Toad's Solicitor phoned me at home unannounced after hours this evening

[Karenthetoadslayer]

I thought this would call for a new thread.

As I was preparing the children's dinner, the phone rang and guess who it was? Toad's solicitor, to have a chat about contact.

I am a friendly and polite person, also was in shock, so I complied and explained to him the children's views on their father.

DS thought I was 'cool'. .

You never know what will happen at the moment.

Karen, I hate this situation. It is grossly unfair. I hope that that you get to court soon and the judge can see through his disgraceful shenanigans. So awful.

I am now really mad, Phase I really am. I am done with 'poor me' and all that. I have to fight back, no matter what.

We are preparing the application now, disgraceful shenanigans very well said. Enough is enough.

Let the fury drive you forward. You have justice, truth, righteousness, and love on tour side. He has none of those.

I am absolutely furious. Who is this bonkers, screwed up, wine guzzling, fat, insane, sorry excuse of a human being anyway, sitting in his hotel room and thinking of ways how to harass me, making up 'conditions' for settlement 'without prejudice'. You can fuck off, Toad, 'without prejudice'.

Karma

I'm so glad you are angry karen. It helps.

I hope it isn't long before you are where you want to be, and safe.

Channel that anger, Karen, use it to whip his arse.

I am feeling more confident now and finally updating my CV.

What shall I list as hobbies? Really struggling with this. Mumsnet? Litigating? There is not really much time for anything else, nor resources, as it happens.

Toad, on the other hand, has of course lots of hobbies, such as:

• gambling away the familiy assets through 'share trading'
• buying shedfuls of worthless stamps on ebay
• accumulating an expensive wine collection and now consuming said collection which brings me to the next hobby which is
• sitting in his hotel room, getting pissed and thinking of ways to harass me
• resulting in yet another hobby which is emailing me round the clock to ensure that I shall not have a peaceful life.

Buy a voodoo doll ...surely an interest in the dark arts can be classed as a hobby?

Don't forget playing with his son's train set - isn't that the reason he 'needed' it off your son?

Sudden shortage of voodoo dolls since I last checked, WWK. they are far too cute. Also, there are no fat ones. There's a marketing idea: Personalised ex husband voodoo dolls.

I battled for the train set and I wrestled it off the bastard, ptumbi.

He insists that he should have my dressing table though.

And THAT is how you will pay your solicitors' fees.

I've just been catching up on your thread. I really hope that you get away from this country, far, far, far away. The toad is one seriously sick in the head toad isn't he. Have you looked into seeing if the dc can get self-representation?

Hmm, people can send me a picture of their ex and I will create bespoke voodoo dolls - how much would these sell for? There could be budget ones as well as de luxe ones, of course.

Oh, me first!

Short, bald but with cute nose. Droopy dick.

Given I have mislaid the original....but it cost a fiver including postage. Am willing to spend more if it works...

It was the calm before the storm. After a quiet two days on the Toad-front, this morning I have received four (4) A4 pages of emailed abuse.

I would strongly suggest to Toad to make his way to Specsavers or to the Ralph Lauren version of Specsavers, to have an eye test. Where does 'making an application to the court for leave to remove the children from the jurisdiction' equal to 'I shall kidnap the children without notice'?

He will not give permission. No, Toad, I am not asking you to give permission. You misunderstood that too. I shall ask the family court to grant permission. Not your decision, I am afraid.

Also, 'I will not support the children outside the UK'. Does that refer to the children or yourself being outside the UK? If you leave the UK, that's fine, then we don't have to. But you will still have to support the children. The same applies if we leave the UK.

'My parents have to give guarantees to the court regarding their financial support of the children'. No, Toad, they don't. But you do.

Four pages of this. I am supposed to be on my 'court suit diet' to fit into my court suit asap. How can I deal with this nonsense without chocolate biscuits or bags of Haribo?

Having problems with email so can't reply until I have shiny new laptop.

Think the voodoo doll is behind all this. It is pissed off it is not in the correct home...

But but but Karen - do you mean that the court is not doing what it's told??? I certainly hope he has sent 4 (four) A4 pages of abuse to the courts too?

Yup, if the court decide that you can indeed remove the dc from Uk, then you indeed can. And he will indeed have to support them, even if not in UK, but his parents won't have to.

I certainly hope the court realise that forcing you and the dc to stay in the UK against your wishes, and with non-mols against him - as he can;t see them anyway, nor do they want to see him - would just be bloody stupid.

Stay angry, karen - not difficult in the face of such twattery.

He is completely derranged. Did you ever ask for him to be subject to psych test?

Karen, I just want you to know I'm rooting for you. I'm thinking of you so much and wish I had literally anything helpful to say.

ptumbi I misquoted this: He means for my parents to support the children. He stated that if we leave the UK he will not have to support the children, but my parents had to and they would have to guarantee this to the court.

He also stated that 'because of you we all had a miserable year' meaning me, of course. No, Toad, we had a fab time, we went on two camping trips and another short break and generally did what we wanted to do. We also saw our family. The kids are happy, relaxed, laugh a lot and there is not that horrid remark in their otherwise immaculate school reports anymore that 'they have low confidence'. They are confident, happy kids, having fun. Messing around. Getting muddy. They are also not getting bullied anymore. Apart from their mum, of course. But this will stop soon, I hope.

We are all in agreement that he has a screw loose. If and when he takes me to court about contact, we will ask for a mental health test and submit these emails. It may be a mental health condition as well, which brings me back to 'my partner just said to DS that I am going to die soon, is that ok', March 2013 thread.

Anyway, we went out to a Christmas market after school and I had a well deserved mulled wine that I shared with DS.

But at the moment I am in the eye of the hurricane, he is now targeting my solicitor.

Oh Phase you always have something helpful to say. You got me through 2013 and beyond.