Dating Thread 80

[UrsulaBuffay]

As we were saying...

Wicked
They not been on a date but have met at exercise group , they chatted and decided to go on a date but before it happened she texted him and said just friends no more.

I'm not throwing away friend ship yes I have feelings for him and in an odd way I'm hurt for him that she did that

There a line in a film I love where the girl says to the boy she loves something like she breaks your heart I'll break her face that how I feel right now lol

Well still be mates like I said he has cared more about me in 6/7 months than my so called friends.

You guys have been brilliant I have never met any of you but no one has said I am stupid , I k ow some peeps think I shut off contact which works for them , but I'd rather friend ship with him than nothing

Sorry if rambling lol

Jesy - he sounds very immature & you sound lovely.

Started talking to another pof guy on friday. In the space of 2 hours he went from - you're great, lets meet up to - what's wrong, aren't you talking to me? Then - ok, you're not interested IM DELETING YOUR NUMBER, OK?
Old me would be concerned I upset someone & apologise.
New me (post counselling) thinks ' lucky escape'

I don't understand men

Lesson learnt - being crap at texting back seems to weedle out the nasty ones

Tbh he more mature than I am lol I know he played field like a lot of men do but was with one girl for 4 years but like he said she tried to change him I do wonder if he thought I was trying that.

I think there is no rhyme or reason for why a man does or doesn't want a relationship with us/ right now but does with someone else/ at a different time, there's no point beating yourself up over what ifs.

imnot ..good tip! Your experience epitomises what we all ready know (or need to know) ...that there are all kinds of random weirdos in OLD & we have to just slip on right past them, as we would in RL.
I seem to have moved from having several potential dates to nothing much. I wonder if this is coincidence or due to a recent milestone birthday....I think I have to shift my target age range up a tad, but they all seem to be interested in gardening, antiques & walking . Nothing wrong with those things, but I do prefer more active pursuits...well partying really

Hi everyone. Thanks for all your kind words yesterday. I think I allow myself to be swept up by the sexting as a distraction but I need to just get better at deleting/blocking them as soon as they start because ultimately it's just wasting time.

MrTall-1 has asked me on a second date. I'm not really sure about him but think I'll give him a second date to find out. Just need to work out if I should talk to him about the kissing. I suppose my heart's not really in it at the moment because of the situation with MrTall.

MrTall should have got back from holiday at some point yesterday and I still haven't heard from him. Does anyone think that I should text him with something chatty like 'did you have a good time?' just to show I'm still interested or should I just leave it and hope he gets in touch? I think if I go for the first option, I might be upset if he just ignores me but then will I wonder if he thought I'd lost interest? Either way, if he hasn't contacted me by tomorrow night, I shall assume that he is no longer interested in me. So difficult to know how to play it .

Jesy he just may not have been as into you as you were him. It happens to us all

If a guy is bothered he will make the effort, we all know this deep down.

Distract yourself by getting back out there, that's what I do

Single DO NOT TEXT HIM! He knows you're interested and you deserve to be chased not to be doing the chasing. Give the new guy a chance.

Funny but he trying to make an effort not directly but a mutual mate daughter texted me not long ago she only 21 but a sweet girl saying he realised he messed up but now what does he do lol
Friends is good enough for ne

Thank you everyone. Yes, I agree I shouldn't text him. Think I already know that I will not hear from him again.

I just feel really confused about why it went wrong. He was pushing me to say I liked him and our dates went really well with him saying he wanted to see me again. Maybe I pushed him too quickly by asking where if stood but I'd rather him just end it than slowly withdraw from me.

Thing is, he seemed so ideal. I really liked him. I'm not devastated or anything, more just disappointed at this point and wondering if I'll find anyone who will measure up. I've certainly learnt my lesson though - even if they push to know how you feel, still play it cool.

I'm in sort of a similar ish situation sock and what I've 'done wrong' is be too available and lay my cards on the table. They want a chase I think.

He's just text asking how I am. No kiss. Guess I know what's coming. How do I play this?

Personally Sock I would reply saying you are great thanks, have been doing marvellous things while he has been away. Obviously not in those words! , but conveying the impression that you have been too busy to have given him a thought.

Don't reply straight away, give it a couple of hours. Is no kiss that unusual? Doesn't always mean anything.

Yes leave it til later and say great just out having cocktails or something don't even ask how his hol was

Sorry to butt in but Sock please don't reply him. Just leave him to it but at least walk away with the feeling of at least he was the last to text and you ignored him.

When I was single that sort of text was a feeler I used to send to see if I have a chance of a shag, knowing I had just behaved like a dick.
ANY man into you will let it be known.
What went wrong... Tbh honest it sounds harsh but it doesn't matter. No good can come into tying yourself in knots.
Your worst fears, Growing up old and single but with your friends and family that love you is not necessarily a bad thing.

For now ignore him.

Oops, so rubbish at playing cool. Text back just saying been great, how about you. No kiss. Couple of text exchanges and now nothing. Familiar territory. So bored of this, especially when I'm chatting to others who are actively pursuing me. No kisses is unusual for him, especially as he made a big deal over the fact that I didn't use them initially. I'm confused about why he's even bothering. After a week of distracting myself and not being as bothered about his lack of texts, I'm back to angst and over analysis. Arrgghh!!!

I need to learn to be patient and wait for the advice to be posted here first. Going to forget about him for now. As has been said, he will let me know if he's interested.

Did the kisses stay missing? You sound like me I feel guilty and on edge for not replying quickly, my inboxes are full of conversations with guys with me as the last texter!

We sent two texts each, both without kisses. You've just hit the nail on the head Ursula, I do feel guilty. I don't like to leave people hanging on.

I guess ultimately it doesn't matter. If he's not that into me, then there's probably little I can do to convince him otherwise. I'm not going to pine for him as I have been doing.

Single he does sound a headfuck and you are too lovely to be drawn into that.

I wouldn't reply single. It's not good enough after he ignored you like that.

Just had the most amazing time with blondegeeky. Seeing him again Wednesday. Can't wait.