The Dating Thread 84.

[MadeMan]

Well, fancy seeing you here.

Ring them gotta
Just had a text from Mr I could never date a Grandma, saying thought I was lovely but just did not feel the spark. Bloody cheek, honestly if you could see him, some people what an ego.

gotta - ages after I cancelled Match Crapfinity and even now I still get email alerts, they make it hard I think for you to stop getting these... i think they work on the premise that even if you cancel if you see someone amazing and want to contact them then you'll be hooked into paying their subscription again like I was to see the email. Just ignore it.

blossom what an egotistical twat honestly I saw your other post but did he HAVE to say that to you by text?! It is normally the not most attractive or appealing men sometimes who say these things though rather than the hotties!

Have you properly deleted match account or just suspended. If deleted you will not get any email alerts .

Super Well sure he knew I was not interested so wanted to get in there first. As you say ego got in the way.

"Anyone else had problems cancelling Match profile?"

I had to ring up south america to cancel mine.

Blossom is he implying that you're the grandma? How old is he then?

Ha, what a cheek blossom - he probably just knew you weren't into him (esp after Grandparent comment!) and thought he'd get in first to pretend he was turning you down.

Ugh, I just don't know what to think - guy I've been seeing has put a new pic on POF (just an addition - as his profile pic). There's just no way that is any kind of glitch. We met a month ago and have spent the night together 7 times (plus one other date) and he was the one (3rd date I think?) brought up that he wasn't chatting to or arranging dates with others (I said neither was I) and we could just take our pics down etc. So I hid my profile (it does stay there but doesn't appear in searches so you don't get messaged by anyone new) but he hasn't done anything (neither hidden nor taken pics down) and now a new pic?! I have to say something, I think text is going to be best but I'm not sure what - help??! I might leave it till tomorrow so it doesn't look like I've been stalking his profile daily :/.

Raspberry, I sometimes think online dating and the likes of Twitter and Facebook turn us all into borderline stalkers/voyeurs in the end.

Made He is 45. Started saying how yuk that these grannies were contacting him, ( I have 2 GK's, my son had them very young) when I pointed out that my son had kids his face was a picture. Normally would not even mention them at this stage but he annoyed me. For what it's worth I look a damm site younger than him. He has been badgering me for months to go out

Blossom - why would he say about grannies contacting him when presumably he knew their ages... and at 45 he's hardly a spring chicken himself is he?

I didn't realise he was "getting in there first" re saying not interested in you... well I'm sure it's made his day being so polite, not!

raspberry - I've had this once or twice re profiles on sites and new pics, normally I'd say its to hook new people in and the men who're dating tend to be casual types. Not saying this man is but why the new pic otherwise? and yes definitely say something. I would say not a lot of men admit they're casual although often they do use the "I'm not ready for dating yet/confused etc" which is interesting as if you're confused/want casual sex surely you should say that?!

I've paid for one month on Match.com and cancelled automatic renewal last night. All I get is winks and views and I wouldn't want a message off any that have viewed me, there are all fugly and live miles away.

I've only has a few actual messages, it's not a good site ime.

I got lots from POF with or without a photo, so slow traffic with Match.

Raspberry, I would take a step back from this one. It's obvious he is still looking and trying to make his profile more attractive. I'm sorry, it must hurt and I wouldn't carry on getting anymore involved.

Rasp Blossom
Blossom Go with the flow with Lotus and see what happens, step at a time.Sounds good to me :)

I told exh in the summer that I didn't intend on being alone forever and would date, he said ok and commented that we were never going to work.
Told him a few months later that I had been on a few dates, he asked me about it. He then got weird and started acting like a dick, so he digested it and then got over it.
My ex has made loads of comments from me changing my hair colour to getting a new wardrobe. I don't think he's going to be totally ok with me having a boyfriend, I am dreading the talk. Will lure him to a public place for coffee and tell him, he shouldn't kick up a fuss but I wont be sure until the time comes.
I have felt so alive since split and still need to finalize split, which will be my ex having knowledge that I am having sex with a new man.

Raspberry I would be very anxious about the new picture, you add new pics when your actively trying to attract dates.
With MT I hid my pof account so I could still see if he was still going online. He deleted his phone pof but not site, it said last on 30 days. MT wanted to be exclusive but I was still suspicious.
I would get Mr T out of my head if I were you, he's not being honest. If wants to know why you have pulled away tell him and see how reacts, if he says he'll take if profile down then great.

Match is a rubbish site.

Date a no go guys
He had to work guess these things happen, ended up going to my step bro for a lift home as I'd walked up.
I've said sorry I couldn't wait , I waited an hour n left him his cake but sadly I came home .
We will see I just do wonder if it's worth pesuring this ?

Feel stupid now at home, saying I said I'd only be a couple of hours , family didn't no about him.

If he'd said ill text on my way home then I'd been ok but I think I got wrong idea .

Blossom it's quite common for people to be grandparents in their 40's; I know a quite a few that are, or were. Perhaps he is shocked because he feels he has missed the boat at 45 and will be playing catch up.

"I would get Mr T out of my head if I were you..."

Yeah sucker, I pity the fool who can't get Mr T out of their head!

How long was it before he told you he couldn't make it jesy? Past the time you were supposed to meet?

Yeah he tested me at 6ish he'd said he'd be back after five .
He seemed keen to see me , he works a lot .

leaving in 15 mins for 2nd date with the lovely bloke I met last week! Aaaaarrgghhh... am rather nervous!! Don't want to mess this one up...

Very funny Made :)

Avocado Have a nice time and just be yourself. I hate having nerves I end up flustered and feel flushed, normally I excuse myself and take a loo brake to calm myself.

He just called to say sorry , he never rang me before.
He seems a lovely guy , he working all weekend but maybe we can meet up, it's funny there no pressure with us .
I'm not good on fone but it didn't feel awkward , I told him I'd left him dinner and he seemed really please , well that what his voice sounded like.

Maybe like some one said to me remember the hare n the tortoise story.
Plus other saying a way to a man's heart is thru stomach, hence a pie n cake left for him x

Jesy, you didn't buy food and leave it in the cafe/ restaurant for him did you?

Two's company is rubbish. Will not be re newing next month. Lots of flirts.winks, viewed profile and the odd message thrown in when I reply, nothing. Call me synical ,but is there someone pulling the strings?
Similar experience (tho larger volume) with POF. Giving up.