It's my wedding night. I'm all alone.

[IsThisReallyHappening]

Today I got married.

This afternoon we arrived at our hotel to stay the night.

On arrival I checked my facebook to see some congratulation messages.

One message was not quite what I was expecting.

My 'husband' cheated on me 8 weeks ago.

I'm now sat here alone. On my wedding night. My 'husband' is gone.

I'm pregnant too.

I already have a child with him.

What the actual fuck has just happened to my life?

I feel trapped.

You poor thing. I do think annulment would be a good idea because then it's like it didn't happen, it didn't mean anything. Going through divorce would be like you are saying the marriage is over, when actually it didn't start and shouldn't have happened.

There is no stigma on you here OP. Others have behaved appallingly and you've been affected by it, that's all. Hold your head high. You will have friends who will be there for you and things will come right in the end.

Oh no I really hope you're not who I think you are. What an absolute arsehole he is, you don't deserve any of this, it's all he's doing, you just wanted to do right by your children. Walk away now, get an annulment, you don't need that kind of waste of space in your life.

Huge hugs xxx

OP hope you managed to get a little bit of sleep and some real life support.

Pretty sure I know who you are So upset you are going through this but you are such a strong woman who deserves much better. You and your babies will be just fine. Onwards and upwards. His loss and in a few years when he has had time to think about it he will be devastated at what he threw away.

Let us know how you are doing when you get a chance xx

Wow, I've just read this thread, OP I hope you're doing ok today.

I have nothing constructive to add except that this is the first day of the rest of your life and things will get so much better. Take care of yourself and your babies and reach out for RL support. You have nothing to be ashamed of, I don't know anyone who wouldn't have absolute compassion for someone in your situation.

Personally I'd want to make damn sure everyone knew what an absolute wanker he is. I'd go on a tirade of full-on character assassination, but then I can be a bit of a vengeful bitch at times

Oh OP, what an utter nightmare for you. Hope you managed some sleep. Please look after yourself

OP here for hugs too x Thinking of you x

How are you doing this morning, OP?

Hand holding here

Hope you are OK OP.

Would repeat what someone else says earlier up thread, it's the last thing you'll want to do, but do take a screen shot of the FB message in case it is deleted.

I'd also agree with screenshot and making sure someone at the hotel can confirm you stayed alone last night.

OP, you'll be alright. I know you feel a certain amount of shame right now, but you really don't need to and far rather escape from this man now than in three months, three years or longer.
I don't know any ins and outs of your relationship history but am wishing you strength to get through this

Ooohhhhh OP if it is really you I am sending a big Wandery hug, a bowl of restorative soup and a bottle of wine. Fluffy pjamas and a chick flick. I just want to bundle you up.

You are an amazing woman, you have so much strength in you. It won't feel like it now, I know you are feeling completely at the bottom of your game. Be gentle with yourself and give yourself time you will get yourself back to yourself. You will. And more.

He has really shown his immaturity. I don't know how you are feeling about the annulment stuff and whether or not you have spoken to him since. But from a woman who leaps into decisions all too often I would just say take your time and make sure you have a everything covered. And make him sweat waiting about what you are going to do.

((((((hugs)))))))

Also it would be Breat if you could check In So we all know you are ok. I think there are a lot of people here who really care. X

Even great!

Do what your instinct says to do - Go and get your other child and leave him.

Yes, I was going to say you could get the marriage annulled.

Just hugs hugs and more hugs and a giant shoulder xxx

Hugs x

Sorry this has happened to you. Wishing you strength.

Oh no. I'm so sorry to hear this. I think I know you to. Will post elsewhere x

I am so sorry that he did this to you. Try the annul thread and LTB (((((((big hug))))))))

Get he marriage annulled OP - save yourself months of pain and start again. I know it sounds harsh, but look how your wedding day ended - can you really come back from that? :(

Yeah please check in so we know you're okay. He's an arse. A massive arse.

Hello everybody i am probably going to get ripped to shreds by even posting here. I am OP's STBXH it seems. I am in no way saying that what i have done is anything less than terrible, despicable and probably the worst thing i have ever/will ever do. For putting the woman i was willing to marry through such pain and suffering as i have i deserve nothing less than a seriously good kicking and to be left out on my arse in a street.

I am terribly sorry for what i have done, like i said i know this will not make it ok, I don't think anything ever will but she is still the woman i love even though quite alot of you will probably disagree with me on that one. I have made a huge mistake, the mistake should never have been made in the first place i know that but i cannot turn back the clock and undo what i have done. I really don't deserve it but if she decided to even give me half a chance i would be fighting and trying as hard i possibly could to fix this. I want nothing more than all this to go away and we could be spending our wedding night how we should have been.

This woman who i have hurt beyond anything i should ever have done is the love of my life and i have made such a huge mistake and just want to make up for it. i should have told her when it happened in the first place and i have been a first rate coward in letting everything go this far by completely taking away her ability to make an informed choice on what she wanted to do then forth.

I am in no way after any pity or even any nice replies i just thought that i would put this out there, and you can all take it as you want. I have done the worst thing i could possibly do and i am prepared for the consequences i am due whatever comes my way.

I apologize for sullying the men of the world by just being one there are some good ones out there.

Just so you know OP is safe and at home i just thought i would add that.

You see to know the mumsnet acronyms thatguy, are you here a lot?

Why would you post here in the space which a safe haven for your soon to be ex?

I think I have told you to leave OP alone on here before. Go away. She deserves far better than you.