New name, new game, less stress, more progress! (Thanks to Rottie!)

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Here goes - thread 4 and definitely the last one now, sheesh!!

Who knew instigating divorce could be so bloody long winded!!

My last thread was 'It isn't Work Stress, it's emotional abuse and you're going to get divorced because of it H!'

Rottweiler solicitor (Rottie) and a non molestation order on Tuesday yippee!!

Thinking of you and the hammys - KOKO

Re hamsters: one of them is off it's food so you've got a vet appointment straight after picking the girls up. You are taking both because if it's something infectious you don't want to have to go back again with the other one.

shelby - genius!

Oh thank you so much everyone lol at gaping maw Dinnae haha!

I don't know how the hell I'm feeling at the moment. Rottie has just sent me the letter she's going to be sending him tomorrow. She's also going to include with it my appointment letter for counselling which details my unhappy marriage and that I am involved with Women's Aid, and also my letter from the GP detailing my medication due to anxiety/depression because of abuse at home.

The only thing I've gone back and asked her to change in her letter is that she mentions police involvement and as yet H is completely unaware of that, so I don't want him knowing it just yet - if he needs to get arrested he will know all about it then so thought best to keep it from him for now.

Like the ideas of looking busy Pond and everyone. Will do. Will change the settings on my iPad too, thanks for that Shiny!

Can't believe this is my last night of living like this. I am really really nervous! Thank you all so so much

Last night tonight, and tomorrow is the first day of your new, more peaceful life!! FWIW I've said a little prayer for you and your girls for a swift, uneventful get away.

name, I've PMd you again. Suggesting you keep the girls off school tomorrow and just go in the morning? Hamsters and all, in or out of your pocket/cage/cat carrier. If necessary, because aresewipe is around, make it look like you're off to school as usual (hamsters in pocket) but you'll need documents. Can you stow bags in car this evening without him seeing? Or somewhere near front door, so you can just pick up on the way out? You are SO bloody near freedom and he's being suspicious. But if the worst happens, then just phone 999 and to hell with it. You have to get away before that email thunders into the fuckwit's inbox.

You've come so far & now there is less than 24 hrs to go :) Along with everyone here I am willing it all to run smoothly for you tonight & tomorrow...and that you will be sitting down to a well deserved glass of tomorrow evening followed by a long untroubled sleep

You are positively awe-inspiring, Name! It may have taken a while to reach this point but, by golly, you know what to do now you're here

I'm typing this from a pile of bedding on the bare floor of my new flat, surrounded by piles of badly-packed & un-labelled belongings. All change, and welcome to the weird of the new!

Will be thinking of you tomorrow. I quite like the idea of bunking the girls off school as it gives you half a day to catch your breath. You'll do what's best for you, though, I know. xx

I see what oldgrandma is saying. At the least, can you ask Rottie not to pull the trigger on the email until you call her and let her know you have left the house? Or set a specific time with her to give you a time table?

I was mainly going to add, if you've haven't already switched tracker off your devices, don't until you leave. If he's watching for this sort of thing that'll tip him off.

Oh Pond thank you for the video haha, that just about sums up the quality of my brain at the moment (and thank you for my little prayer )

Thank you Oldgrandmama! Right, I'm going to have a think. His behaviour in the mornings is unpredictable - sometimes he leaves really early before we're all up, other times at around 8.20ish and occasionally he'll leave with us at 8.45 in the car so that i can drop the kids at the school gate and then drop him at the station. So if it's the first two options tomorrow then I will keep them off. If he wants a lift, then they'll have to go. either way I'll keep Rottie informed.

Hey Garlic! Yes been a long old time hasn't it! Sounds like you're a bit all over the place there? Hope all ok

I am so jumpy. Any little noise or even my youngest asking me something, I just jump out of my skin!

Thanks Mariposa

you could always drop them to school and then go back to get them. The school wont mind

Fudeeesh fudeeeesh fudeeesh eeesh eeeeeesh. < Me waving a pair of fecking massive sparkly, hi viz, multi-coloured, luminous, glow in the dark, strobing, vibrating enormous pompoms with lasers, bells, whistles and bloody party poppers hanging off, that are so heavy they are playing havoc with me Chalfonts!> Yay for freedom for Name! Weyhey!

Proper laughed out loud there Dinnae thank you

Nettle, oh yeah of course, I could just do that I suppose, thanks

name you've come so far. Keep safe tonight. Don't give him any clues. I he's around in the morning then take your time. I agree that sayin you're going to school and just going straight off is the best plan. Phone school when you arrive and speak to head teacher/safeguarding officer to keep them updated with events, that way if he phones there or turns up to collect the girls after the email they know to call the police. School will code c the absence so it will be authorised no questions asked.

How will rottie know he's gotten the letter is she emailing it or serving him with it? Is she relying on a read receipt.

Love all your planning for the hamsters. Take care and keep us posted of you can xx

Now I am worried after reading Aunt Petunia's message, re him maybe going to school to get the girls after he gets the email. I think they should be long gone.

name been following from afar. Just wanted to say good luck and definitely call 101 before you go back and ask police to attend with you to prevent a breach of the peace. They will do that no problem. X

if the girls don't turn up to school, could someone from the school phone him to see where they are?

pinkandstripey, good point, but by then, name should be well on her way to her parents with the kids and guinea pigs.

No don't worry, I have already put safeguarding in place at school which means they can't leave with anyone, including him, unless I am present.

I will muddy, thank you

I would tell the school what I was doing Pink, so there would be no chance of that

Sorry, hamsters. I think guinea pigs are quite big and not pocketable.

Godspeed tomorrow, Name xx

Guinea pigs may not be easily pocketable Oldgrandmama, but I'm sure there are some Tupperware containers that would do the job luckily it's just hamsters to negotiate tomorrow!

Thank you Yonic