BACKSTORY:
5 1/2 months ago ex walked out told me he no longer loved me, after being off with me for two weeks. I found out he applied for a loan and it all came out after I confronted him. I, like most other people would, accused him of cheating. He swore he hadn't but something wasn't sitting right.
Cue 1 month ago, I receive an ominous text saying "we need to talk". He comes round and explains he has cancer. He has been receiving private treatment, in order to pay for it he will no longer be able to pay the rent for me and DD (this was temporary, I never expected him to pay for it anyway). I was in shock told him if he needed lefts or a hand to hold I would be there. I also made it very clear I did not want to be in a relationship with him, as I felt the decision he had made was a selfish one. Basically putting DD and I on the verge of homelessness and scrapping the barrel to make ends meet.
Ex told me he didn't want his family to know, only his boss and myself knew (he's always had a hero complex) but agreed to me telling our DD that he was very ill and would need to rest alot.
Now, almost my entire family has been affected by colorectal cancer, my Dad, my aunt, my aunt died of it, my Nan. I'm thinking if you're going to lie about cancer you don't pick the one that the person knows most about...
He was on medication (wouldn't tell me the name) but from the sounds of the symptoms it's the one they give you instead of chemo? He was then booked in for an operation yesterday. Now, I know that if you have a history or have been diagnosed with colorectal cancer and they are removing the tumor they will either go for open surgery or abdominal keyhole surgery. Apparently these doctors did an endoscopic removal (through the bum), which they only really do if it's either just polyps or its very early stages.
He then texts me this morning to say that he's at work?! My dad can just about walk around the house when he's had a endoscopy!
I am so confused, I would feel awful if I called him a lier and it turned out to be true but on the other hand I'm thinking what kind of a sick son of bitch lies about this to anyone, let alone his daughter and the woman he had a child with and wanted to marry.
Any advice on how to go about this? or anyone who has a bit more experience with cancer treatments? I feel like I'm on the edge of a mental breakdown here.
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On the verge of going insane...is ex lying about cancer?
DoomDeer · 11/11/2014 11:53
A good friend of mine was going through a divorces with an absolute cock lodger and he announced in very much the same way that he had a brain tumour. Again he didn't want anyone to know and was suitably wishy-washy about the details. He still drank and smoked and drove throughout all this btw. He said it was inoperable and he would be dead by Christmas.
Well guess what? It was a Christmas miracle and a scan showed the tumour had vanished! 
This is in spite of NO operation nor chemo etc.
7 years on the fucker is still scratting around sponging off the tax payer as he was before his 'brain tumour'.
The idle twat has 7 children he contributes nothing towards in terms of time nor money. He is vile.
She believed him and almost took him back.
I am no expert on these matters but it seems to be a familiar story to tell amongst these sorts of 'men'.
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