I'm going to say something a bit different, for balance. I think it might be wrong to lay blame with anyone. A relationship of any kind takes two people.
I have read the other thread and know some of the background Dont I think you are right, you do possibly attract a certain kind of man, and having attracted them, play out a very specific kind of narrative. Its not a fault. I think these men, like anyone, are just as capable of reading people. You get sucked into this romantic whirl, you get on the ride and you get dizzy, and you enjoy this. They can see this and like you, going through the motions of falling in love, playing out this grand romantic narrative and enjoying this intense stage is fun. Be silly to suggest otherwise.
The problem with this, is not the rate at which a relationship moves, or how much time one spends with someone, or even if you commit to spend the rest of your life together on date two. The problem is not time, but one of reality. With this sort of romantic narrative, there is no room for imperfections, for real life stresses, or even for real people.
Each plays a part in this narrative and when the day comes that one is not playing that part, and the real person is revealed, with any faults (and we all have them) then the other person can't put the two versions of that person together. "how can Dont be so perfect, so lovely, kind, and gentle but so drunk and so disgusting to actually vomit in public"
And that is your problem. Take off the romantic goggles, the writers need for perfection, and concentrate your mind on realities. Be yourself, really be yourself from day one, say "take me as you find me, warts and all" and be sceptic, just as other's have said. I mean would you buy a second hand car after a half hour spiel that was flowery and only told you all the good points, or would you ask more questions?