Seeing the light, and healing the hurt. Breaking free from 'him'.

[surereadyforchange]

Hello, this is a new thread following on from my last one where I received lots of wonderful advice and support regarding the reality of the situation I was in with an abusive shit of a 'man'.
I am seeing things more and more for what they are now, but I still have along way to go
Old thread here:
Previous thread

Yep WA address in satnav and I have an idea where I can park.
Got his latest letter and the original printout of my first post on here that I took to WA the first time.
Got USB
Got laptop and power cable.
got a yoghurt (can't face proper food)
Got water.
Notebook
Phone.
Keep thinking of all the times he was lovely.
This is breaking my heart.
He's broken my heart.

The times when he was lovely don't make up for the times when he was dreadful - in fact they make the times when he was dreadful even harder to understand. Someone who genuinely loves you won't hurt you like that.

You sound prepared, even if you don't feel it. Good luck

You sound really well prepared.

You are hurting because you are a sane human being who has been betrayed and hurt by a person meant to 'love' them. You are hurting because you are NOT of the same ilk as your abuser.

Consider reading Marian Keyes 'A Charming Man' when you have time and the head for it. The anti-hero in it is very charming indeed - when he's not abusing the protagonist. Spoiler, sorry. Just saying, being nice at times does not make up for one single episode of being abusive.

In WA reception. Bricking it.

((Hugs))

What choice did he make when you told him no? Did he think of you or your feelings? Was he lovely? You owe him nothing, and yourself everything.

It is heartbreaking, but you have nothing to feel bad about.

You have come so far and you are very very brave. When I finally stood up to my abusive ex, when we went to court and I was told that I was right, shown him that he could ignore what I said, but couldnt ignore the law, I felt 10ft high for weeks.
It was cathartic, and a revelation. For once I was totally justified and believed, it wasnt all in my head, I wasnt just making a fuss.

Keep thinking of all the times he was lovely.

Try not to. He's a horrible man. What he did to you was so far from lovely that no good memory can make it ok.

Thinking of you today ...

You got yourself there - well done.
We're all there with you, you know that, right?
{{hugs}}

More ((hugs)) and so well done for getting there xx

I've done it! He's gonna get arrested!

[hug]

How do you feel?
Weight off shoulders? Or exhausted? Or both?
I knew you could bloody do it!

Here's to you, sure

How are you feeling?

I am in awe of you!! You kept going and following through, even when it has been so hard to do that.

Here's hoping you feel like a weight has been lifted from your shoulders, and you can move forward with everything else you're working on. I predict a very successful future for you.

A mixture of exhausted and just...oh my god-ness really.
Surreal.
Just keep thinking..."shiiitttt!!!"
He's just texted me "I love you sure"

My head is a mess.

Bloody brilliant

That'll be a fucking shock!

Partridge you made me smile.

WAHOOOOOOO!!!!! That is awesome, sure - I know it's hard for you to take in what an amazing thing you've just done, and you feel all over the place right now, but YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. You really, really did. And one day hopefully soon you will start to feel that and start to really feel good about it.

His latest text proves he still wasn't going away. Will be good for him to have to start dealing with police officers now and seeing how far his manipulative, abusive shit gets him with them.

I know you still have feelings for him now but you won't forever. One day you will see him for the skunk he is.

And in the meantime, know that YOU ROCK!!!

Well done sure. You're doing great.

Well done Sure! The last text was well timed - just in time to reiterate that he is not going away under his own steam.

But he will now! On behalf of all women who might have come across this wad later in life - thank you!!!!!

Well done Sure! You are fabulous.

WaHEY! Gooooo, surely!

Waves pompoms and does triple back flip

I've always been graceful sure

Seriously, bloody well done you. I suggest that you do NOT have any later as it would only make your head spin more, but I do advise chocolate and mindless televisual drivel. You are due a rest I think!

And loads of lively DSHugs (patent pending) - best drug there is!