It was never 'work stress', it's emotional abuse and you're going to get divorced because of it H! (part3)

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New thread!

As always I'm hopeless and can't link properly to my old thread Work stress? Err I don't think so mate'

Thank you everyone for finishing off the last thread- glad to be starting afresh actually! I did have a little chuckle about Greg the plumber (Phwoar!!) thanks H for the suggestion - us at Mumsnet ran with it and he sounds like my dream man haha!

Anyway - I'm upstairs as usual avoiding going down and seeing old King of the Castle in his throne. He came up half an hour ago in the hope of 'some action' but was told to bugger off - he's manageable at the moment because all of a sudden it's him who's 'scared to rock the boat' and keeps telling me how grateful if he is to have been allowed back - yack! (You didn't give me a lot of choice H though did you? You played every emotional card in your pack and then literally forced your way in!)

Anyway - I'm feeling strong, seeing the police tomorrow - and action plan will be in place!

Love to you all

Many happy returns, Name

I see Mr Happy Puppy hid your keys earlier - perhaps that's why he's in such an upbeat mood. What a stupid thing to do.

Your life is going to be soooo much better soon! Definitely Paris next year ;)

Which male annoying DVD did you/the DDs choose?

Happy Birthday TheName

By the time you have the next one, you'll be free (hopefully). I shall not...but this is my last Christmas and New Year married. Keep going, you're doing okay, but it is exhausting so don't feel bad about going and having a lie down for a bit. Rest and relaxation is important!

Happy Birthday name. Hope things improve enormously from now on... to Paris sans twatchops!

Happy birthday name, I read thread 3 today and you are amazing, I'm sure I read somewhere that the last few miles of a marathon are the hardest, you're almost there. Keep you and your dcs safe, there's so many mumsnetters cheering you on, get through this and you have a wonderful life waiting for you. Just those few extra miles to go (hugs) xxx

Hope you're evening is going bearably as can be. Cheer yourself up planning the big MNetters twatchops is gone party we're all coming over to yours for!! might just have to have a big bonfire of any left behind crap of his too!

Happy birthday name , next year things will be so much different/better!

Chin up name. It's not long now. It's a rough week to get through but you're this close.

Belated Happy Birthday name
Just catching up with the thread. I hope you had a half decent birthday love....Ooooh i could murder a bar of fruit & nut!!
I know this week has been tough but not long now and you'll be free, just to be yourself with your girls. Your amazing!! Hope your getting a good nights sleep x

Ah thanks everyone!!

It was an ok evening - curry was lovely! ended up watching the Lego Movie instead of Frozen, so unfortunately the song of the evening wasn't 'Let it go' but 'everything is awesome' instead!

H was a bit slitty eyed with me last night actually - why don't I want to do something for the anniversary? Err, just think we've had a lot on, want to conserve money - why aren't you up for a shag anymore? Err because I've got a bit of a sore fanny and I'm due on.

All elements of guilt I may have about the upcoming days went out the window last night actually - I just thought Fuck Off!! I can't wait for life without you, you intense, manic, self absorbed, tiresome bastard!! And this is you still 'grateful to have been allowed back!' Urgh!!

Anyway - have a lovely day everyone, thank you for all your lovely words of support and encouragement

Oh what a total arse! You're doing great, stay fabulous c

Go Name!

Glad he left you alone, Name.

I'm not sure how old you are name but I 'believe' you may be starting the menopause ; that would explain all your various problems in one go (emotions, hormones, lack of sexual desire, sore bits etc. And I believe it lasts ages too . I would casually leave a web page or magazine article open for him to accidently find ....

Some time in the not too distant future you will be able to sing "Everything is awesome" for real!!

I can't wait for life without you, you intense, manic, self absorbed, tiresome bastard!!

Bahahahahah!!! That's the ticket Name! He's a nutter who will just drive you crazy with his antics.

KOKO Name , and here's to a birthday without the crazy H next year.

Happy Birthday name

Well done getting through this gruelling time, you bloody marvellous woman, you. Xxxx

Haha!! Love to you all, thank you

Have had a really productive morning actually - am picking up my GP letter stating what I'm going through and my meds for legal aid, I'm off to an Internet cafe soon to print off all my lists, emails and texts for the police on Monday. Have decided no more depressive slumps - last night was reassuring - the thought of him touching me is utterly repellent, not that it wasn't before, but he did say last night that because we'd shagged 2 weeks ago he thought our sex life was going to be rekindled and the reason he's bringing it up is because I served him divorce papers which of course has made him paranoid about my feelings towards him!!!

Paranoid?? Err it's there in black and white on court papers that I consider the marriage has broken down irreparably because of all your unreasonable behaviour that is also listed there. What is there to be paranoid about haha?!!

So shagging you when you don't want to is supposed to help your positive feelings towards him?

Get a clue, twatchops.

He is one self-deluding fuckwit isn't he?

Oh he so is FB! With everything in life, not just his wife's feelings towards him - he is completely deluded about his talents, potential, people's opinions of him, his stress compared to other people's, his self absorption knows no bounds - he is a full blown narcissist , he really is!

Yeah exactly Yonic! Weirdo haha!

Hahahahaha - being served with divorce papers has made him paranoid about your feelings towards him...I'll giggle all day about that. Loon.

Oh boy, his twattishness knows no bounds! Well done getting through last night.

Not long now, Name, not long.

Thanks Outflew and Jux!!

Was just thinking back over last night actually - and he did something with the DD's that started off 'innocent'but then I really didn't like it and stepped in and stopped it.

He was getting DD2 to whisper into his ear something nice about DD1 and then he said aloud what she'd said except he replaced it with a silly, childish insult instead, something along the lines of 'dd2 just said that dd1 is a silly flappy fish' DD2 was all 'no, no I didn't say that' and the three of them laughed.

But then he encouraged dd2 to whisper in his ear again and then was saying stuff slightly, very slightly more personal - DD2 was still all, shock horror!! I never said that - but I saw dd1 pretty much had stopped giggling and so I stepped in and was like, that's enough, it's wrong to whisper, I don't like whispering about people. They stopped and nothing more was said, and thankfully it only happened 3 times, but I gave DD1 a hug and said sorry i didn't think that was a very nice game and she agreed

It was weird, I've not known him to do that before. I guess that's him laying the foundations of abuse of them isn't it? Bastard thank fuck he'll be gone next week.

It was odd gauging the situation, an innocent game to start with, or something more sinister? I'm actually the paranoid one, not him, I don't want him being alone with them now :(