Dating Thread 82

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Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

Gotta
I worried Mr IT was on a,shag a,fatty thing but seeing pic of his new gf I'm reassured he wasn't he just likes curves lol.
In a away I regret being so shy around him but to late now lol

I'm going on my first date for months tonight. Feeling nervous but she seems really nice.

Hi.

I've been on 9 dates this year (though Match) and although I have met some lovely guys I haven't been attracted to any of them. It's all really hard as Im a single parent.

On average - how many dates have you been on?

joy I have lost count tbh, but like you just like you I just don't seem to fancy anyone. Beginning to think my selection process is up the creek. Getting totally bored with is it if I am honest.

Blossom - the dating stuff is so tiring and takes so much effort. Scrolling down profiles - I don't fancy any of the men my age (im 42), only the older guys seem interested. All the guys my age want someone in their 20/30's How unfair is that!!

My kids go to their Dad tonight and I dread the quietness.

What sites have you been using?

joy I am older than you (49) and get a lot of interest for some reason usually younger than me, a few older. just wish I could find someone I could click with.
I know that quietness you talk about.
Have used Match, POF, Plenty of fish and OK Cupid ( full of idiots)

Trying to find a date makes me feel more down than I am already!!! Fed up of my ex grinning from ear to ear and everyone saying 'you will find love when you are least expecting too'. Sigh.

I know and it is supposed to be fun. I don't even get excited meeting people these days, poor sods don't stand a chance. Why is your X so happy joy Am having dinner with X tonight, I must be nuts.

What a surprise my date has cancelled on me. Back to the drawing board then

Oh sorry spence such short notice, is it for a valid reason?

She said because of the weather. So hopefully its not just an excuse but not holding my breath

My total this year four

Mr alcoholism
Mr nurse
Mr m/h
Mr IT

I just bumped into Mr IT in morrisons with his mum , she even invited me for tea on Sunday lol I was polite and said I'd plans

Blimey the weather ummm not a good excuse if I am honest. I cancelled once as was rushed to hospital and sitting on A & E on a drip. Now that is a proper excuse

"She said because of the weather. "

That sounds about as convincing as the old "I'm washing my hair" excuse (although to be fair it has turned a bit wet and blustery of late).

Still, I'd be up for a stroll through the autumn leaves eating a bag of chips in the rain with a woman, so if she was turned off by a bit of rainy weather she'd probably be a no-no for me.

I'd fancy chips in rain lol

I went on third date and it rained all day, my hair was soaked but I didn't whine about it.

blossom been a month but I didn't want to be sleeping with Mr Young if he was sleeping around. I only do one at a time, not that kind of girl. Anyway he said he'd cancel his pof account while we continue to date. I like to know where I stand after my last relationship. Seeing him tomorrow night and cooking dinner for two. Still very early days I know. Suppose I do get anxious regarding dating and the rules, at least he didn't go cold when we DTD on second date but after my cooking he might

Blossom I may well get professional pics done - as the choice is that or a selfie! Glad you get compliments on yours.

Made thanks for the input on photos - I think I am safe, unlikely to have any of me in front of a huge plate full of food/hanging off a mountain etc

i may not be able to find a date, but am clearly not completly useless...
OKC have asked me to be a moderator!

i'm not kidding!

it's a whole other world! beats dating actually! :)

Had a second date with Ms Young today. Really nice girl but I am not that sure at all. We get on but it is not instant attraction.

Not sure if I should call it quits or try it again. Don't want to lead her on.

instincts MysteryMan, instincts.

Hissy, you could be right! In which case I should let her down and move on...Tried OLD but was not for me so things are a bit harder!

Mysteryman, I agree with HISSY go with your instinct. Although I did go out with someone for 9 months. I did not fancy him on our first date but there was something about him, so agreed to a second then third and forth date and I started to really like him. To cut a long story short, although the physical attraction wasn't there to begin with ( for me anyway), the attraction grew and we had a great time for a few months, but it was never meant to be but it was lovely while it lasted and he will be my life long friend. So give it a chance what have you got to lose x

I think a 3rd date would be a good idea to see how you feel. what impression do you get from her? wrt how she appears to be feeling?

joy I know how frustrating OLD is, I found it so hard to get use to the quietness of a empty home when kids go to ex for weekend. Guys your age might want younger but your sure to get younger guys chat you up. I am 33 and couldn't find a man in my age group, older men or 25 yr olds contacted me mostly. I can say that all the 40 plus men had issues due to break ups and I prefer the younger less jaded men. Lets me honest that women tend to look less worn out and could date younger and 42 is young.

I started OLD in June and have had 8 dates and at the moment been dating a younger man for a month, don't know if my ex would grin if he knew. But attraction is important.

I found Pof to be the best and I favourite men I like and if they like your profile they will say hi.

Keep positive and remember that you deserve to find someone who is worthy of your company. This thread is a good place to come when you need support.

Great birthday date lined up,
Scampi , tripplecooked chips , bottle of fizzy wine , a movie

Me and the dog lol