Dating Thread 82

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Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

Just one time, can't see it progressing tho

Was it for a good reason jesy sometimes things do crop. I have had to cancel dates before. Do you like him?

Hi blossom saw him four times in all..
manmade I didnt just email and text him I met him a few times !!
So a bit jaded over it all still

• jesy ive had to canel dates before now and had the same done to me.. id say to cancel once is fine twice and you out x

anyone got a date tonight ?

I have a blind date in an hour. A friend thinks we will get on well but she is younger than I usually go for.

I am usually pretty cool about such things but why is it I am a little nervous?!!

He had to work,
Yeah I do like him , but I'm also aware that I'm prob not his type x

jesy why would you not be his type? projecting again, gives stern look.

Not out going enough

Signed up on Match and really don't like the site. Well certainly not the app anyway. Am already on Eharmony and Soulmates but not sure I'm getting the most out of these sites as they feel a bit slow. Do you happen to know if What If on Eharmony is in effect a bottomless pit? I've ticked I do want kids and under What If seems to be the maybe want kids.

"Signed up on Match and really don't like the site."

I never liked it much either, Dolly.

On Soulmates everyone looks like they've spent ages crafting a witty profile. Sometimes probably tried too hard. On match many people haven't even bothered to write one. I like to know a bit about someone before I start conversing. I just don't know where to start on match.

Dolly are you doing just match or matchaffinity too?

Just match. Is match affinity another site? I think I'm on enough sites, just need to make the most of them.

Dolly - Matchaffinity is another branch of match which is more based on compatability (similar to EH). I'm sure that match will attempt to cross sell it to you shortly
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Hissy. Calling Hissy. We need an update on MrPerfectOnPaper especially if he has become MrPerfectBetweenTheSheets!

Jesy what have we said about loving yourself. You ARE good enough. Believe it and wear it!

oi, keep it down, eh minmooch some of us are nursing hangovers over here!

he's adorable. he said he'd like to see me again, although given his past he's going to want to take things really slowly. he picked me up, and dropped me back home, but as it was late he had to get back for the children. I got a huge hug, a little kiss.

I sincerely hope this develops into something.

He was nice enough to text me this am to ask if I aS ok as I'd. It texted him as well I was to busy being sick lol
Still feeling I'll but bit of flirty chat this am has helped x

good morning Hissy that all sounds great! MrActor and I are taking it extremely slowly and right now that is right for me. I've jumped in way too fast in all my previous relationships so I'm enjoying developing this one slowly. Hope it's a good one for you.

Jesy that sounds like he listened to you and showed concern - two positives. Now don't rush this one - just try and give him a chance.

Yeah I. Waiting to answer texts only as it was something on telly lol

That didn't make sense but I was watching a comedy show and two mates decided not to text bf ext n basically it got him more interested lol
I'm not into game playing but it can't hurt to make him wait

Sounds great hissy & min
How did the blind date go MM ?

Question... When does a OLD become exclusive?
When dating a man for over a month and you have met his friends and he drops in conversation future stuff to do together in months to come. ( This is my scenario ) Sleeping together, holding hands and cosy nights cuddling on sofa.
Thing is I still have active POF profile and although I see this man at least twice a week there has been no talk of being exclusive. I have been trying to be realistic and not let myself develop deep feelings or imagine us doing future stuff because I don't want to get hurt, I'm new to dating and not totally sure how its suppose to develop. We never talk on the phone just a couple of text toward end of day. He's not made any suggestion that we should be exclusive, he is 9 years younger so maybe its the age gap difference in what exclusive is. I don't want yo be the one coming on strong about not looking around or coming off OLD. I feel he should be the one to ask, foes that sound stupid? I know i could get all caught up and start to stress over him texting less. I am deliberately not letting myself fall for him because i don't want to get hurt.
Should i keep dating, i would not sleep with another man while sleeping with this guy its not right.
Anyone got experience to share.
Thanks.

gotta I would say its high time for you to be exclusive..
Hes talking about the future with you in it. You sleep together. You hold hands cuddle on the sofa.. but then it may be best not to listen to me as I wanted to go exclusive after a week! I told said person and of course its gone pear shaped..
I think maybe start a conversation with him about it and get to the bottom of what he thinks about it ....

Gosh, I'm so behind on this thread! Real life has been interfering!
hissy it sounds like you've had a really good start with Mr perfectonpaper! I look forward to seeing how it goes!
minmooch - I've always jumped head first into relationships but the guy I'm seeing currently and I are in a situation where we can't do that so we're taking it slowly too. It's been a breath of fresh air actually (if a little frustrating at times too!)
jesy - that's great news on the job situation! I think once that's sorted other things will start to follow too
gottafind about the exclusivity thing, I would just ask. I don't think it's unreasonable or pushy to see if he's still hedging his bets, especially if you're sleeping together and he's talking about the future. It may be that he's just assumed you are. I've been seeing a guy for about a month ago and he spoke to me about it quite early on, just saying that he'd taken his profile off POF and that he wanted to see how things went with me. He also said he didn't expect me to do the same, but wanted me to know how he felt. As it happens I had taken mine off too anyway. If he isn't interested in being exclusive, do you still want to see him? I think it would have an impact on my feelings about the relationship to be honest.

Everything's going really well with my Mr Tall.

So well that I wonder if I'm missing something! I've only been OLD for a couple of months so I'm worried that the odds of this being the way it seems mean it can't be true (I also a history of an abusive relationship so that makes me a bit cautious)
We have been seeing each other about a month now, have a fair amount of contact, get on amazingly well, fancy the pants off each other and although we haven't DTD yet we have had some 'fun'
He's really thoughtful and sensitive to my feelings but without being OTT or a wet blanket and I feel really secure with him. We've managed to squeeze in quite a few dates in the last couple of weeks and it's been lovely.
Suggestions of things to do with limited time would be great as I'm running out of ideas! (I have 3 small DC so time out is in short supply!)
Opinions on this would be helpful - ive never dated with children before so no idea about your date meeting them etc.
This weekend we engineered a 'bump into each other' at the park with our kids but didn't introduce them or anything. It was more to see what each other was like parenting wise, I think. and because we couldn't wait to see each other
We had a little chat in the park and then went our separate ways.
My middle child went up to him of his own accord and had a little chat and introduced himself to his daughter (same age) but we didn't engineer anything or let on that we know each other. I'm definitely not ready to introduce them properly but it was nice seeing him with his kids.
Do people think this is ok? I really have no clue and everyone seems to have a different take on it!

I have a date with him tonight so really excited!

News Not sure how I would start that conversation. I did send a text after spending day with him saying "I miss you already" and then thought I shouldn't of sent that. After that text he's sent very short text's, hate trying to gauge someone's feeling by a text. I did pull away and avoided seeing him for over a week to see if he was bothered or just after sex. He then couldn't wait to see me again and made alot of effort to see me.
I wouldn't know how to play games but I just don't want to get carried away and act like a kid.