Four threads to freedom! Divorcing Twatchops once and for all

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Still can't copy and paste links but my last thread was New name, new game, less stress, more progress!

This really, really is the last one now - I hope that my story has helped anybody breaking free from abuse - it's bloody hard but you can do it!

Welcome 'home'!

Glad things have smoothed out a bit for you after your roller coaster holiday season. I agree you took on too much at once, but that's just what we do, isn't it?

Ahh hey Pond!! Thank you, lovely to hear from you too, I've missed being here - and yes took far too much on all at once but then yes that's me too

Ironically had to get a plumber out the other day haha! Unfortunately he was not in the slightest bit attractive but it did make me think of you all

I expect it was Greg's day off.

Glad to hear from you name. I was thinking about you just last night and wondering how things are.
Sorry to hear that you have been so stressed and hoping that 2015 gets better and better from now on.

Great to hear from you Name Happy New Year to you and DC

Hey you, well back x

Thanks 99! I'm soo much better now

Haha Annie yes it must have been, they sent along Igor instead

Thanks Helena

Hi Adara!! Yes back again haha!

Forgot to say the first divorce (financials?) meeting is scheduled for the first week of March - I guess that's when Decree Nisi is granted? Not sure. That's going to be a lovely experience but at least I'll have Rottie with me yay!

So glad you're in touch again but sorry to hear of the end of year trauma.

With your taking on too much with full time work etc., I think I might have done the same - having to test the boundaries of what I could cope with on at last gaining freedom - probably a necessary evil to go through in order to find a proper balance for your current situation.

Wishing you an ever improving pathway for 2015 and beyond!

Thank you Alice, yes it's all about building boundaries and realising tolerance levels I have come to realise.

This financials Form E for Rottie - I take it I'm just filling it in about my personal finances and not about our joint finances? I.e Twatchops will have to do his own Form E with his solicitor? Because I found it surprisingly easy and quick as I literally have nothing whereas he's the one with pension, shares etc in his old company and that's information I wouldn't be able to get hold of. Just checking.

Have lovely weekends everyone

So glad you're back, safe and doing well.

Wishing you the best of everything for 2015.

Twatchops has to fill in his own Form E. Any financial information you have about him might be useful, just in case he takes a broad view of the truth.

Hi ATM, thank you and happy new year to you too

And thanks that's good to know, I thought as much

I'd definately recommend you making a sort of twattys form e. Based on the questions on yours provide the answers he should be giving. Just to make sure that when his comes he's put on everything he should. Am I right in thinking youre still at home with all the banking statements etc? In which case scan any docs you can that confirm his money and shares etc.

You'll have a chance to query anything dodgy on his Form E by submitting a Questionnaire. Rottie will advise - but knowing what he should have put will be a great help.

I'm a lurker but have been through similar 3 years ago - without MN I'd still be stuck with ex and a deep depression, I expect.

I agree with petunia. Doing a 'mock up' form E for Twatty would be a good idea. It might 'streamline' the review of his form if there's already an idea of what it should list.

Glad to see you back here, Name, and that things are going onwards and upwards.

So glad you got through Christmas name , don't underestimate what a great milestone that is. How are your girls getting on? I've been thinking of you recently every time I have had to KOKO - I knew you were doing the same!

Ahh thanks flipping - the girls are fine thanks DD1 still ecstatic that he's gone but DD2 definitely has some anxiety issues that I want to get sorted. Where I had been minimising the abuse in regards to me as a form of survival, I had also in turn minimised it for the kids and of course they witnessed stuff so I'm looking at some supportive things to do with dd2, there's a local group that supports children who've been living within domestic abuse, you've got to have had the abuser removed before joining and they'll pair us up with other 6-7 year olds so I'm going to go for it!

Thanks everyone that's great advice about the form E - I will do that then as I know pretty much what he's got.

Petunia yes I'm still living in the house and have access to all bank accounts etc.

Great then I'd definatley make sure you get together all the info about his salary and shares etc. So that he doesn't try and hide anything or "forgets" anything. You know how useless he is!!!

Right I will, absolutely agree, thanks Petunia

You are doing bloody brilliantly Name and i think you are an amazing mother

Ah thanks so much Helena have been feeling really good today actually - kids are getting dropped back at 6.30 - it'll be him on the doorstep again but I can handle it. Had a lovely night out last night with a good friend, lots of and laughter and then have totally cleaned the house in prep for the valuations tomorrow - life's good, I'm loving this divorce malarkey haha

Ah, there you are! Lost thread for a while...glad you're starting the year with so much spirit keep on and all that x

Oh thanks FB! yes in a Much better place now thankfully, had my 3 house valuations today for Rottie tomorrow - looking forward to seeing her actually, it's been ages! i know it's all going to kick off again soon, but mentally I'm much more secure - am thinking of saving towards a winter sun holiday over next Christmas and having nothing to do with it in England - I so know now why it carries the highest suicide rates with it, sheesh!