Dating Thread 82

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Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

To add me ,that should say sorry was trying to post before phone died.

superstar "I recently dtd with a guy who id been talking to for a while. He went coldef and is now ignoring me. I feel like its my fault as I told him he was far too full on after 1 date. He then went colder after sex."

erm... why did you dtd with someone who already made you feel uncomfortable? His too full on is a red flag for a starting point. the faster they warm up, the faster they cool.

He is blowing hot and cold, you have told him you don't like/accept it (GOOD FOR YOU!!) and he as DTD and done more of the same.

WTF is there to really like in this guy? He will give you grief along the line and is a head case. RUN walk away now.

We have a RIGHT to expect decent treatment from day one. We have an obligation to ourselves to ask for and get respect and refuse to tolerate hot/cold bollocks.

Bin him, he's not good enough for you. keep people at arms length until you know they are not in it just for a shag. Don't be so eager to please THEM, please yourself first.

I have a MrFrancaise who is wanting to skype and arrange a visit on his next trip to the UK.... Ooh la la!

i have a MrPortuguese who seems nice too. Might see if he's free over the weekend, seeing as I am on my own sem planos

MrOriginallyGerman is a little full on, not sure about him yet, but it's keeping me busy.

Thanks for the advice Anissa. I have no idea whi I feel so crappy about it. He's not worth it tbh. He's not even that good looking but I found him very sexy.

Tbh I have no idea why we shagged. One minute we were kissing the next er... You know!

He sounds dangerous tbh, manipulative and mind game playing. ditch him. he isn't worth it.

The thing that pissed me off most about this guy is that when I told him he was too full on he calmed down to " normality". When he went cold after sex I called him up on it he said " well you told me I was too full on." He's a nightmare isn't he?
Trouble is his manipulation made ME feel like the crazy one.

Onwards and upwards. I feel less crappy now.

Bats Photo were lovely, everyone always comments when they meet me that I look exactly like my pis, which if th point I think. I had no choice but to get some done as did not have one photo of me alone.
super don't feel bad going cold after DTD seems to happen quite a bit, we have talked about this quite a bit. Has happened to me the other way around. Sometimes people are not compatible, nothing wrong just a fact really

The sex was good but he was definitely a lights off kind of a guy whereas I'm a lights on expressive type. He told me it was good and texted me afterwards but his tone had changed.

I just hate that feeling when your not sure what you have done wrong. Or if it's you or him. Or blaming yourself for every tiny thing you could have said. Confusing.

super Met a few confusing men and its horrible to question your own actions. I made the misjudgment of DTD on first date and the bloke went weird, few months later he text me and I ignored him but I felt intense chemistry.

I have been dating a guy for over month, holding hands and he even helps me shop. Anyway I asked on here about when to approach the exclusive thing, I mentioned it to him last night. He said he don't go on pof, load of bull. He was on this week and Today. I never bothered to check but I like to know where I stand. I think he's leading me on a merry dance and all the public hand holding and invites to his work mates bonfire night is him using me. I hate OLD right now, think he's keeping me hanging on and still looking. I am going to ignore him and see if he bothers. Feel shit about myself now and confused because I obviously don't have a clue. This bloke is giving me mixed messages, not text all day but said the other day that he cant wait to see me..WTF, am I mental or what.

In anyone on here's experience, is ever dating someone who is clearly insecure and lacking in confidence going to end well? Been chatting to a fella who seems nice enough but we've not even arranged a date and he's already overanalysing and doing what we on here would call 'over investing'. I've asked him to back up a bit and think I may have been a little harsh but did say that if he could perhaps stop sabotaging it before we've even met then maybe we could have a chat soon with a view to meeting up. But I'm not sure if I want to go down this road.... Does someone like this really just need "the love of a good woman" or will I just end up counselling him?

Just read thread, its so unfair how men go with the sex and then treat women like were not worthy. So a woman who Is sexual Is a turn off or not a worthy future partner. Could wait a few months and find out the blokes no good or a freak in bed.Maybe we are more open and excepting than men. My mum keeps telling me this bloke i am dating is not up to scratch so why am I putting up with all this stress. Can you tell I'm in a ranting mood...sorry.

IMNOT and everyone else, thanks for the advice. Going to start thinking about a profile soon.

HISSY sounds fun, glad you are bouncing back,

Is he really worth all the stress & angst gotta ? Listen to your mum.

juju I think you would end up counselling him. He sounds like hard work before you've even met. It could be really draining having to reasure someone all the time.

Think you're right BABES, I want a mutually supportive relationship. Been someone's crutch before and it was a nightmare. He's also got a beard which I'm not keen on!! You're a lucky woman liking them, seems to be effing impossible to find a bloke without one these days!!

Gotta
You rant away huni it's fine , that why we here for each other x

Not sure what I'm doing dating wise , tonight was meant to be mY birthday night out but not going out I'd booked a table at local pub but no one wanted to come ,I guess I'm no longer part of group , I had one yes but she had a baby 3 weeks early yesterday so no go lol.
Nothing off Mr V but we'll see , did text this morning yes I know I'm weak and regretted it min I sent it lol

Just a few observations off pof or any dating site

Why do men feel it's ok to be suggestive so soon , if in a pub they'd be slapped
My children are my life comment , I'd be concerned if they were not
The pictures of skiing ext , so you have an exciting life lol
Headless pics , I'm sorry a lot of dating starts with physical attraction , which is human nature lol
Lies in profile I know of one who states he goes gym etc but I dated his mate and its so not true

Sorry for a semi rant but I'm in a funny mood lol
Lack of sleep

jesy I spent my birthday alone, it was first time in 12 years. Sometimes I think about getting back with ex so at least I would not be alone. Got my kids but when they are away with ex I feel alone.
Had a few glasses if wine and texted bloke I have been dating, cringe at it now. He's texted me back but not checked yet.

Gotta

It be me the dog n tea at weekend which is ok x
Mr v texted but it was just a case of don't worry ,realised I'd sent a text to him by mistake last night x but doubt we will ever meet now
Screwed that one up x

Jesy, think I should get a dog, at least I would know were I stand with a dog.

I don't want to invest feelings for this bloke I'm dating if our dating is just fun until something else comes along. I have asked him if he still wants to date other people as well as me. Been seeing him just over a month so think I should know.
My ex messed me around and I don't want to develop feelings for this bloke if he's still looking around. He's 9 yrs younger and he's still signing into pof.

P.S I always screw things up but then I get nervous quick.

Gotta
Trust me she kisses me when I cry ,she . Listens to me I can put my cold feet on her , she always ready for a hug x

I've given up on Mr V, he obviously got a thinner , more out going girl in mind lol x well if he don't want curves and a personality sod him .

I have learnt to love my wobbly mummy tummy. Sod Mr V and thin is not what makes a woman desirable. I think most men don't know what they want and then its too late to go back.

Why cant it be simple.
Apparently my Mr Young does want to be exclusive , I think I will still find it hard to give my feelings up so easy. I don't want to get hurt and I think its true that woman put more in emotionally than men do.

My ex made me loose faith in my judgement and I had to numb my feelings for years because he wanted me for friendship but ignore my need for emotional closeness.

gotta it has only been a month, plenty of time to take things slowly.

I have zilch planned for weekend, DS off with this dad on Saturday night, this house is such a lonely place. OLD has gone really quiet, have had lots of messages but just not interested in anyone,( lots of different reason) bar lovely looking chap but is 40 miles away. Seems anyone I am interested in is not keen on me. I am going to be a lot more selective about who I meet, just find dating so tiring. Just easier to go out with me X at least familiar.