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Four threads to freedom! Divorcing Twatchops once and for all

452 replies

thenamehaschanged · 10/11/2014 21:57

Still can't copy and paste links but my last thread was New name, new game, less stress, more progress!

This really, really is the last one now - I hope that my story has helped anybody breaking free from abuse - it's bloody hard but you can do it!

Smile Thanks

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AcrossthePond55 · 14/12/2014 16:38

Take it back! You took one amount for your household maintenance. You took the other to pay HIS bill for him. You then turned around and paid back your maintenance when he accused you of 'double dipping'. He owes you money.

I don't know if I'd do a direct debit. That might give him information about your own bank account that you'd rather he not have. But I wouldn't do any more of his banking for him, that's for sure!

hillyhilly · 19/12/2014 22:16

Hoping you have a very lovely, relaxed, please yourself, Christmas with your girls and no manipulation or lists.

RandomMess · 21/12/2014 09:40

Hope all is well Xmas Smile

AcrossthePond55 · 24/12/2014 14:04

Bless you, and a Happy Christmas to you and yours! I'm sure you're busy with your lovely DCS. Enjoy the day and I wish you all peace and happiness.

auntpetunia · 24/12/2014 15:40

Another one just popping in to say I hope you have the most amazing Christmas with your girls and don't have too much trouble with twatty.

hedwig2001 · 24/12/2014 16:07

Hope you have a wonderful, Twatchops free Christmas. Best wishes to you and your girls.

rumbleinthrjungle · 25/12/2014 16:01

Merry Christmas to you and the girls Name.

larrybadler · 25/12/2014 18:00

Happy Christmas Name. Hope you've had a brilliant day.

augustusglupe · 26/12/2014 11:29

Another here! Hope you and your girls had a wonderful, relaxing Christmas Day. Think of you often Xmas Smile

fusspot66 · 28/12/2014 20:33

I'm wishing you all the best too. You coped for so long, I imagine you've come to a great grinding halt. I hope you are ok.

Ilovefluffysheep · 28/12/2014 20:39

Hope you are ok name, and you and the girls had a great Christmas?

DinnaeKnowShitFromClay · 28/12/2014 22:28

Think of you often Name. I am hoping you had the Christmas of your dreams and all is well with you. New year Twat free. How good is that?

Ilovefluffysheep · 05/01/2015 19:11

Hi name. I'm a little bit worried about you as its been a while since you've been on here. I really hope you're ok, and had a good Christmas and New Year?

annettec01 · 05/01/2015 21:47

Hope all on. Not seen you posting and hope Xmas went ok xx

Adarajames · 05/01/2015 22:02

Had a reply to message from Name, she's been busy with kids and Christmas, but was doing fine then so hopefully all is still ok with her, sure she's not meaning to make people worry Smile

NettleTea · 05/01/2015 22:24

thats a huge relief

auntpetunia · 06/01/2015 07:04

That's good news! I know she doesn't have to update here but in her situation I think people worried that twatty had got back at her and thrown all her good work.

Ilovefluffysheep · 06/01/2015 08:07

Thanks Adara.

thenamehaschanged · 09/01/2015 14:50

Hello everyone!! Happy New Year and all that!

I'm so sorry I haven't been back on for such a long time, I didn't mean to worry anyone - I almost, very nearly almost had a breakdown at the end of the year, what the hell I was thinking going back to work full time I don't know, but I've stopped that now, having a break and am hopefully going to be getting a 3 day a week job soon.

That and the pressure of Christmas, the kids being tired and terrors, pressure from family to communicate with good old Twatchops - it just all got too much and I couldn't stop panicking.

BUT - a new year and a new me! Feel really focused - seeing Rottie on Tuesday, have done my Form E for her, getting some valuations on the house on Monday as she asked for those so I'll be really prepared.

I've started psychotherapy too which I can see is going to be quite long term as I have a lot of unpicking to do.

I've told Twatchops he needs to get a flat where he can have the kids to stay properly, no more bed sits and him just on random day trips with the kids, the contact with him was just getting more and more so I have nipped that in the bud now.

Anyway - I hope you are all well everyone - I'll keep you updated Grin

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NettleTea · 09/01/2015 14:56

this is such good news to read!
here's to a fantastic new year

thenamehaschanged · 09/01/2015 15:00

Ahh thanks Nettle! Feels good to be back haha Grin

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Ilovefluffysheep · 09/01/2015 15:07

So pleased to hear from you, was getting really worried.

Sorry you were feeling low with everything, but you sound a lot more positive now which is great.

Happy New Year - New year, new you!

flippingstupidnickname · 09/01/2015 16:29

Great to hear from you, I've been wondering how you were getting on. Your thread helped give me strength to leave my H recently and I'm feeling happy and positive (for now!) so thank you (and your mn support team) for the inspiration Smile

auntpetunia · 09/01/2015 17:08

So happy to see you back. Have to admit to being a bit worried especially knowing what a ass twatty was and your parents I hoped christmas hadn't been your undoing but I should have known better!
Great to see you so focused and ready for the battle ahead.
Happy new year

thenamehaschanged · 09/01/2015 17:40

Oh thanks Fluffy! Lovely to hear from you Grin

Flipping!! That's fantastic news, well done you!! I'm so happy these threads were of help to you, honestly without MN I wouldn't be out of there yet, these relationship threads are a total life saver - congratulations Grin

Hi Petunia! So lovely to hear from you too, thank you! Yes I will admit the Christmas pressure was a worry, I'm so glad it's all over though, just kept thinking 'this time next year things will be so much better just KOKO!' Hope you're well Grin

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