Dating Thread 82

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Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

Sigh, it would appear so. Comforting to readers here though that both sexes encounter them

Hi everyone, coffee date on Thursday,spoke on phone tonight seems nice down to earth, but then I always think that. I'll call him Mr Gym ( has to be better than Mr Farter ) lol,:)

The date was ok till he said he thought I was no polar

I've never had a one night stand before it's just not my thing I feel awful now sex was t even that good
He said he could fall for me and should he cancel his date for today I've said not to as it not fair on her.

He wanted to see me today but I said I couldn't ,I have no plans but I didn't feel like it.

He thought you where Bi-Polar?
On what basis did he make that judgement?

Did you like him Jesy? Really like him?
If you did and want to get to know him you don't have to see him today you could say a day sometime in the next coming week?

I have no idea about the bipolar, I do have issues but I'm not bipolar , there were questions about ocd as well.

I liked him in away but this will sound awful but I have my own problems and he seems to have his and I can't look after someone else.

I don't think I'd feel so bad if we'd not had sex that was a huge mistake

Hilarious stories Oxy & good point about overthinking - just wondering what men/you are doing while we are fretting?
Btw I genuinely like rugby & have been known to explain it to blokes(!) but wouldnt have taken offence at yr comment

Who the fuck is he to question you on your mental health jesy? Tell him to fuck off. Him and his crap sex

You're not a tart. We're allowed to have sex whenever we like, as long as it's consenting adults, it's all good.

That's shit hissy I'd never actually considered a man would be nervous about a date, but makes sense esp if its a first in a while.

Looking serious (yet highly
intelligent) on your profile pic, oxy

enjoy footy, go and watch Reading as often as poss, and ds has jst started rugby training with a friend so we took them to watch london irish at the same stadium.

rugby players are WAY more gorgeous to watch than the footy players

Dolly
He not even bothered to text this am which I'm kinda glad

I've just never had a one night stand before , he upset me suit g it calling it fucking .

Just feel so alone today

Ah hissy you are obviously living in my area re football and rugby team !! such a shortage of decent guys !!

Jesy.. he is a tool pure and simple!

You did nothing wrong.. Loads of us have had one night stands!
As for him not texting well that's his choice I guess. How did you leave it with him ?
Next time lay off the sex. Take it very slowly.

Lots of people feel alone Jesy. Its a horrible feeling but it does and will pass ..

Maria - usually we have something minor going on and are just poor at multi-tasking and communicating or we're thinking the same thing as you - did/does she still like me, why haven't I heard from her, where's that x she used to put on texts? I'm sure the no-contact rule/game has lots to answer for. Always though if you want to make contact you should and screw this responding to texts x hours/mins after receipt. The net is full of poor dating advice, best to trust your gut and also occasionally be a fool rather than miss out on a good thing because of some equally frustrated bitter blogger :) Regarding rugby, cheers - it appears she was just sensitive then and the comment wasn't offensive.

Imnotyourbabes - maybe that's what's putting them off? Just off out to get a baseball cap and dumb it down a bit. Joking!! Cheers though :)

Hissy - exactly (re Rugby players). It appears she may have been more interested in the game than dreaming of being trapped between vice like calves (as I loosely imagine some women may!)

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He was ok n he texted last night to see if I was ok.
The sex was rubbish even if Mr IT did t care least he asked me if I was ok n what he doing was ok for me.
Hate to say it but couldn't even feel anything Sorry to bitchy

Jesy - you seem to be going from one disaster to another. I feel for you.

Not meaning to have a go and, adults can have ONS if they like but you've gone from mentioning someone getting upset with you for getting pregnant in the past from a ONS (posted only a couple of days ago) to saying you've never had one and feel shamed by it?

No need to feel shamed of course - you're an adult. Maybe some time out from dating is a better plan? I know at times when I've felt pulled from pillar to post I've settled for anyone rather than the right one just for some semblance of affection. We all want to be loved at the end of the day but not taken advantage of.

The ons was with an ex bf it wasn't a stranger so I don't think of it that way.

Hey it's not end of world I guess and if he'd actually liked .she's have te Ted this am .

Feel stupid more than ashamed like my ex said move on next date n least it date not crazy lol
He having trouble lol

Feeling a bit better sod him lol

Potential date in week with some one who live close to me it sort of happened due to miscommunication lol

Last night one of those things I guess I did nothing wrong x

Plan for day roast dinner and a film

The potential date said he'll text later if he does he does but if he do t well not going to have head in oven

Jesy perhaps you're right and perhaps he's also sat thinking "if she liked me she'd have texted".

On reflection it didn't seem that you were that into the guy so perhaps a good thing you don't have to disappoint him?

Onwards and upwards

I did send last text, he has a date today anyway x

I did l I ke him but had doubts , but think the stuff about my mental health is a bit odd ,

Onwards n up wards

'trapped between vice like calves'? Oxy.

i'm not an expert in anything, but it's not the calves that'd be of much use, either in rugby or much else i'd imagine

dippin you from round these parts? cool! i'm in't countryside, about 20mins or so away from the stadium/M4.

i know i'd counsel anyone here to wait and do nuffin, but would it be daft/silly/stalkerish/ill-advised to message MrBlowOut?

offer to take it at his pace?

I know that there's no chance of either of us finding anyone even remotely as potentially suited as we are. think lightning strike kinda odds.

I know that there was a time when I wan't ready to date and was terrified of everyone and everything. if MrPerfect pitched up then I doubt i'd have been able to have met him due to my fears.

or am I being an idiot? i'm currently thinking that if there really isn't any chance ever of anything, then to potentially humiliate myself just once by clarifying this would be ok. I just want to know if he'd consider seeing how things went if at his pace?

I did kind of force the issue by having the unexpected child free night (rarer than hen's gold teeth) so asked him out only a couple of days after first contact. ordinarily i'd have left it for him to ask, and/for another week I reckon before making meet up noises.

if this were just anyone, i'd really seriously not bother, but I really do think there's something so potentially interesting, I don't want to give up at the first speed bump if a little less oomph is all that's needed.

if he says no/no way there's ever anything going to happen, then that's all. i'll accept it and move on.

Hissy I think it's worth a shot - I messaged again when the most compatible man ever (in cyberspace) suddenly went silent....never heard back but I don't regret giving it a try

In retrospect I meant thighs Missy

Omg I have . My ex as in Mr IT trying to set me up on a date he text saying I have no taste in men so need help

End of message said we didn't work but I care about you sausage x

Daft sod but I said why not but set conditions
A job
Can travel
Not mad
Tall

Am I fussy lol

jesy I thought you'd deleted/blocked Mr IT?