It's my wedding night. I'm all alone.

[IsThisReallyHappening]

Today I got married.

This afternoon we arrived at our hotel to stay the night.

On arrival I checked my facebook to see some congratulation messages.

One message was not quite what I was expecting.

My 'husband' cheated on me 8 weeks ago.

I'm now sat here alone. On my wedding night. My 'husband' is gone.

I'm pregnant too.

I already have a child with him.

What the actual fuck has just happened to my life?

I feel trapped.

OP, I'm going to ask you a serious question (yes, I do mean serious this time), it's not going to make a blind bit of sense now, but it will in a few years if you remember what your answer is to this:

Before you met him, before the kids, before the house and all the commitments you have now...

What would you have done, if you could?

Everyone has something that they've always wanted to do but didn't. What is yours?

Well if you earn more, then it may be wise to tell somebody at the hotel that he jolted you fir another Roman shortly after you arrived - in case he maintains the marriage was consummated

Gah not Roman!

All the advice here is sound but I just wanted to say you are in my thoughts tonight.... you deserve happiness xxx

Another Roman? I think not Quint

Annulment... It'll be the best £500 you ever spent.

I'm sorry it's come to this. He's a wankbadger.

Definitely do not hide away or feel embarrassed, it's him that has let you down. YOU have nothing to be embarrassed about.

You say you wish you'd listened to your gut...good news is, it still works, all you have to do is listen to it.

NOTHING he can say can repair this, nothing. Listen to your gut. Your kids will be just fine, they have YOU!

If anyone told me that they'd found this out on their wedding day then there would be no stigma or shame attached to them.

And off topic is that a proper greasy based full fat veggie pizza? Mmm. I'm a veggie coeliac and wheaty deep pan bases are a distant happy memory.
He's a shit. She's as bad. You're the shining star.
Oh and can you face sharing her post with one good friend, just for the record?

Fucking shocking just shocking - sorry you are hurting OP.

Sit this bit out then ride forward on your anger when it kicks in. You will be strong - promise.

Next year you will reconstruct your birthday to replace this memory. Also if you must remember it, think of it as the night you escaped from a twat.

Tomorrow is your start of your lovely family life you want. All doable without a twat in tow.

Oh how bloody awful. Am so so sorry :(

I hope the pizza was nice x

I'm very sorry.

What a piece of scum.

Op I think I maybe posted on one of your threads a few weeks back but ignore me if I have got this wrong. If it is you I have often wondered how you got on.

I am so so sorry it has worked out this way. Your h is a bastard. You have done nothing wrong and have nothing to be ashamed of.

Don't be afraid to tell people what he has done. Get rl support, don't cover up for him.

Hope you are ok.

Im so sorry you have been through this. What an absolute fucking scumbag.

I'm so very sorry OP.

You have nothing to be ashamed of. And you never will, because you'll come out stronger for it. X

I've nothing constructive to add - these posts are brilliant! Cliche of the year alert: you've escaped by the skin of your teeth ... and a pizza. If this evening had gone according to plan, you'd now be married to a cheating, lying, scumbag user. Take most excellent care of yourself, IsThis, because you're certainly worth excellent care.
I'll be thinking of you

Horrible. I feel for you.

But you know what, you've saved yourself years of wasting time with a cheating bastard by finding out now. There is no stigma attached to you for this. It is all on him.

Also, don't worry about annulling the marriage or whatever. you have 2 children with him so you can't just erase him much as you would like to. Being married might put you in a better legal position down the road than not.

You are going through a horrible time. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Some day you will look back and be grateful you found out so soon. Get through tonight - even if it means raiding the mini bar, go home to your child tomorrow. This is the worst, it will get better after this.

just realised I missed loads of posts before I posted myself. some great advice here.

Enjoy that pizza.

Oh lovely, what a prick he I really is.

I've PM'ed you, I'm not going to out you (incase I'm wrong!) but come chat to us when you're ready.

^^This. I for one owe you a lot, you are awesome. If and when you're ready, we're here.

I have a feeling that it won't be too long before you're glad this happened even if the way its happened is just too awful for words.

hope your ok op x

Hope you managed to get some sleep/ company/ cake punching in.

Thinking of you OP and sending you good wishes to keep your head held high, and the energy to deal with the next few days.

Huge hugs. You know where we are if you need us (also know who you are,xxx)

Hold your head up OP. You have done nothing wrong.
You married a ghost of a man who was not worth your love. He has treated you appallingly.
You will go forward from this.

Take good care of yourself , you need to have some real life support to help you through the coming days.

How did you find out? Who told you?

Am sorry you are having to go through this.

Just adding some further support this morning OP....hope you're doing ok. At the risk of being cheesy and chucking in song to start today....Nina Simone....it's a new dawn, it's a new day, it's new life.... (not meant to be glib, just sometimes something to put on LOUD or hum can help....)

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. He's a wank stain of the highest order.
Is the hotel in his name, on his card? I'd be tempted to order the whole mini bar and most outrageous item on the menu, then waltz off at reception saying 'charge it to the cheating scumbags account'.

But then I'm a bit vindictive, you're not, you sound lovely x