Work Stress? Err don't think so mate!

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I can't copy and paste a link rather annoyingly - but this is my follow on thread from my original How far can he take the stressed from work excuse?

It burst at the seams with all the fantastic MN support I received and so I have started a new one as I carry on my journey of divorcing my very abusive husband.

Yay for pizza!

Massively well done you, have as relaxing a night with your girls as you can.

Great, thanks Myfriend I'll have a look at that - I have a safety chain on the door already actually which is good but I also have a Chubb lock with no key to fit it, as well as the usual Yale lock. Might have a look at how I get a replacement key for the Chubb.

I've just had another text there, yes he will do as I have asked and stay at his brothers, but 1. He has no clothes, 2. His brother is playing football until 9.45 so has to wait for him and 3. He thinks this is very, very unfair!

I'm not going to reply obviously in the keeping of no contact, but just want to say 1. You fucking asked for this, 2. Why don't you buy yourself a couple of tshirts and sit in the pub waiting for your brother like you would have done when you were living in your shag pad and 3. Feels very, very fair to me!!

Does he not realise that supermarkets are open all night? He can but a whole new wardrobe very cheaply if he needs to .

Long time lurker who is now waving pom poms for you. Well done name

Buy I mean

Sometimes I wish there was a simple like button on MN. Send those texts on here, we want to read them. DONT send them to him, and don't please don't let a glass of wine or similar let you get finger happy. I don't mean just tonight, I mean any night while NC is your friend.

So let rip here and keep your phone locked and install a big screensaver that says "are you sure you want to send this Name?"

You're doing great! Go you! stay off the and on the tonight, best to keep totally clear head in case you need to make quick actions / decisions, but really hoping you have a peaceful night x

Name you are doing wonderfully at not responding! So tempting to tell him to fuck right off and that you don't actually give a shit.

Haha he can even butt a whole wardrobe if he wants pompom

Great tip Orange I'll just post his crap here, I am no way responding to him tempting as it may be!

Adara you may know me too well already haha - tis why I took up the smoking - a crutch that keeps me sane and sober!

Definitely Ribena - dignified silence all the way I think!!

He's a wanker! It's not fair! Aw diddums. What a total waste of skin he is. Definitely don't reply just use this like WWK did her letters to STBXH an rant at him here. Hope he keeps away

Wait, you didn't bother to sort him a lovely house filled with clothes and furniture?

Glad things are going forward now but please bear in mind what a previous poster said about him trying to pick up the girls from school; for the moment it seems he is full of self pity, but you don't know how things could turn....

Ad actually I wouldn't post his texts verbatim as that would be googleable and lead to this thread

Lovely to hear all this. I've lurked but haven't posed yet. You've done wonderfully. Don't be lulled into any conversations. You really don't have to speak to him ever again if you don't want to. Everything an be done by email xx

Glad it went well and he's staying away, well done

Glad to hear it went well. Stay strong and stay safe.

Hope your evening feels ok name and you're safely tucked up with your little ones. Expect to waver now and then, you can't be focussed and strong all the time, but know you're moving in the right direction for you, and those girls of yours. You're setting them one hell of a brilliant example.

Treat yourself with kindness along the way and take as much support as you can get from folk in real life.

Cheering you on, as always x

WeeHEEE! Well done.

A couple of things to add:

1. I'd always heard that tenterhooks are things that suspend/stretch fabric, usually to keep it from shrinking. So, rather than "hanging around", it means "under strain" (and I understand tenterhooks were pretty sharp and nasty).

1. Customising a ring tone (on my Motorola/Android) is via the contacts list: click on the "Edit" option and you can assign a specific ringtone just like you add a picture for a contact. Whilst you're in there, change his name to "ASSHOLE" or similar.

Got any spare pizza? >cheeky-icon

Oh thanks ladies I'm still smiling

Well H has called my mother again tonight for another half hour - you gotta hear this - he's devastated, we had all these plans, my reasons for his unreasonable behaviour are shocking, I am an unstable person, i don't have any friends or rather I am fickle with friends, if only I had done what he had asked and kept organised and maintained lists then we'd be in a great position now, he feels like walking out of his job, he's only got my parents to talk to about this - he could talk to his family but they would automatically be on his side, and last and not least, I drink too much!!

Haha Pedant!!

Oh and I let the kids run wild!!

You are laughing at him. This is good!

Geez, what fantasy land does he live in...

Ah yes the one where he is perfect!

Can you suggest to your parents that they don't need to listen to him if they don't want to?

Yes I did, I said 'mum, you're being coerced love, he doesn't know where you live, you don't need to answer the phone!'

Yes I am laughing Bland! I can't imagine phoning his mum, 'right mil, where do I start?' Honestly!