Dating Thread 82

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Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

That's irrelevant jesy. It's an attitude to life. You need to focus on the positive and count your blessings. But you have been told this many times here before so...

Jesy I'm 40 and still learning

Jesy, I hope you feel more positive soon. This dating malarky makes us all feel vulnerable.

I feel a lot brighter than yesterday so I'm going to go through with my 2 dates Sunday. Will be good dating practice if nothing else.

Maybe I'm to fussy
Was asked on a,date today but couldn't leave dog then got called a,stupid slag

Jesy - you seem to court more drama than the rest of us together.

Why do you think that is?

I give up x
Chatted to two ppl today but nothing to bb e honest just want to go kip.

I can't have who I want .

Maybe he right I'm a slag trying to 'm ale up for lost life

Plus I don't want drama x I'm alone ppl on here basically my friends but get feeling there an issue

Speak soon

No issue Jesy but (being painfully honest) can see how you bring some of this on yourself.

IT man is never going to happen. He sees you as an also ran, a safeguard. The longer you let him do this the longer you'll take to find happiness with someone else.

I wish you the best. I'll park my views there.

Jesy it's very hard when you can't have the one you want. But you can't and you have to move on. And live this life that you do have, with a positive attitude and a belief in yourself. Sometimes I find your posts a little hard to understand and not sure if some of your dates may find any text conversations a little hard to follow and misunderstand you.

We all want basically the same things, someone to love and be loved in return. We all have our own issues that we carry with us but you do seem to have such low opinion of your own worth. You need to work on loving yourself and believing you are good enough.

This is hard to do, and doesn't happen overnight but you will attract a different sort of man if you can have confidence that you are worth dating. Dating and getting to know, giving you and them a chance.

Keep talking to us.

This thread is galloping along as usual!
Saturday night, home alone with a face pack AND my new research tools ('marital affair' dating site).
So far found 3 of the seemingly normal pof guys on there It's not a site to delve into of you're of a nervous disposition. on 3rd date bt 20/20 (

Sorry phone playing up. Poss 3rd date with sexy 20/20.
It's posessed by gremlins

Morning all,
Feeling a bit less deflated today , various reasons chatted to two nice men , doubt it go anywhere but does your ego a boost.
Couple nice comments on fB by people I dont rally see , just thank you for me helping them .

Mr v a no go either ppl .
He did text me back but no interest shame he was cute , hey only posses off as I wasted petrol lol

Jesy I agree with Minmooch, I find your messages difficult to decipher sometimes, so I don't reply. I think you are very down on yourself sometimes but we have all been there. I bet there's not a person on this thread who hadn't felt like the loneliest person in the world at times. We all want to find someone nice who wants us back, but what everyone is saying is true, you need to like and love yourself before you can expect anyone else to value you. It's a scary process and we're probably all at various stages and dealing with setbacks along the way and that's why I love this thread, because there's always a kind word when you need it from someone who understands.

So thanks to everyone who has ever replied to me & offered a kind word when I'm feeling down!

Has anyone else seem the man from Worcestershire pic on pof of him and his mum !

Date no 1 today over. Funny how you get an impression of someone from a profile and then they're nothing like it in real life. On paper we had tons in common but he was shy and awkward in real life so we didn't gel. Date no 2 at 5pm.

Maybe he was just nervous Dolly? Shame to write him off after one less than perfect date....

I didn't get the sense he wanted to see me again. He shook my hand goodbye and didn't suggest meeting up again. I'd be surprised if he gets in touch.

Goodness - who parts with a handshake these days?

"who parts with a handshake these days?"

I was greeted with a handshake on a date once; I felt like I'd turned up for a business meeting with the woman.

Haha that's comical. Surely everyone hugs these days? God us Brits are so repressed ;)

Yeah, you don't expect full on snogs when you first meet someone, but handshakes are far too formal and a bit, "Shall we go through to my office and we can discuss the finance agreement from there."

Anyone not comfortable with a quick hug/peck on cheek on a first date should just do nothing except say, "hi/hello/how are you?" when meeting; definitely no handshaking because it sets the mood of the date up all wrong in my opinion.

Totally agree. I wouldn't meet anyone I hadn't at least built up enough rapport with to want to hug.

Handshaking followed by an interview with obligatory clipboard. Goodness, some folks dating must be so clinical.

monday date night tomorrow!

following all day texting saturday, over 3hrs on the phone last night, more texting today.

roll on tomorrow and our first date. MrPerfectOnPaper is about to get real.

oh, and i'm going to hug him. that's for starters sure...