Dating Thread 82

[steelchic]

Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

oh Imnot what a prick (him!)

Had date with Mr Editor tonight. He was a great guy but I just didn't fancy him. He asked to see me again so I had to explain that I just like him as a friend. Felt a bit bad as he called me beautiful and paid for dinner while I was in the ladies.

Not sure if I'm totally ready for dating. At one point I wished I was having dinner with my ex-boyfriend.

Back from cinema date with MissItalian Lots of laughter before, after and (to some's annoyance during).

Parted with a long hug and a kiss. Both seem interested and text was waiting for me when I got home.

The first few dates are the easy ones though ;)

Mr v and I are meeting today ,not very hopeful but it gets me out.
We were texting last night and I said tar for keeping me company and I won't pester him n he said we meeting tomorrow sent we,it's just a quick drink .

I get a funny feeling I'll be stood up today x
I think in away he being polite.

Jesy just wait and see - give him a chance.

Guess bit wary ,not sure he really wants a,date
I've said I'm happy to do friendship and see May be that the way Togo.

I've done my research lol he seems nice but we'll 2pm will
The m a n from Sat deleted his profile off pof, I feel bad I hurt him in away but he was to much x

Steel, did you text him? Hope you just got the 'OK thanks for letting me know' reply.

Blosson, did you go out with him last night??

Dolly, yep we've all been there. Don't feel too bad, you didn't force him to pay for dinner and be nice to you - you just may not be ready for someone to be doing those things if your break up is still hurting.

I've been messaging someone who lives 100 miles away. He straight away said we seem really suited but the distance could be a problem. I said that's OK I've not proposed marriage or anything! I seem to have an issue at the moment in that all of the blokes I am matched with who live in my city (a fairly big one) don't appeal to me but ones who live in cities 50-100 miles from here seem more attractive. I expect there's some Freudian analysis you could do there.

I k ow how to pick them don't I .
Date seems to be on , had a text earlier off Mr v , he was being nosey on fB can't complain as I've done it but he said great pic of you at wo t name the place and Mr IT it's such a small world , they not mates as such but belong to same sports group lol

They been to a few games together that all ,

Not a problem for me after mammoths g going to come of today it could be worse I guess I could have been messaging Mr IT room mate !!

juju No I did not and glad too. He started being very pushy and really wanted to see me because DS was with his dad. When I said I felt he was rushing me he turned nasty said I was "judge and jury so forget it" What a weirdo, lucky escape, with rather sit on my own then spend time with some like that.

@JuJu Have you tried looking at some men that you aren't matched with?

I found when I used Match.com that the matching process wasn't always particularly accurate and sometimes a manual search of all the local women (regardless of interests) was better. Plus, it opens possibilities to the people you may not have thought about, due to them being left out of searches for not liking crossword puzzles or whatever.

I should be feeling really happy this morning. Having someone call me beautiful should have pepped my confidence. But instead I've been in a flood of tears in the work toilet. A few weeks ago I was feeling good about myself and thought yes I'm ready to try again. But no.

I have a tendency to wallow after break ups. Are there any solutions to snapping out of it? It's my birthday next Thursday and am doing lots of fun stuff going on. Plus I've got 2 guys who want to see me this weekend. I should be over the moon, not feeling over whelmed.

"I have a tendency to wallow after break ups. Are there any solutions to snapping out of it? "

I think people need to wallow a bit sometimes, just to get it out of the system like having a good cry; you can't just turn off emotions like a light switch or there would be at least half the amount of love songs out there.

Occupying yourself with lots of activities and being busy will take your mind off things for a while, but the feelings will likely return during the quieter moments like when you're in bed at night. You could perhaps try writing things down to stop your mind going over the same details again and again.

Thanks Mademan. I have been keeping very busy. Maybe too busy as I now feel chronically tired. I find night times hardest and don't sleep well these days. Going on holiday in 10 days and it can't come soon enough.

My dad died 3 years ago and for some reason I was able to deal with that quite well. To the point where I feel embarrassed to say to friends I'm still struggling with the break up after nearly 8 months. I thought getting back out dating would make me feel better not worse. Just don't really understand what I'm feeling today.

In my opinion Dolly there is too much pressure on everyone to be happy all the time and I think emotions are a bit like having a cold; you just need to let them run their course naturally. Emotions are there for a reason and they need to be able to sort themselves out properly so that your overall mental health doesn't suffer.

Friends and family sometimes chip in with well meaning offers of taking people impulse shopping, down the pub, or whatever, but maybe what you need is some "you time" and forget about the dating for a while. Enjoy your holiday.

Didn't show up
He said sorry not sure what to think right now , said work was busy and he couldn't finish but maybe one last chance

Juju, yeah I sent him a text, I said it was nice meeting him, but I didn't think we had chemistry and I didn't want to mess him about, I wished him well, he sent a nice text basically saying no probs and take care. Such I nice person I hope he meets someone lovely

Good one Steel - karma and all that,liberating to be honest

I know Oxy I feel better for telling him, I wouldn't have wanted it to drag on, not fair on him.

I set up a fake account on another dating site - for research purposes only. It's more revealing than Facebook when checking out potential dates.

Guess what?? Saw a few guys who had messaged me via pof. Including the one who cancelled y'days date. On this more 'dubious' site he lists his interests:
Threesomes voyerism porn
same sex

And a few other interesting hobbies.
Wow! Thank God we didn't meet up!

blossom !! Yikes, lucky escapes all round this wk!

I got chatting to some one on fB that was a mistake lol
A out half hour of messages he comes out with want to meet for sex now that a charmer lol

imnot fuck that's frightening! What site is it that you are using for your background research? I find it all rather depressing - are there nice blokes that get their kicks out of normal women having normal sex? Each to their own and all that but ...... A lucky escape for you too methinks!

jesy hope you put him in his place!

Ha, jesy, thing is you can never tell what they're really like based on looks & a few scant details. Until they come out with a line like that