It's my wedding night. I'm all alone.

[IsThisReallyHappening]

Today I got married.

This afternoon we arrived at our hotel to stay the night.

On arrival I checked my facebook to see some congratulation messages.

One message was not quite what I was expecting.

My 'husband' cheated on me 8 weeks ago.

I'm now sat here alone. On my wedding night. My 'husband' is gone.

I'm pregnant too.

I already have a child with him.

What the actual fuck has just happened to my life?

I feel trapped.

How are you doing OP?

hi OP,

Hope you are ok and managed to get some sleep last night - in fact hope you are asleep now.

What an awful shock for you. Just get through today as best you can and see if there's someone you can call to come and keep you company.

Please don't feel embarrassed by what's happened. I promise you everyone will think he is a cowardly bastard, and sympathetic towards you. No stigma or stain on you at all.

Good Lord what a cunt. I'm so sorry, I hope you're ok this morning.

Thinking of you this morning OP.

Thinking of you this morning, please don't let any thoughts of shame prevent you from annulling the marriage. The shame is his, and his alone.

"Other peoples actions/reactions say more about themselves than it does about me".

Please remember this.

how are you OP? You have done nothing wrong, dont feel ashamed or worried what people will think. Fuck them. Anyone who would think badly of you because of your partners unforgivable behaviour is a wanker anyway.

How are you this morning OP?

I have had a great idea of who what you could use for a guy tonight.

Just read the thread - so very very sorry OP. Hope you managed to get some sleep and out of that hotel room.

I can only imagine how shitty yesterday must have felt. As birthday's go it must have been the worst one ever. But one thing you can garauntee is that between now and your next birthday is that time will pass and a lot can happen. You will find strength to regroup and rebuild your life. You will have experienced support from friends and family who want to help you. You will find people who love you unconditionally and understand what an utter turd burger your twat of a pseudo husband is. Your child(ren) are resilient and will get used to new normal. I'm so very sorry you have to walk this path - but it won't always feel as shitty as it does this morning.

For what it's worth we'll be here for you along the way xxx

Morning op. Have been thinking of you all night. Hope you managed to get some sleep. We're all here where we usually are when you feel ready to talk x x

Thinking of you, you know where we all are, big hugs

He's been a massive idiot, he had such a wonderful person in you and now he's thrown it all away. You will get through this, you're a very strong person and I know you can do it xx

Jesus, I can't imagine the pain you're in.
You sound like the sort of woman who will come back from this stronger than ever, and the sort whose children will be extremely proud of.
Get legal advice, don't answer the phone or door to anyone you don't want to, eat cake.

I hope you got at least a little bit of sleep last night. Be very careful driving home today xx

Morning op

Hope you ok this morning?

Get home and cuddle your lo and get on to solicitor about annulment.

Ive just seen this thread. I'm really sorry op, how are you today?

Just read this thread and oh my God!!! The man you've just married isn't a man. He isn't even a cunt (they are a bit useful, and generally attached to women, who are fucking awesome by the way).

He's a fish's tit. Utterly useless.

Have yourself a relaxing morning, do whatever to make yourself feel good, use the hotel facilities to have a swim, massage etc. if they don't have that at least use the hot water and have a lovely bath.

Call a solicitor at the earliest convenience though.

Hope your feeling better this morning OP

Morning love, how's it going?

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Do not worry what other people think. Those who know you well enough to know what happened will respect you more for not putting up with his behaviour, and who gives a crap what people who you don't know well enough to tell the whole story to, think? You're life is not a joke, you have been treated like total s*t and he's the one who is the joke (and a c**) for thinking he could have his cake and eat it.

Different situation, but I split up with my first "DH" for a lot less, and only a short time after I got married, and I was so worried about the stigma, at breaking up the family etc, but I actually had support from some surprising quarters who thought that I had done the right thing, despite the situation not being as wholly his fault as your situation is.

Your children will not suffer through you not being with him, they will be better off with their strong mama showing them that they don't have to put up with being treated like rubbish in a relationship to have a happy and fulfilling life.

It's going to be a massively difficult for awhile, and you will question your decisions (and your decision-making abilities), and you'll need to rely on close friends and family where you can, but you will get through it and eventually this will be ancient history. Good luck hun.

I am so sorry. What an absolute cunt.
Be kind to yourself & seek out RL support.

You are not trapped. You are now free from this pathetic excuse of a man.

I read this thread late last night & I have been thinking about you. I hope you managed to get some sleep.

So sorry this has happened to you, hope you are feeling 'ok'- or as ok as you can. Please look after yourself and your children-try not to give that scumbag another thought, he doesn't deserve it.

Hope you're ok this morning and managed some sleep xx

How awful. Hope today is bearable xxx

So sorry to read this. Hope you're feeling a bit better today.

Best of luck for the future. A lot of joy and happiness awaits you.

Sending you hugs and strength. You deserve more and so do your children. Seek legal advice and get rid of him ASAP. Life will get better once you are free of him. I'm sorry he has put you in this position. Xxx