Dating Thread 82

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Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

Well Mr Gardener called on the phone for 40 mins, sounds nice and wants to meet for a date. Happy to meet him, we share a lot of similar interests a good start I suppose.

Evening all

After saying I wasn't ready yet for dating I went out on Saturday and met someone, I'm due to meet him in 45 minutes and the nerves are kicking in.

He isn't a stranger, we have lots of mutual friends. We have bumped into each other a few times since I separated from STBXH and had a chat etc. Saturday we ended up in the same group; copious amounts of alcohol were involved, he kept asking me to partner him at pool ( which I haven't played in 20 years) and walked me home (to the door only). I felt about sixteen again!!

(Un)fortunately texting is an important factor these days. I am not really into it but the "kids" certainly are!

Anyway, thanks all for your advice-I will give "Ms Quiet" another shot tomorrow night and see how I feel after that...

Hello & welcome to Rioux

Monday seems to have picked up!

I'm having a bit if a kid in a candy store moment

20/20 wants to go out for date 3. Is date 3 significant in any way??

Mr Beard (33yo) has told me he's removing his profile. He's v sweet & full of lots of compliments. We haven't even met yet.

An ex (not one of the abusive ones)

Wants to meet up nxt month when he's in the area for a work thing.
Happy days
hissy how goes the Skype date?

oh mon dieu... ze accent ees to die fooouuurr.

and he thinks i have got a sexy voice...

funny that. my abusive ex used to really go on at me about how awful my voice was, too like a man, too loud, used to mime the turning down the volume if ever I spoke to him about anything tricky. both MrPerfectOnPaper and MrFrancais lurve my voice... god my ex was/is a prick eh?

he didn't do camera, because he was in bed, but demain he will be back en Paree and we'll 'see' each other..

an hour on the skype call, loads in common in terms of thinking about stuff yeah I known been there before.. whatever

I dunno, is it a delicious waste of time? he'll come over eventually for work, and we'll meet..

eek!

welcome rioux, another bloke? that's great!

I love having men on Mumsnet, gives a good balance, and on dating thread super insightful!

oh. emm. gee... just realised. mrfrancais has in little known secret that he sleeps naked...

he was in the nip during our call, wasn't he?

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha hahahhahahahah

Naked first date. Fast mover.

well.. I was in my jimjams

it's just a bit of fun for now. it's not going to 'be' anything at all.

Welcome Rioux always good to get a mans opinion.
Hissy Having fun is always a good thing, I had a lovely Italian man I emailed for months and he put a smile on my face and was great fun, I knew we would never meet but it was a connection.

My night out was fun , he was working but spent lots of time with me.
I enjoyed myself it was good for me to get out and we got on well.

Been messaging a guy off pof , he seems nice but messages are a bit in depth and I think he could be to serious for me.

As for Mr V he texted me at 5:30 am , think it will be just a text thing with him .

Morning all right I want some thoughts on this. Have been messaging Mr Gardener for a short time and spoke on the phone for the first time last nigh. We have loads in common, loved if voice a bit posh like me lol, and tall apparently. He wants to meet up asap. continued to message last night and again this morning, is being a bit full on actually, nothing to explicit but how he would like to be snuggling up in bed, saying he is good in bed ( have heard that one before and been disappointed) just seemed a strange thing to say before you have met someone, might not even fancy each other. Don't know what to make of it really.

Rioux Numbers game really... it's all BS till you meet the person..

as I KEEP telling myself

There IS no real world for dating when you have kids at home, we can't go out to clubs and pubs in the hope that we'll meet someone. at work everyone is partnered or half our age. I don't tend to meet anyone in the mad dash between work/cm/school/activities..

Online is the only way I could meet someone. I hate it cos it's all backwards, you find out all the info, do the talking, the flirting THEN you meet in RL.

Blossom

I had a similar thing I'll CALL him Mr s, he was very full on, even to the point of him suggesting I stopped the pill so we could have a baby.
That type of behaviour frightens me and I back away.

I think we all want the happy medium.

I hate fact that old is pretty much my only option I know ppl have said about meeting groups and I looked into it but nothing local to me, unless you count the rambling group lol

Blossom Turning conversation into talking about getting intimate before meeting in person makes me think the guys horny. Approach with caution, he might just be after some fun.

Hissy I would love to meet a man RL while sipping my coffee at costa for the one hour a week I get to without kids. Its hard enough getting a smile out of strangers let alone going up to good looking strangers and asking them about themselves and giving out numbers. Does anyone do that in RL while out shopping. Even out drinking it seems people are in groups of girls and boys. For two months I flirted and exchanged looks and smiles with a man in my coffee shop but neither of us had the balls to say hi. Sad I know.

Now I'm trying to date but feel anxious about the whole process except the intimate bit.

jesy Nothing quite so heavy as that. You man sounded like a nutter, do don't half to know how to attract them
gotta it has made me cautious and have told him this, said to hold off sex stuff as might not even fancy each other, he said he is amazing in bed and loves sex, yea don't well all but has to be with someone you fancy right.

There IS no real world for dating when you have kids at home, we can't go out to clubs and pubs in the hope that we'll meet someone. at work everyone is partnered or half our age. I don't tend to meet anyone in the mad dash between work/cm/school/activities..

blossom that sounds a bit much for me. I am pretty forward and open minded but am not really happy with things getting too hot and heavy before I have met someone as what if you meet them and have an eugh moment. there is always going to be a bit of a fantasy v reality thing going on.

very true. Although rioux we are not ALL active. I am just hanging out having been dumped and have absolutely no plans to do anything for quite some time ever again ----. that said I did meet the dumper on pof and I do still talk to other people I met OLD purely in a chit chat way. I am coming to the conclusion that if I keep trying and I keep failing then it is probably not something I am really cut out for (I am great at the messaging and dating bit. generally get asked out again. it is just the rs bit that I suck at, apparently.)

sorry that very true should be below bit from hissy

mink Well has asked him to back off a bit see what happens. I too am very open minded, would be great but have been doing this long enough to know people are often soo different in RL, good and bad

Hugs Rioux lets him off the your/you're catastrophe.

this once....

Blossom
It was a shame as on paper her was perfect x