Dating Thread 82

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Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

We not set a time yet so unsure if it going ahead , I hope it is . He said yesterday he'd see what time he finish work which is fine .

I do have a horrible feeling he'll do a disappearing act but on paper he seems ok .

As for the date at weekend put it down to experience,he messaged me of pof saying he was hurt ,yes I want a relationship but also want to do fun stuff .

Morning all.
hissy sorry you are having a hard time. Did he reply to your lats text, ( sorry catching up as this thread moves so fast)
oxy your posts have made me laugh.
Well saw MR Italian again, had a lovely evening dinner out and he stayed over, I still just don't know. He is talking about the future meeting his daughter, it all seem too much for now.
Saw X for lunch yesterday, was nice but always feel sad when he leaves.

Surf - that sounds really good so far. Taking it slowly, him introducing you to his friends. Minmooch - same to you.

Jesy - this date was the one you ran out on because he didn't make eye contact? I can understand why he's hurt. I'd be upset if someone ran out on me because I was shy.

Update from me:

I had a date on Friday with a woman from Tinder. We met, had a drink, went for a meal. We'd been chatting a lot on Whatsapp, got on really well.

So, as she didn't live locally and wanted a drink, I'd said she could kip in my spare room if she wanted to. When we went back to mine, things progressed and she stayed in with me. IT was pretty great. Next morning we had breakfast, it wasn't at all awkward, it was just nice and comfortable. I said I wanted to see her again, we made tentative plans for when she's back from being away in Scotland for a few days. I dropped her at the tram station and went off to do some family errands

However, since then, nothing. I've sent her a few messages, she's been monosyllabic in her responses. She's been on Whatsapp and hasn't replied to my last couple of messages, she's been on Tinder again, a couple of times.

Bugger. I don't think I did anything wrong, I'm not getting all second-guessy and self-doubting. We have the same sense of humour, interested in the same things, similar outlook on life. If she doesn't get back to me I'm going to just let it lie - which is a huge pity as she's great, and I thought we meshed really well.

Ah well. Rule number whatever. People disappearing is not my fault, if I didn't do anything wrong. People are just... odd sometimes.

Onwards and upwards, eh. It's obviously not just men who shag and run..

Bant,

I didn't run out on him .

Bant - yes that does sound odd and in my opinion if a woman sleeps with a man she generally wants to take it further. Was she drunk? Sometimes it can happen with people you just 'like' but are not particularly into. This has happened to me before....ah well I guess all you can do is see what happens

Think today off I've not beard off him it's ok hopes a bit dashed least I'll be hone wen my dog gets bAck .

pink don't think that is always the case. Think lots of woman can have sex for sex sakes. We were talking about this the other day in fact, where sometimes you have sex with someone and just does not click for you.Maybe this the case who knows.

jesy I really think you should maybe take some time out from dating.
It seems like you had your
reservations about this man, but you slept with him anyway? Now, I'm not saying this is in any way wrong (I had dates with people I didn't really intend on seeing again but I slept with them because physically, they ticked my boxes and I didn't mind a ONS) however sleeping with this man seems to have upset you which isn't the right mind set for a ONS at all.

I think you need some time to heal from the things that have happened and I still strongly
believe you need to stop talking to Mr IT. He absolutely does not have your best interests at heart. I was reading an old message and, correct me if I'm wrong, he gave you the
wrong underwear back?! Also, the time his girlfriend came in and got a
bit territorial, while you found it funny, the only reason for that is that he has
cast you in a bad light to her. Which isn't what friends do.
Hope you dont take offence to anything I've said btw, I'd just hate for you to be hurt again by him when the rose tinted specs fall off x

jesy I agree with wicked you sound so terribly vunerable atm. OLD can be very streesful if you are not in the right frame of mind. And MR IT isd not your true and I do not think he has your best interest at heart. I hope this does not upset you.

Wicked

No offence by anything .
The wrong underwear thing is funny now it's his room mates , which went in bin least Mr IT had washed them lol

The weekend yeah I feel bad ons not for me but it happened to much wine I guess.

Mr IT we still speak n even had message off his gf at weekend saying see you at Xmas party she said can see how close we are n want to get on as I'm still part of his life !!!

Mr v today texted I'll see u in a bit work mad

jesy Pleased you said that

My point with the underwear thing is that as a friend, he should know your underwear. I'd personally have gone
apoplectic if th friend I was sleeping with mistook someone else's underwear for mine because if I know you well enough
to leave my underwear on your floor, you better have been paying attention to what it looks like LOL

The girlfriend is lying, I'm sorry. She wants to sus you out and see if you are a threat to her so she's going on a charm offensive.
I think what's happened is she has seen a couple of messages between you both, he's given her a story about how you need his help etc and she wants to make sure she doesn't need to worry about you.
I've seen it a million times before.

You are worth so much more than this jesy!

Pink - no, she was sober. She stayed in with me at night, we'd both had two or three drinks, and things got fairly heated, but we didn't actually DTD until the next morning after we'd had breakfast and went back to bed.

Ah well. I'm trying not to get angsty. What will be, will be etc.

Blossom Yes we have had a flurry of texts and apparently he is of the same mind as I on this and other things, just not able to do the whole relationship business for now. we are going to meet up as friends at some point over the next week or so, and there is a chance I am going to be freezing my arse off on the side of a rugby pitch in his city in a couple of weeks. he said if he's free that sunday morning he'll come and meet for coffee.

I'd have hoped to have seen him before then.

I feel it's daft to to just rule it all out permanently due to timing and other stuff. I know the whole 'friends' thing is potentially a minefield, but the alternative is to 'lose' any chance of giving it a go when the timing/everything else IS better.

hissy oh god the lets be friends thing sorry don't mean to sound sceptical. Personally I would carry on seeing other people by all means keep it open but do you really want to over invest in this guy. Trust me am talking from experience, pity I cannot follow my own advice.

It was as much my suggestion as his. the alternative is nothing. I'm not losing anything by agreeing to be friends. If it is meant to be it will be.

I'm still using the dating profiles, and may be in time I'll feel more enthusiastic, or I'll park it until the new year.

It was as much my suggestion as his. the alternative is nothing. I'm not losing anything by agreeing to be friends. If it is meant to be it will be.

I'm still using the dating profiles, and may be in time I'll feel more enthusiastic, or I'll park it until the new year.

Date postponed till tomorrow .
He texted to say an issue at work and he'd be late I called him omg such a sexy voice lol
Suggested tomorrow so not rushed he s a I'd yes,and he'd call me tonight which good with me

Give me chance to get rid of grey lol

No date I give up

What happened?

'Friendship' going awfully well :) texting all evening, more and more boxes keep getting ticked. His and mine! See? It's still on track.

... AND a blast from afar looked me up on whatsapp!

He cooks (super fan cooking credentials in his family), loves the kind of food I'm good at, makes killer caipirinhas

Do I actually have to meet him in person before I propose? Hahahaha

Don't know he said could meet as friends but not much hope upset really as I liked sound of him stupid I know
Think it coz I don't have a job

I need your help please wise Dating Thread! ! Been chatting to this guy for a week, have agreed to meet up on Sat eve and go to a gig in London. So far looking good. BUT chatting earlier on whatsapp he sent me a real time selfie as well as a new photo he doesn't have on his profile. .. and my heart sank, there's no way on Earth I can fancy him :(. How do I get out now of Saturday's agreed date? He's a nice guy so don't want to hurt his feelings but equally don't want to give him false hopes or meet him on Sat 'just in case' (I now know for sure I would not fancy him)

Thank you!

i don't think you cancancel really, tickets have been bought etc. go to the gig, presuming that it is something that you want to see, but you don't have to go out again, if you don't click.

Thanks Hissy. Tickets were going to be bought at the door so no monetary loss if/when I cancel...and it's only Tue, not like I would be cancelling a couple of hours prior. ...