It was never 'work stress', it's emotional abuse and you're going to get divorced because of it H! (part3)

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New thread!

As always I'm hopeless and can't link properly to my old thread Work stress? Err I don't think so mate'

Thank you everyone for finishing off the last thread- glad to be starting afresh actually! I did have a little chuckle about Greg the plumber (Phwoar!!) thanks H for the suggestion - us at Mumsnet ran with it and he sounds like my dream man haha!

Anyway - I'm upstairs as usual avoiding going down and seeing old King of the Castle in his throne. He came up half an hour ago in the hope of 'some action' but was told to bugger off - he's manageable at the moment because all of a sudden it's him who's 'scared to rock the boat' and keeps telling me how grateful if he is to have been allowed back - yack! (You didn't give me a lot of choice H though did you? You played every emotional card in your pack and then literally forced your way in!)

Anyway - I'm feeling strong, seeing the police tomorrow - and action plan will be in place!

Love to you all

I will Itsfab, thank you

I've passed the stage of dismissing his actions, or not seeing them for what they are. I see it all for what it is now and I will definitely tell the PO about his games with the kids and demanding my phone off me etc

He's upstairs sorting out the bedroom, he winked at me and suggested me going up to 'help' him in the bedroom to which I refused! I'm really due on apparently plus Along Came Polly's on so me and the girls are enjoying watching it downstairs although I know me not going up at some point to see him will result in him in even further deep dark mood.

Be careful. I hope you've got nothing upstairs that he can find. Where are your documents? KOKO. You're doing so well. But he must have an inkling something is Amiss. Watch your back at all times.

Is it possible he knows your cycle? I Know my DH does and if I said I was on at the wrong time he would know.

Based on his recent behaviour, I'd say the 'honeymoon' (no pun intended) is over as far as him attempting to 'woo' you (Pfhhttt!) with his 'love' (GAG!). But I do think it's a good idea to 'play along' as much as possible without doing anything that will truly negatively affect you (like sex). Obviously, he's suspicious that 'something's going on', but typically, it must be that YOU are cheating and not that HE'S an arse.

I think you've made the right decision to proceed without waiting for him to sign the contract. If he's going to stop/reduce working just to spite you he'll do it regardless of a signed contract. At least you'll have him out of the house if he does, so you won't have to be feeding and housing his sorry ass. Hopefully he'll have some regard for his own finances and won't do anything stupid.

Hey Petunia, no it's ok absolutely nothing contentious upstairs for him to find.

Itsfab, no, luckily enough I have polycystic ovaries so a random cycle but he's just not that into me to know anything like that.

Thanks Across yeah hopefully - I wonder whether I have been terrified of the financial boat rocking due to all his past financial abuse, he knows it, has used it to keep me in my place, but actually, when push comes to shove, he won't just walk out of his job. He's not competent enough to take over the bank account and make sure we're eating crumbs in the cold and dark - don't think so anyway

Koko name. It's monday here now - you're almost there.

Just popping in to wish you all the very best of luck this coming week, you will be in my thoughts at all times. KOKO sweetie pie.

Wishing you so much good luck for tomorrow xx

Good luck and lots of good thoughts to you Name. You are almost there

Better crumbs in the dark in peace with him gone than steak in the bright light with him in the house. Although I'm sure it won't come to that!

I'm sure that part of your fear is based on his past abusive behaviour. That's one of the reasons they abuse, to make us feel powerless and dependent upon their 'good will'.

Am I understanding this correctly?

He has had divorce papers served to him which is a massive indication that you don't want to be with him and he is still trying it on for rumpy pumpy??

Is he a bit dense??

I doubt he's dense.

He is, however, abusive.

Best of luck for tomorrow

All the best for tomorrow name x

Monday morning here, thinking of you and wishing you all the best xx

hope you are ok TNHC - just been reading horrible news in England and instantly thought of you
hope you are well and getting ready for tomorrow

MrsGeorgeMichael - I saw the same story and had the same thought.

Really hope everything goes well this week name. Let us know you're ok when you can please.

Mrs and Doc I saw that story, too. I'm sure it has nothing to do with name, but it made me ill all the same.

All the best for Monday Name, hope you are managing to sleep.

Good luck today!

pom poms shaking for you here

I saw that story too and it made me think of name. Awful.

Good luck for today name, thinking of you.

Good luck today

good luck for today