New name, new game, less stress, more progress! (Thanks to Rottie!)

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Here goes - thread 4 and definitely the last one now, sheesh!!

Who knew instigating divorce could be so bloody long winded!!

My last thread was 'It isn't Work Stress, it's emotional abuse and you're going to get divorced because of it H!'

Rottweiler solicitor (Rottie) and a non molestation order on Tuesday yippee!!

I wish you a trouble free escape tomorrow and the brightest of futures

Will be thinking of you tmrw

Be careful name you are so close to the finishing line it will be so easy to slip up. Play his game if he wants to take annual leave next week-fine , if he wants to go away for a few days-fine (byeeeee :) )just agree to everything and if he asks you to jump just ask how high IYKWIM. Tomorrow just play it by ear when you go -with hammy &co but if you have to grab and run with the girls just do it.
We will all be running with you--good luck this time tomorrow you will be freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee and having a rather large glass of without you being accused of having a problem. Well you did have a problem but you will have just ditched him

Good luck name. Hope everything goes ok tonight. Don't rise to any shit he comes out with tonight. Keep your wits about you.

Stay safe Name, we will all be on tenterhooks until we hear you are safe and away from Twatty. Well done on all the planning and execution . As I've said in your other threads, you are good at this (no matter what Twatty thinks ).

Pom poms and from me too.

Ahh thanks guys, thank you inlector I can't wait for that first taste of freedom wine haha!!

Thanks Petunia, ATM and Pink

I'm being careful - so far there's no sign of H. No call or anything so I'm safely in the bath at the moment, having a verrrry long soak and then I think I'll take myself off to my bedroom afterwards, to dry my hair and generally faff about for ages getting ready for bed, and then I think I'll just retire for the night because I'm feeling a bit run down you see!

So far so good anyway and I can get away with it tonight I think. Just tomorrow morning to negotiate now, that's all.

Thank you Zazzles so much, for everything

Hope you manage to sleep, thinking of you

Good luck name. Hope everything goes to plan, and also hope you might get the chance to update us at some point, as you'll have lots of us worrying about you!

Thanks Random

Thank you Fluffy, for all your support - don't worry I will update you all with what my plan is tomorrow once I know what H is doing in the morning!

Best of luck tomorrow sweet. Please, please, please if you can leave in the morning rather than after school do it. The day I fled the house, my ex drove the 30 mins to work, sat in his office for ten minutes and then drove back because he, in his words, 'fucking knew that you were up to something, you scheming whore'. I must have missed his return by mere minutes and this was no planned escape - we left with the very few things I could gather in the 25 minutes before my sister could come get us.

The bastard had a sixth sense, I swear

Stay safe, don't faff about - just go x

Update us if you wish. You know we care about you. But keeping yourself and DCs safe is the main priority. Nothing is as important as that.

(BTW, seasonal namechange, hope I didn't freak you out).

Sassy, that's so scary.

Be careful, be focused, be out of there. Will be thinking of you tomorrow and wishing you all the luck you need

My heart is hammering reading this. If I were religious I'd be praying for you and the kids tonight. All the best name.

name I've lurked through all of your threads, cheering you on silently (sorry). I bet there are hundreds of us lurkers doing the same - you probably have an army of women with you in spirit as well as all the lovely MNers already here. I for one will cheer when I know you're safe. and to you.

I think I agree with those saying to either leave straightaway tomorrow morning (hamsters in purse) as if you're doing the school run or take the girls to school 'per usual' then return and pick them up as soon as he's off. I think the closer you keep to normal the better. Keeping the girls off school (before he leaves) might raise a red flag. Or worse, he may decide to take a sick day to do something 'as a family'.

Thing to remember is, even if he figures out 30 seconds after you pull away for good that you've 'gone baby gone', what is he going to do? Chase after you on foot? Follow on the bus? Considering that he doesn't know where your folks live we know that's not going to happen! Even if he was going to call some mate with a car to 'give chase', you'll be well on your way by the time he could organize that! Let's face it, the minute you turn the corner and are out of sight, you're pretty much untraceable!

BTW, do schools there have anything like 'show and tell'? Would it be reasonable to say that one of the girls was taking the hamsters to show her class? That would be a perfect cover (hopefully) for taking the hamsters with you.

Sleep well tonight, Name. I shall be thinking of you in the morning.

Oooh, I like the Show and Tell idea.

Another one de-lurking to wish you good luck for tomorrow - I can't imagine the mixture of excitement and brick-shitting you must be feeling. Hope you have a good nights sleep and he fucks off early to work tomorrow with nary a backward glance xxxx

I talked my mother' sear off all evening tonight telling her all about you name and how tomorrow is your big day. I didn't realise just how much I could care about people I've never met...

I really hope tomorrow goes off without any last minute hitches.

Still thinking about you name and hoping tomorrow goes smoothly Xx

Lordy name, there'll be stuff all work being done by Mumsnetters across the world as we clamour to make sure you're okay, hope we don't cause MN to go down :) Sleep well and wishing you the best of everything for tomorrow.

I agree with Sassy - do what is simple, and fast. Don't wait about for anything. Just go.

Wishing you luck name

Thinking of you name. Nothing to add to the great advice here really. Leave as soon as you can in the morning. Stay safe. Praying for you

Good luck Name. You are very strong and resourceful and funny. Here's to a happier future for you and your daughters.