Dating Thread 82

[steelchic]

Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

Blossom it's been almost a year. NO TIME AT ALL THEN. SLOW DOWN!

Things between us have got pretty serious pretty quickly but this issue is causing big problems. RED FLAG, RED FLAG, RED FLAG

Slow down. This is ridiculous. the fact that you call him MrPerfect is a red flag in itself. SLOW DOWN. You don't know him at all.

Date is Friday night Imnot can't wait.

My date is younger (3yrs) shares my 2nd language - although different country of origin.

His past is remarkably similar to mine, he's creative, I've almost 20yrs working in creative industry, his ex was abusive, mine too. he's had therapy and is cool about it all, so have I. religion (loathing of it) - tick

All boding well. for now.

I really will try and do the Loo update, promise!

I think it is far to early on the put on pressure on him tbh. A lot of people remains friends with X's.

hissy sounds promising. Still debating whether to cancel Mr Fireman on Thursday. He sounds very chilled we exchange odd couple of message a day and he wanted to arrange date and prepared to travel to me, so should make the effort

Blossom don't cancel. Just tell him if you are still not 100% for the teeth - are they being fixed btw? I have a good gum guy if you need one..

SublimeCorpse If he changed his tune so fast after dtd, it's understandable you were disappointed.

Was the sex even worth it? Maybe he was all talk and no trousers!

Ultimately if you can't handle rejection after sex, better to avoid sex. I would have been miffed not to hear anything the next day, fwiw.

hissy Have appointment tomorrow, will see results of x rays and hopefully a plan of action. Teeth seem fairly stable just askew and look horrible.

stable is good! all being well they might be able to brace them back! do you have medical ins?

Would it put you off if you knew some one on antidepressants

Put you off what jesy ?? Having a relationship with them? Wouldn't make any difference to me, I know lots of people on ADs. Why do you ask?

eek, the last bloke has just called, during bathtime, so let it ring. he's done that on purpose, I told him after 9 is best, he rang at half 8.

I do need to call him back at some point, but what do I say? could wait til tomorrow and send him a message saying I was out (not exactly a porky pie)

Hi all,
still relatively new to this OLD game..
Well had a third date with someone I met online..
Ended up just stopping short of DTD.. close though..
I stayed over at his also.. Like him quite a lot..
hmmm... hardly heard from him all day today.. Had a good morning text and I know he was at work until elevenish today.. He s on a night shift tonight... so will have been sleeping... but no text all day !!
Am thinking too much? should I just leave it to see IF he contacts me.. ahhhh hate all this..

two words.
don't panic.

what will be will be. see what happens. even if the worst does happen, you're only 3 dates in.

Well, here's my Match.com update. To recap, I joined two nights ago as a paid member. I have had contacts by 38 men - some that were just sending "form emails" to me because I was a "New Member". One local guy contacted me 3x (no photo) and then a couple contacted me 2x. About 160 men viewed my profile. I have not responded to anybody yet.

There are some potential men, I see. I am older (51) and what surprises me is how OLD men in their 50s look.

I saw several men in their late 20s looked at my profile but none of them reached out. That's tempting, I have to admit. A fling with a young stud.

There is a Happy Hour event coming up and I am tempted to attend and there are still openings. Another Happy Hour event is already full. I noticed their week long New Years cruise is sold out. Now THAT sounds like fun!!

Imnot

He was honest said he was on medication and named them and I know one is an antidepressant

He still out n about so that good and has asked me out to a museum

Just concerned over depression thing

Hissy - so the red flag, do you mean I'm rushing into things and calling him MrPerfect, I hadn't really thougt about it.

jesy it's good that he is being honest with you. I really wouldn't over think it - he's taking medication for an illness. Enjoy the museum date!

Wrap, I know what you mean. I'm also 51 but I do look younger. I've notice that some guys in their 50 do look soooo old, but I find they are looking for younger women .... What's that all about. I went to one of the Match nights last year. It was so depressing all these fat, balding middle aged guys chasing after women in 20/30's I haven't been back to any more that's not to say I won't but it did put me off. I had only joined Match at the time. My friend and I spoke to a couple of women who were our age and seasoned OLDers they said this was the norm :(.

Steel wrap I am 49 and look @ most men my age and think they look soooo old ( Mr Fireman an exception but then is photo might be really old, lol, I will let you know tomorrow) I am always being contacted by much younger men but just don't want to go there. Just don't understand what boys in their 20's year would want to see someone of my age

blossom, maybe the 20 y olds fantasise about sex with older women?? Seems that way with the ones who contact me.
Nodding in agreement to men claiming to be my age looking prehistoric. Maybe the men say the same about us? We're all deluded
Date tomorrow with a guy who is 10 yrs younger than me. Should be interesting

Imno Well I suppose we do have hair dye and makeup. I actually think many mane are actually lying about their age. Sometimes when people contact me I think WTAF, don't mean to sound conceited or arrogant but they would not chat you up in a million years in RL. Seems people get brave behind a screen. Good luck with mr 10 years younger

FFS, just had an email from a 52 year old. Not too bad looking but I wouldn't look twice at him in RL and IMO he looks a bit older. He said " I don't usually email women your age (51!!!) but you do look younger. I checked his profile he's looking for someone 25/45. These guys are deluded if he went out with anyone under 40 he would look like their father. Aaargggh

steel just makes me laugh, twats aren't they.

I have just messaged a really hot looking 40. Bet is is not even his photo. Apparently Accountant, never seen one look like that, got to have bit of fun on a Tuesday morning

Lying about their age. That has to be it. I see men in their 50s in real life and none look as old as these fellows on Match. I may have to move my upper age limit down a few years. I did go 10 years younger and 10 years older as my range, but maybe I should only go 5 years older to account for men being less than honest.

I suspect no photo means married. (??) Anyone have any experience with the No Photo Men? And don't get me started on the men wearing sunglasses in their pictures!

One guy Winked at me last night and, oh my, his picture - so my type!! I haven't logged on to check his profile yet, but will in a couple of days. But dang. I hope he's one the real ones, the locals.

No photo NC, either married or to ashamed to put photo on because err not so attractive, for me NC with men pictured with kids, lounging on a car ( that probably not belong to them anyway), cuddly a woman, bare chested, loads of tattoos or piercings and anyone who rants about what they are not looking for. Shit probably not much left