It was never 'work stress', it's emotional abuse and you're going to get divorced because of it H! (part3)

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New thread!

As always I'm hopeless and can't link properly to my old thread Work stress? Err I don't think so mate'

Thank you everyone for finishing off the last thread- glad to be starting afresh actually! I did have a little chuckle about Greg the plumber (Phwoar!!) thanks H for the suggestion - us at Mumsnet ran with it and he sounds like my dream man haha!

Anyway - I'm upstairs as usual avoiding going down and seeing old King of the Castle in his throne. He came up half an hour ago in the hope of 'some action' but was told to bugger off - he's manageable at the moment because all of a sudden it's him who's 'scared to rock the boat' and keeps telling me how grateful if he is to have been allowed back - yack! (You didn't give me a lot of choice H though did you? You played every emotional card in your pack and then literally forced your way in!)

Anyway - I'm feeling strong, seeing the police tomorrow - and action plan will be in place!

Love to you all

Well done name for giving the statement and talking to VS. It's still a victory even if it's not exactly what you wanted to hear.

I agree that you should do all the divorce with rotty. If for some reason she can't then ask her to recommend someone. Lawyer 1 is not protecting you or your dc and will absolutely minimise his danger and risk which will leave the children vulnerable to him.

Stay safe as always and good luck tomorrow

haha petunia!

Thank you digger - that is exactly right, she has been minimising and not protecting us so agreed, I will ask rotty tomorrow, and if she's just specifically domestic abuse/injunctions, then yes I'll ask her to recommend another rotty!

H has called, he's on his way home - he's tired after a long day but he's so excited about the future everyone - he can see it all now and how perfectly it could work so he's feeling happy

"H has called, he's on his way home - he's tired after a long day but he's so excited about the future everyone - he can see it all now and how perfectly it could work so he's feeling happy"

Bleaugh!!! I think I just threw up a little.

To quote the Doobie Brothers; "What a fool believes he sees no wise man has the power to reason away". And the more fool he!!

I like your plan about the solicitor. First one is clueless and it's important to get this right.

H is blowing smoke out of his arse. Words are cheap and easy. No effort required beyond moving the lips, and he gets to look in his own eyes like a facsimile of a decent man when he hears himself speak. Ideal tools for someone like him.

The weirdest thing just happened, well an hour ago now - (and I'm really sorry if TMI but it's the craziness of it) h was on a right charm offensive as per usual, trying to get physical contact anyway he could, cracking 'cute' jokes, the works.

Anyway, I suddenly developed a stomach ache, which went on to some stabbing pains so I took myself off to the loo - next thing I know I'm in full Squits attack, h came up 'concerned' to see how I was and that's when I puked fully into the bath whilst still on the loo

1 - that's never happened to me before. 2 - I'm glad I didn't waste any money on a tin of Del Monte! and 3. I'm feeling totally fine now and am in peace as H is staying well away haha!

I did eat quite a lot of cashew nuts earlier so maybe that was it - but the timing and the genuineness of it couldn't be overlooked after all our fruit cocktail jokes!!

Anyway i can string this on for quite a bit now I should think!

It feels wrong to say yay - but yay!

I used to get that sort of thing from stress, maybe that's why?

Probably stress from having to spend time with a twunt. Hope you are feeling better soon Name

Oh poor you, that's a tough way to get some peace! Hope you've recovered

Can you not puke on him? Revenge for the spitting. We all know the projectile vomiting cannot be controlled. Spitting in your face can be.

It might dampen down the ardour as well.

I agree that it was probably stress. When I get upset or stressed (especially when I have to 'hide it') it goes directly to my, erm, 'lower digestive tract'. Not fun, but in your case it served a purpose!!

you poor love

WWK just reminded me on an old George Carlin joke: "If you spit in the subway, it's a £50 fine. Throwing up is free."

name, that aside, I'm getting concerned for you in a whole new way. Can you pop yo your GP today and get this checked out? Or at least logged.

Big hugs.

This seems to be a physical manifestation of your internal anxiety. Useful but not good. You need this over asap.

I found this thread when you started it, then went back and read your other threads. I have followed with interest as I see strong similarities here to my father, and also making me see what my ex was really like (thankfully not a long relationship).

I am now reading to purely root for you, to know that at the end of this you and your girls are ok. I am normally a quiet person, and when I have nothing productive to add I don't post, but I can't keep silent here because you deserve a whole crowd to be visible in their support of you. Keep going, it's so close now, and everyone wants you to be free and happy.

Name, are you developing an allergy to controlling abusive twats, perchance? Do keep an eye on your physical health.

Thinking of you today, as every day.

He and his charm offensive actually made you sick to your stomach

Useful deterrent to put off H but hope you're feeling all right this morning, keep hydrated.

Hooray for timely vomit. Keep going. I'm following... X

I know it seems unlikely but that's a stomach bug - it's doing the rounds at my DD's school. Exactly those symptoms. Problem is, most of the parents seem to be ignoring the 48 hr rule as it's so brief and the kids seem fine straight after vomiting. Unless they puke at school there's no way of knowing which ones have had it - well, I know because I hear them talking about it outside the school, but the teachers don't know.

Probably very wise for your H to keep his distance for at least till you've got the nasty fucker out of the house for good a few days.

Yep, I am with the others who think that you are having a bad reaction to TwatChops. In times of stress, the body produces stress hormones, which can cause all sorts of havoc in the body. I have a narc mother and a very dysfunctional father, and guess what my childhood was punctuated with? Stomach cramps, the squits, constipation, you name it . Wouldn't be surprised Name, the body does weird things under stress.

KOKO, you are making great strides to get yourself free of this twat .

Oh yes! Call it a DV bug - genius!

I also think it was stress Name, second talking to your GP about it and get it logged. He/she probably won't be able to actually do anything other than log it.

Tell twantchops, if he asks, you're seeing GP about D&V bug.

Ahh thanks everyone!!! Haha yes it was very odd and very timely! My fairy godmother must have thought some vomit was needed and waved her magic wand

Well, I'm back from seeing Rotty!!

She's amazing, I love her I wanted to hug her there and then. She's taking over the divorce now - would have had him hit with a non mol and occ order at the same time as the divorce papers - doesn't know what my solicitor has been up to there - same with this waiting around for a month to see if he'll bloody sign it - not true, it can be 7 days!

So plan is - I tell solicitor 1 I'm switching, I then go back in to see Rotty next Tuesday - she wants to me to have a diary of all recent events for her to read, my id, bank statements and then she's going to press ahead with decree nisi and get me the protection in place that I will need!!

she would prefer he signed his work contract but says it's ok if he doesn't because we can prove he has been earning up until now anyway.

I am elated!!

Oh great news!

Now try and get the elation out of your system by the time he comes home, try to look pale and wan.

Couldn't have been better news.

Things are looking up, first you get granted D&V for the benefit of your H, then you get granted the gift of Rotty which H is also going to be delighted with!!!!