"Sister wants to end 7 year dispute with me and family" (I thought about name-changing ).

[smokepole]

I know my posts either intrigue people, or annoy the hell out of them and that I could have name changed for a far balanced thread ,but I have not name changed.

Those that are familiar with me , will know that my family and I fell out with my elder sister , for not helping the family financially when able to do so. For those who don't know she refused to lend parents , or me money (but enough of the past).

Sister has asked if the kids DD1, 2 ,DS and me will go with her family skiing at Christmas in the Chalet they have rented in Austria ( fully paid by her).
Last night in a phone call she apologised in a "heart felt way" for not helping me or the family like an eldest daughter or sister should have done.

I have said the kids will be going on the holiday, I am of course in two minds whether to go ( my brother is having none of this change from his sister). The thing is Mum/Dad have been putting pressure on all of us to make up, Mum is 70 Dad is 74 so you can see why they want us to be a "family again".
Sister has even suggested my EX comes along and shares a " room with me" Mum and Dad would quite like it if me and the EX get back together (despite being Divorced for three years) . I just want to scream at my life that goes from mad- madder every week.

I did not need to post this thread (maybe I should not have based on my previous post). However, since I have told my life story on the previous thread, I might as well continue posting threads.

Sorry I meant to add to the thread but accidentally pm d the op as I am new to using the app. Basically I do not lend cash to anyone. I recently bought a toy on eBay on behalf of my brother in law who does not have the internet and he went ballistic at me over the price and tried to get out of paying for it even though I explained the cost to him. He then said the toy which he wanted for his son was shit as it was not remote control even though I described what was written about it. No thanks for me taking my time to sort it out. Last time I will bother.

I am new here can someone explain how to see this other thread

Hard to say. I'm always a bit hazy who's who in hairdresser's stories. What with all the steps, and the in-laws of in-laws, they seem to blend and merge in some horrendously interdependent, fucked-up way.

It's my very own personal Jeremy Kyle viewing.

Meanwhile, I've been virtuously channelling MN and preaching "No is a complete sentence!" when hairdresser complains about them dragging her into their latest financial nonsense.

And I'm just off to ask MN Towers to delete this thread for OP's own sake. She's not getting anything useful out of this - due to not being of this earth. And she's spewing personal information like a roman candle.

She posted plenty of information on the other thread. She seems to like the attention.

So, your parents made you sign over your share in the business for £1, and as a reward, they "drip feed" you a bit of money as and when they feel like it.

Bloody hell, OP, can you not see that they are the villains in this, and not your sister?

Oh, and keeping your EX close, and letting him live rent free in their property, at a time when you want to be distancing yourself. It's like they're trying to sabotage your personal life as well!

wow. Just wondering if the OP has changed her perspective at all?!

Botoxed I doubt she's capable of it.

www.alibris.com/Im-Ok-Youre-Not-Ok-Experiences-of-Having-a-Loved-One-with-a-Personality-Disorder-Dr-Linda-S-Budd/book/26095866?matches=4

This might provide some perspective, OP.

Wow!!! I wish I had a property worth £250k all paid off and a sister willing to take me skiing to make up for an argument. That said... It would mean having to have messed up family relationships like yours....
You do sound like such a snob too about the schools your children 'had to attend'. Most of us here attended comprehensives and appear to have a better standard of English and comprehension then you have. No harm done to any of us. Be thankful for the education that dd1 got, which gave her such good a level grades and got her into uni. Just a question though, if you don't work and exp doesn't earn much, just who is supporting your daughter through uni- i hope with value of the house you own outright shes not claiming every bursary going.... Or is that why you are so keen to make it with DS???

Ilovesooty is that supposed to be a joke? I have a friend with borderline personality disorder who was sexually abused as a child and now spends her time cutting her wrists. It is not funny one bit

so your parents and brother support you. yet you have no intention of getting a job and not being a freeloader.

your sister wants to pay for you and your dc's to have an expensive holiday.

yet you're on here whinging? i don't get it.

Thank You Sanity Clause. You can see I am maybe misguided but not the Evil person I have been made out to be. Yes I am being "slightly" open , but by talking about it "ANON" it helps me clear my mind.

Blood and family makes you do all kind of things, that are not in your interest . I am very strict with my children regarding work ethics and effort, they will all have professions and be self sufficient adults.

Stuck. Have you read the thread ?.

What Type of school did I attend ?.

ral it wasn't a joke at all. Personality disorder comes in many different forms and one of the characteristics can be a refusal to take responsibility and an insistence on being seen as a victim.

I am truly sorry to hear about your friend.

Why won't you get a job?

I'm still stuck on the fact that you fell out with your sister for 7 years because she wouldn't lend you money

Gosh, is this still running? I thought the OP would have asked for it to be removed by now.

Bloody hell, OP, can you not see that they are the villains in this, and not your sister?

But we don't really know they are the villains. Everything that we know about this apparently fucked-up family has been seen through the OP's eyes and told to us by her constant drip-feeding of more and more details.

I'm certain that if we heard the situation explained by the other family members we would hear some very different stories.

OP you are not listening to a word that anyone has said. What on earth did you expect by posting here, and why do you keep outing yourself with all this personal information?

Smokepeople I think you need to lay off the weed it's messin with ya melon man!

Holy moses this has whiled away the past hour - I am agog or should the be 'agog'! ;)

Oh. You again OP. You sound like a knob.

Sorry ilovesooty I just thought you were taking the piss, my mistake.

Any job gives you a start. A little confidence at getting back into a work routine and a reference when you move on.

It's ok ral: no problem.

I don't Care " My Life is Crap" and pointless. This thread is helping me get my feelings out about being "fucked by the lot of them" and being given Scraps for which I must perform.

I cant get a "JOB" I sent out over 100 CVs Nobody is interested in Employing me in even a Junior role! I have made that clear over the two threads , time and time again. "I don't won't to wake up when" I go to bed
But have responsibilities to my Children and to ensure they have a Future.

I will not do anything Stupid like that, no matter how DARK I feel inside.

Yes I have Mental Health Problems , not though WEED , Drugs or Alcohol, it is not a laughing or Piss taking matter that makes working even 15 hours a week a massive Hurdle.

I hope those of you who think I am EVIL never suffer from my problems and need help for my issues!.

You are not willing to take a min wage job though. You are happy to sponge off your family instead. That has got to be shit for your self-esteem, surely?

I did read your posts, and I know you went to a 'modern' school. And you don't sound happy about that. However if you read my comment, I was remarking on the bitterness you had about your children not attending certain schools- and yes, this does shine out from your posts.... I'm sure if iI can feel it, your daughter could. What a great way to support her and her choice not to go, when you seemingly tried to beg her to leave a school she was happy in!
But what does any remark made to you matter, you won't listen because big sister was in the wrong and always will be. I'm just happy my little sister isn't an entitlesd spoilt child like you appear to be...