Seeing the light, and healing the hurt. Breaking free from 'him'.

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Hello, this is a new thread following on from my last one where I received lots of wonderful advice and support regarding the reality of the situation I was in with an abusive shit of a 'man'.
I am seeing things more and more for what they are now, but I still have along way to go
Old thread here:
Previous thread

Well done sure, well done. That was a really big thing for you to do. You're getting there, one step at a time.

Afaik, even if you make a statement and he gets arrested, it still won't inevitably go to court. Presumably the CPS have to decide if there's enough chance of winning the case for that to go ahead. But it does mean he will at least get a very large warning shot across his bows, which he thoroughly deserves, and it does sound like you're leaning towards wanting that yourself.

Just saying that if it helps take some of the pressure off the decision?

May the force be with you... Or whatever the slogan is of whatever superhero type your super DS is into! Well done again

Because i have to put together a huge amount of information covering the last 4.5 years, gather evidence like emails, texts, etc. Because i am already behind at uni and have missed groupwork letting others down and i am full time at uni all week next week. I am busy all weekend modelling.
Also i need to 100% decide that's what i want to do.

Yes I think it's important that whatever you do doesn't knock you off track with the rest of your life. Take all the time you need. If you feel intimidated by him at any time over the next week, you can call the police.

Sorry that sounded a bit short.
DS dad nagging me out the door and I'm a bit stressed about the weekend cause its quite far out of my comfort zone.
I really do appreciate everyone's support, i really do. Xxxx

Sure - I have been thinking of you today. Just want to say I think you are brilliant and brave and on track for a bloody brilliant life. Stay strong, stay safe and use the power of the law to get this rapist scumbag out of your life for good.

Sure - I was just hoping he could get out of your worries immediately. But obviously you do have to keep on track with the rest of your life. You seem very smart, with a good life ahead of you and of course you don't want to jeopardise that. I did not mean to criticize and wish I had rewritten my last post.

sure do you mean you're life modelling for art classes?

Whitsernam, no worries at all, thank you for worrying about me
Talking- nooooooooooo not life modelling! Hair modelling at a big event for my hairdresser. I get my hair cut and coloured free of charge because i occasionally model for them for their photo graphic collections and at events, ive been a model for him at competitions before as well. It is good for me because it forces me to put myself out there and to move toward some sort of self confidence
Always get terrified, but glad I've done it afterwards.

Ooh, get you just doing a bit of modelling at the weekend

Sounds like the sort of thing you need to take you out of yourself a bit.

Honestly, if it wasn't for this loser dragging on your heels it sounds like you've got the makings of a lot of good stuff going on, you just need to believe in yourself.

Oh phew! When you said how far out of your comfort zone it was before, you got me worried for a minute there!

Hey, how great, go you - once more!!

Bet you'll look fabulous

Its only a once or twice a year thing- its so far removed from normal student/muuum/clique outsider life! The creative buzz is really fun. When i see the pics i can't believe its me.

I bet you look fab, op. Nothing like a cut and colour to give confidence -if it's something 'out there'so much the better.

Well done, sure!!!

So glad to read that something will be done about the bullying creep. Today is the start of the rest of your life! And all the best with the modelling - sounds fab.

xx

My friend's sister used to do hair modelling, and I once stage managed at an enormous hair event. It's brilliant! What a fabulous thing to do! I am quite, quite of you. Try to relax and enjoy it!

Thanks all. DS dad is worthy of a thread all of his own right now. Unfortunately I'm without my own car in a rural area so trapped at his until tomorrow but he really is an unspeakable little twat.

Looking forward to getting out of here tomorrow.
I always make an effort with him and time and again he proves how right I was to kick him out. Trying not to waste energy hating him.

Definitely on a journey

Hello,
Is anyone still with me?

Hey sure, wondered how you were getting on. How was the modelling? Hope your weekend went ok.

Still with you, yes!

Here in zombie form how are you doing? How was the weekend?

Still here sweetie. Silently supporting in the background. How was your weekend?

yes, still here xxx hope, besides twatwittery ex, that your weekend was good

Hello, still here, just knew you were flat out busy this weekend! And been a bit busy here too. How's it all going?

Lol at zombie/partridge's seasonal namechange