Dating Thread 82

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Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

Thanks guys
I'll call agency in the morning I'm really not happy about situation and need to speak up.
For a start I can't be getting so upset I'm sick

On dating front the d a te at museum man seems a go not sure when tho , bless him he even Said he pay.

Forgot to say saw Mr IT post a out his date and you know what nothing and even when I passed him in traffic I waved but none of the omg why isn't he with me lol

After the ok ish day it was no e to have a te t off a friend , we had a sort of fling last year but then he disappeared from life
There wasn't a full fling but we had a great time.
He is probably the one that got away lol but he another Mr no commitment God I can pick them

Hi all..
Im still feeling shaky this morning and utterly disappointed!

Jesy - your not alone by any means. Think I have the crown on picking total tossers..

Sublime - no I not in London. But our experiences are sounding similar..
Have you heard from yours? Hugs to you as If you are feeling like me its vile..

Hissy - thanks for your wise words..

Well have had no texts from Mr unavailable.. despite me sending several yesterday.. However he has rang me several times
I didn't answer as Im getting the feeling he needs to voice my failings to me to justify the end.. I just wanted a simple text to say what was what.. But no and if im honest I didn't want him to know just how much this has hurt me..
God this is ridiculous at my age!!

newstart it's not ridiculous at all. You're hurt & it stings - I think everyone of us on here knows how that feels.
No more texting him, he's not worth your time or energy.
Distract yourself. I've realised that super sexy but slow Mr 20/20 will not be in touch again. He was hot! BUT to take my mind off him I've just taken up pole dancing classes - covered in bruises now, but it's fun

Thanks imnotyourbabes
Ive no intention of texting the twat :-))
He def does not need the ego boost!
Bloody hec I just keep remembering the speil he gave me ! I definitely did not have my twat radar on!
Yes I think I built him up in my head to be something he was not. It just he was even banging on about us going away!!

Well lesson learned the hard way !!
Distraction is what I need for certain..Think im going to lay off the dating for a while until I feel stronger..

New start,

I have had one who changed his mind about me then got angry after I got pregnant after a one night stand.

The druggy

Mr IT

Mr gorrila ,but he asked me out I texted back saying not being a secret tho , he said km asking you to his best mates birthday

Off topic. But any one know stuff about vomiting syndrome

Newstart I'm so sorry you're going through this too. I has someone disappear after date 3 and DTD - it sucks. I was devastated, unnecessarily so as I didn't really know him. Have realised it was because I built him up in my head to someone that I wanted to be with, not who he actually was.

I now think it was a good thing to happen. Learnt my lesson about being 'needy' and looking for more that I'm ready for. Now taking it slower with other guys I'm chatting to and not building up a future in my mind (even unconsciously)!

So I will be in a better place when I do meet the guy who might be longer term.

It will get better

Morning all

daters newstart, I have been thinking about this when people cut contact after DTD and have a different slant on things. It happens to me a few times when I started OLD, I was out of a very long relationship and went a bit crazy. Anyhow point is I have been seeing MR Italian for maybe 10 dates and then DTD, this has made me want to end things as quite frankly we are not sexually compatible. Can't help thinking this can happen a lot. Sometimes it just does not work but think it would be hard to tell someone, I certianly not tell mr Italian
Have date with MR Fireman tonight and have decided to go ahead, though he seems a little aloof but we have not met yet so should give him a chance

blossom yes I think I went a bit crazy with hindsight.. It was just I felt a real connection or chemistry with him and thought he felt the same..
Feel ridiculous now .. I think the worst of it was he kept on asking all through the short time we dated am I sure I want to carry on? Do I like him e t c? Then there was the talking of us doing thing together in the future- all His suggestion..
I was seeing a man a while ago and we of course were dtd.. but the point is we didn't talk about our connection and future plans. That went on for months. This will sound callous but I felt not a lot when it ended.. but this!! its been weeks and it feels gut wrenching!

Hope your date goes well tonight blossom

I know just can't fathom some people out. He sounds very insecure fwiw. And for goodness sake do not feel ridiculous, it happens. He was obviously not for you, but one will be out there. Well that is what I keep telling myself.

Hope so Blossom.. I meet the charmer on a dating site. Am still on there but right now at least I cant face it. Are you on a site?

My 10yr younger guy wants to rearrange. I knew it was a possibility with the nature of his work.
I'm still going to get my mum to babysit though, & do some child free food shopping.

Hope date goes well blossom

Blossom that's a good point re compatibility in bed.

I guess it's a fine balance between doing it soon enough that you know you are sexually compatible vs long enough to deter blokes who just want a leg over (if you don't want the same).

I was linking sex with love (or at the very least a real liking for each other), as that's what I'd known for the last 14 years with exH. Mr DTD man has helped me see they aren't connected. And now I'm thinking I wouldn't mind having a bit of fun

newstart yes on several sites POF, OKCupid, Match and Plentymore fish. Find POF and Match the best. OKCupid seems full weirdos and young boys, wanting to do all sorts of weird and wonderful things lol
Imno Sorry to hear that, such a pain when you have to arrange a baby sitter, I am lucky as my youngest is 14 so very little restriction really.

Imnotyourbabes - shopping sans children sounds good, take the chance while you can!

daters there you go that's the attitude. After a drought leaving my long term relationship and needed a bit of fun and gave me a bit of confidence back. Saying that now I am really hopeful to find someone to build a relationship but that seems a big ask.

So have been messaging Mr Fireman all week and we had agreed a date tonight except I have heard nothing from him today. Learning from experience I will not text him and now expect them to do a bit of running. Am I being harsh/silly?

Is he on duty Blossom?

No he has retired now does training and self employed. To be honest I am not bothered I have learnt not to have any expectations these days, easy that way so cannot get disappointed

Maybe cos all the details are arranged, and he'll be seeing you later...

see how it goes later.

No we have not arranged a time only the place. I may have to pick DS later because, all getting a bit complicated anyhow

have you texted to ask what time? have you called him to ask?

why is this not nailed down? :-S

I had said 7 ish looking back on text but kind of thought he would have texted today no?

Back on POF and he's still online, still looking, changed his tag line to "ready to give up"

He's coming up in all my searches, he's on my top prospects, there's no getting away from him.

I really want to message him but I know I'll come across as a psycho

Ah just had text asking if we are still on, I really am not in the mood but know I should go. I used to get so excited about dates, what is wrong with me?