Dating Thread 82

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Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

Aliens lesson to learn here is that the first date must be something you can get out of quickly, ie coffee or just a drink in a pub as you never know if you will really like the person in real life no matter how good they seem on paper/text etc (Hissy take note).

You are not obligated to meet him, tickets are not bought so just tell him you will not be going. Or make an arrangement to meet him for coffee another time. Looks are not the be all and end all of a relationship so perhaps you would like him face to face.

And whilst I'm on a roll Hissy what rule number was it that says it could all be bullshit until you meet in real life? And I think there is one rule about over investing emotionally? Just try to keep your level head on - you haven't met him yet .......

It's true Minmooch some guys I've met I wasn't sure about their pics but then we met n I liked them. But also I agree with Alien that sometimes you know for sure if you not gonna like them just by pictures alone. I find adding to FB helps too in these situations

I've got a coffee date today with a guy I'm not 100% sure I fancy on his pics but there's something I like about him...fingers crossed

Hope it goes well Pink.

Good luck today Pink!

Well. .. It hadn't occur to me to lookup with Facebook but I have now and sadly is a big fat no for me. . Some of the things he has in there are a bit off putting too. I'm going to cancel; the last couple of dates I've had have been very disappointing, I don't think I can take another one right now. ..

min true, true, I know this!

Recently had a date (via facebook) as girl had contacted me after some posts in a local group that she liked.

Date went well and finished with her saying you're not what I expected, I thought you'd be stuck up but you're not.

Sometimes the online persona we portray isn't truly that of real life. That said, if you don't like any of his photos and have since discovered a wierd fascination for taxidermy you may be right :)

I think what others have said is correct. Keep first meets short and allowing for quick exit. Because of this shorter investment I've met several people who, on reflection, challenged my initial perception.

jesy
Well I guess you would be meeting as 'friends' initially wouldn't you? It's not champagne, fireworks and roses straight away

Aliens Life is too short - NEXT!!
I had a date with a guy who sent
me, as it turned out, seriously out of date pics. My heart literally dropped as I walked up to him and the date was so awkward because we'd gotten along so well via messages but he didn't look the same and his personality was dreadful!

We not meeting at all ,
I guess I'm being over sensitive had to cancel my birthday meal as no one said yes to it, never had a grown up birthday thing so kinda hurt .

Aliens no tickets? then fine, especially as you have more background info.

i'm going to chill out about MrPerfectOnPaper. back off a bit. try to gain some perspective. make him miss me

Least it saves me getting dressed up for a,coffee

I meant in terms of him saying meeting as friends, that's pretty standard I would have thought? When I met my DP for our first 'date' I asked him if he wanted to meet for a quick drink and chat.

Sorry to hear about your birthday are you in
London at all? I'd be up for meeting up with our dogs if you'd
like??

I had hopes about that one but never mind.

I've treated myself a gift birthday least will have one gift to UN wrap

jesy when is your birthday?

I'm in Midlands but thank you ,
It's funny hate this time of year as . It my birthday but also nice memory of first time I had sex lol

Not for two weeks Nov 8 even family away

Hello all. I need some moral support please. I've had a bit of a rollercoaster weekend and it's left me feeling utterly dejected.

Went out with my closest male friend (let's call him Roger!) at the weekend and a couple of other friends. One (we'll call him Steve) is a very old friend as well, although not seen him properly for a few years and the other (Paul) I have met a few times and is really good friends with Roger and Steve. Anyway, we had a brilliant night out. We'd booked a hotel room to go back to after as we were in a city none of us live in. In the early hours of the morning Roger and then Steve went to sleep in the bedroom, leaving Paul and I on the sofa.

One thing led to another and we ended up DTD. Then we got up and went back to the train station with Steve (Roger had already left early to get home) and Paul came back to mine on the train and stayed over. We DTD loads and it was brilliant. Sunday morning he went off. It was very clear to me the whole way through that it was just a one-off (we were both pretty off our heads when it started, and it hadn't been building up through the evening or anything - he instigated it but I certainly didn't object as he is gorgeous and lovely) and when he left it was very much 'see you around'. He lives 200 miles away and I think is interested in/maybe dating someone as I overheard Steve teasing him about it. He is also possibly still brokenhearted about being dumped by his long term girlfriend, who I also know, but only as an acquaintance.

Anyway, the whole thing has left me feeling really fed up. Rather than looking back on the weekend as great night out and some lovely sex I am just completely devastated. I've messaged Roger about it and he said I am lovely and Paul is no great catch but I still feel really upset. Especially as he is a 'friend' (we are both extremely close friends with Roger, so surely DTD with me and then not even contacting me afterwards is just plain fucking rude??) And I know it's about me, not him. I know it is just because I'm on a big comedown and it will pass, but I just feel like I will never fall in love again and have that beautiful special thing with someone.

Sounds like you're in a good place min

Nowt wrong with taxidermy oxy

I have problem - chatting to 2 lovely guys on pof, things in common etc. BUT wht don't they ask me out on a date? They hint, byt don't ask?

Hmmm INYB, in my teen years I remember babysitting with a crush and getting freaked out by a dead badger in the freezer next to the ice cubes :)

Oh, that and the stuffed fox free styling at the top of the stairs.

That must have been quite a large freezer oxy

I put my sim in a new phone, didn't realise blocked numbers became unblocked. Had a vile sexually explicit text from mr lycra. Should I keep it just in case & should I send a txt back to tell him no contact? Not sure ...

imno yuk how horrid. I would completely ignore him.

Being stalked by a really good looking 30, I mean really what are they thinking, I could be old enough to be his mum. Creeps me out.

INYB - chest freezer. Was later told it was the common joke and that there's ice in the normal freezer.

Interesting guy - did lots of work for natural history museum but had a worrying penchant for collecting any roadkill.

I sent a txt to mr lycra telling him not to contact me.
He contacted me to ask me what my problem is
I think/hope I have blocked him (again)

What's up with me , why can't I keep matez