that isn't worth it. No man is.

Heyho111 · 16/12/2014 20:41

Does she know she is the OW. She could be just as much a victim as you. Is revenge worth it. If she did know she was the OW , just be strong and let her have the low life because he is not good enough for you.

usualsuspect333 · 16/12/2014 20:45

I wouldn't be competing for him, he would be out on his ear.

But I know I'd have to tell her exactly what I thought of her too. I wouldn't care what she thought of me TBH. Only that I wasn't a meek little put up and shut up type.

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AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 16/12/2014 20:48

Why does she need to know anything about you though (in this hopefully theoretical situation ...)

You giving her a piece of your mind or lamping her one is only going to confirm (if she knows of your existence) the lies your husband has told her (you are crazy, unstable, make his life hell, are together only because of the kids blah blah blah). And if she doesn't know of your existence, she is just as much a victim as you are.

slithytove · 16/12/2014 20:50

My mum slapped the bitch who fucked my dad, rang our house to tell my mum how much they were in love, and ended up telling me. I was 5.

Go my mum.

usualsuspect333 · 16/12/2014 20:52

I think you must be incredibly naive if you believe all a married man tells you.

I don't believe anyone who says they would feel no anger towards the OW.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 16/12/2014 20:52

I don't think anyone is saying they "would feel no anger" towards the OW.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 16/12/2014 20:53

Lots of women believe everything a man tells them. Haven't you seen all the threads in Relationships about just that issue ?

usualsuspect333 · 16/12/2014 20:59

The OW I have known weren't exactly bothered about the devastation they caused.

I have no sympathy for OW at all. You reap what you sow.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 16/12/2014 21:19

I don't have much sympathy either if they know a bloke is married. But they can have no impact on my life unless my husband makes a decision to dive in balls deep

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 16/12/2014 21:21

Agree with AnyPie... you just demean yourself if you attack the OW and you run the very real risk of a criminal record. Worth it? What about your children seeing this behaviour? If you have no control of your feelings then it's not likely that the small matter of children will stop you, is it?

For me, dignity is everything and I wouldn't be letting a woman who has inveigled herself into my marriage, know anything of me - or my children.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 16/12/2014 21:25

One's dignity is the one true thing that nobody else can take away. Unless you let them. Corny, but true.

MorrisZapp · 16/12/2014 21:27

It's a poor lookout when women are slapping other women for the crime of believing lies.

Show me one woman on this planet who has never believed what the man she loves/ fancies/ is shagging has told her.

usualsuspect333 · 16/12/2014 21:37

I don't think theres much dignity in shagging someone elses husband.

They already know of you and your children, they will know even more when he fucks off with her and she gets to play happy families with your kids.

They will have an impact on your life whether you like it or not.