Family....listen! The most difficult thing for me to deal with is the fact that I couldn't save the marriage for my kids. Like me, though, the choice wasn't yours to make. My kids recognise I did everything I could and he did sod all. I didn't point that out to them, either, they told me themselves.like me, you can't afford to beat yourself up about it, or even think about it. It's too much grief, it's misplaced and it won't help the kids. I've blocked it out as far as possible, and that's why I'm being so hard and direct with you, so I don't think too much about it.
My ex couldn't say the words to me, so he texted them. There were no reasons other than that he couldn't see how we could unravel things at this stage. It's his problem. And it's your H problem too. Their inability to deal with things.
Do not feel rejected. Recognise the difference between lack of self confidence and rejection.
My H also never gave me any warning. That's their problem.
I too have tried looking for answers. Read my posts from last night, and the reply from WWK, it helped me.
And yes, when you're not sleeping well and you're taking on a lot more at home, it's bloody difficult. There is also a lot of unfamiliar stuff to deal with. But as you tackle each one and achieve it, and get past the resentment that you have to take ages fathoming out something that he could have done easily....you will get a real sense of achievement, and you will gain so much confidence in tackling more things.
Rose coloured spectacles. The man no longer exists. My feelings too.
You're not alone, my love, we are all on this road, good days, bad days, steps forward, steps back.
You're right to let all these things out, it's good to offload. That's the point of this thread, that and to get and give support. In a few days time, you will hopefully read your post and feel better. But don't, don't, don't, feel like an idiot!
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