URGENT Please give your tips to heal a broken heart

[innerstrength100]

He said I was his soulmate and he would never ever let me go. He has let me go. Although we didn't live together, he has been part of our family for 2 and half years, and I have never felt so loved as I did in that time.

Have boxed up everything he's ever given me and put in loft. Working up towards deleting all text messages.

Please please post any tips you have to help heal a broken heart as quickly as possible.

I think you will do very well, inner. Your attitude in this very difficult and very painful situation is excellent: all the measures you are taking are positive and life -affirming. You have all my sympathy as what you are going through is so very difficult.

Porridge is absolutely right... To be so proactive and staying busy considering your pain is admirable. Time my love will heal all. Why not sign up to a course or lessons in something you've always wanted to try/master... I recently started an instrument and it's so empowering :-) hang in there inner xx

I do the same innerstrength, I'm six weeks into a break up, and three weeks since I moved out, two since I last saw him and honestly days are so long and so hard without him.

I miss that person just being around me and doing the things we used to, laughing at the jokes we did. His Dad is seriously unwell and this is when a lot of this came about, but it doesn't excuse the way he has treated me since then. Going very very cold, almost to the point of acting like he hates me. Yet I know he doesn't, I know there's nobody else and I know that he does love me, maybe not in the same way.
On the same hand, I understand why he doesn't reply to the texts (I've managed to cut this down to once a week or so now), but when he texts I will always reply if needed. I adore everything about him and wish he would be outside my house now ready to apologise. Instead last night I saw a picture of him going out with his sister, without a care in the world. So that was it, I deleted him. I started talking to people who want to talk to me, who are always there and are good friends.
I've done peoples heads in these past few weeks but I'm determined, like you I can never accept it's over, I always keep thinking one day he'll come back (because every ex of mine seems to) but for now I just have to forget and put it to one side.

I can't say it gets easier as it hasn't for me yet, I sit at work with tears welling up and nobody even knows what's going on. Now...I listen to Taylor Swift's album on repeat, because there's break up songs and empowering ones too that make me feel like I'm not the only one ever going through it. I'm so self indulgent sometimes it's unreal, and I need to pick myself up. He doesn't give a damn about me right now unless it suits him so why should I?

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else... ASAP! ;-)

You say that, I have three people right now who would love for me to say yes to a date!
But the way I feel right now I would feel like I was betraying him by doing that. I would feel awful, even though I owe him nothing I still would.

Same here. I just want him back. Feel worse than I did a week ago. No idea where to go from here.

I feel just the same as a week ago, our contact is intermittent and usually about the house. Although he has text a couple of random things yesterday, in response to things I've said, probably realised what a dick he was being about the whole moving out thing.

Someone said today that one day someone will come along and make you realise why it never worked out with anyone else, but to me that was him!! He was not my type, not what I was looking for and we just fell in love. Rubbish dealing with that.

I have taken steps though, deleting him from social media, saying BREAK whenever I think about him. Texting other people, but the conversation always comes back to him! I miss him so bloody much, but know I can't text him because he won't reply and it'll have the complete opposite effect.

He did as well say last week that me texting him wasn't giving him space. Not that he'd told me he wanted space of course! But yeah...that's what made me stop. If it's meant to be I guess he'll come back one day but right now it's like he's having the time of his life without me!

Oh innerstrength, I hope you feeling a bit better now? I found this thread after searching for heartbreak as I in a similar position.
I was meant to go out tonight but inbetween bouts of wailing, not really fit for anything really..
My husband left last week after 10 months of rows over him and prostitutes, but until 10 months ago I thought I was the luckiest and happiest woman alive...
There has been such amazing advice here, it has been invaluable to me sitting here obsessing at 12.30am...
Because I have had a mental breakdown over it my home team support have to visit everyday.
They give great support and I hope you finding counselling helpful?
They said to me to change your rooms around a bit if you can, make it different.
Try a new routine that is not associated with him. For example if he texted you every lunch time - do something anything that get you out of that habit.
Like you I am heartbroken...its so painful, I can't breath sometimes, I barely function, but I feel I need to have that pity party until it time to stop. I am lucky I have a whole week of grieving and now getting ready to move on... I wanted to purge it...strange really...
I really hope that you have taken all the wonderful advice on here, I intend to re read it all over and over myself too.
Finally be your own best friend xx