Dating Thread 82

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Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

Blossom I think its called 'being jaded'
Go & have fun, one of us needs to ... you are the chosen one.

I enjoyed my child free shopping. I bought wine along with the boring stuff.

My cancelled date has messaged to say how gutted he is that he had to work & he really wants to see me. I have made up a rule for myself - everyone deserves a second chance, but 2 cancellations in a row = fuck off & move on.

Hissy thanks for taking the time to give that great advice.
So, in the interests of our potential future he's agreed to start building a bit of distance with ex.
Yes I'm over excited and probably over invested but I feel he's being completely open and honest with me about everything. I'm sure there'll be things that are not so good so am just enjoying it and will see where it leads.

remember Alone it's early days, enjoy it all, don't get too anguished, it's supposed to be fun at this early stage of the relationship.

Hi all..
still no word from Mr Unavailable.. I don't expect there to be now.. He got what he wanted.
It hurts but less than yesterday.. so on I go..

Wanted to say thanks for all the advice earlier today.. it really helped me!!

Blossom I hope you have gone on your date ... update us later ..
Babes in full agreement with your two strikes and your out rule..

Hmm how long should I leave it before attempting to get back in the saddle so to speak?

Pof is being very strange tonight

I just had to block one guy, he was continuously asking what I was on pof for & then got really arsey because I wasn-t replying how he wanted me to.
Another guy, seemed v nice, a bit of flirting. I then find out I'm talking to his bisexual sister?? I honestly don't know who Im talking to.
And 20/20 has been in touch. I've lost interest in him now.
????

Blossom, how did the date with Mr Fireman go ?
IMNOT , Jezo, the Bi sexual sister , you couldn't make it up could you Lol

Hi all
blossom did you go for said date? if so how was it?
Blimey IMNOT- maybe POF is one I should avoid? lol.

Well am still totally hacked off with Mr Unavailable. What an utter twunt!! I feel like sending him a really arsey text but if I do he may fire a nasty bullet back at me. Its a big lesson learned for me.. This will sound odd probably but I really like the smell of him?! Chemistry? rest off him was pretty mediocre to be frank.. But that's it no overnight stays in the first week EVER again.
So im off the site for a bit but I did message one guy with my number saying I was coming off. We have a date lined up.. ever hopeful eh ..

I fear that on-line dating is making me massively judgemental. I have found myself discarding men because of the following:

Poor spelling/grammar
Pics of them with their children
Pics of them with other girls

And then there's the bloody questions!

"Would you prefer to date someone of your own race/ethnic origin?" - "yes" = Rascist

"Is jealousy healthy in a relationship?" - "Yes" = Psycho

Arrrhhh. It's all too much!

Arranged a date for Sat , he seems very shy and sweet maybe not going for bad boy type be good x
He been honest about his depression ext so hopefully not hiding anything.

holler I'm the same with discarding potential dates. I don't respond to anyone showing a bare chested photo either!

Morning all, Well date was awful probably one of the the worse I have been on. Met he was quite boring looked okish, not my type really. We were there and hour, in that time I found out about his X and divorce
(how he came out with nothing), some tales about dating and woman being boring, or not what they say they were, we had a drink I offered to buy him a drink back and said no he needed to go, was happy to go along with that.
Next !!!!
Have a date with X tonight, at least I know what I am in for.

I've decided after a spell of not being on MN to rejoin the thread.

So far I am seeing (but 2 dates) a 45 year old professional who's separated from his partner (for 2 years) and has a 2 year old who he sees about 3 weekends out of 4. We met on a dating site, I'm off it (subscription ran out) and he is still on it but apparently not using it. We were supposed to meet last night but I was ill with a cold. We text most days and he seems nice.

Kent Lad (if anyone remembers him) is still chasing my tail as the saying goes. We met up in summer and he was hopeful for a rekindle of a relationship but with regard to my needs he can't meet one of them.

So that's my love life or lack of it in a nutshell!

Oh can I tell you lot about my dates with lets call him Jamie Theakston lookalike (as that's apparently who he looks like!).

First date was in a satay bar/restaurant - really easy, very relaxed, I felt I talked too much but it flowed well and much laughter. He tried to kiss me at the end of the date but I wasn't ready for that. We texted after and I suggested cinema the following week to see Gone Girl. We met up briefly for a drink before cinema. And saw the film together. It went well. I suggested meeting up with him most times as a) he has his daughter a few weekends and b) he also sees her after work if he can but he is free some evenings. Is this coming on too strong or not? I'm an organised type of person.

superfly Welcome back. Seems like you are doing just fine, JT sounds great. Unlike me back back to scratch again

One of us has to say it Blossom - stay away from the ex. He is an ex for a reason and will prevent you from being available emotionally for when Mr Right comes along. Sorry Mr Fireman date was boring but move on to the next ........

Minmooch I know of course you a right. I am enjoy my time with him though but as you know it has not stopped me dating though.

As some of you know I don't have a job my fa.ily are away at weekend n have given me pocket money lol so I have money for bus fair and a drink o. Sat
I don't know what to wear I don't have many things that fit I have a nice black skirt n a spotty top .
I'd love to go get a new top but o can do

No benifit and the days work I did I won't get paid till about two weeks.so stuck

jesy Not sure men notice too much what you wear, important thing is that you feel good and comfortable.

Not sure date will happen yet

jesy I agree with what Blossom says but I think your outfit sounds fine. In a way I think you don't need loads of new clothes but you do need something that makes you feel confident whether it's an old dress etc that makes you feel amazing etc.

Date just got blown out. Had a feeling it would ALL day, god knows why!

Ball in his court to rearrange...

So Mr. Music and I arranged to see each other tomorrow night. Then today he texts me saying that he's been on s few dates with this other girl and he told her he was seeing me this weekend. She has asked him not to because she wants to be 'exclusive' and although he would really like to see me again he wants to give things a go with her. Doesn't want to mess us both around, not that sort of person etc... how fucking noble of him

So sorry Holler

Jesy, don't worry what you wear, just have fun!

Hissy, you're right, leave it to him to rearrange.

I haven't heard from the guy I had 3 dates with. I'm sad because I really liked him, but I'm not gonna dwell on it anymore.

I have been speaking to a guy for a couple of weeks that I get on well with. We have plans to meet next weekend. We message every day and seem to like the same things, he has a great sense of humour. Only thing is in in London and he's a bit of a way away.

Thank sublimecorpse. More annoyed at the waste of time and petrol than anything else. Mr. Rugby is away this weekend so it's out with a mate tonight. Wine shall be drunk and men will be moaned about.

he's deleted his OKC account. he's bottled it hasn't he? shame, cos there really were so many thing in common.

if he has blown me out, he's an idiot.