Single - I get messages from women like that too. It's rare for women to message first, usually they just view my profile several times to give me a hint. Getting a wink from someone is also rare. I'd welcome more interest as there are 1000 women who match my search filters, many of whom are attractive, and I really don't have the time or energy to send 1000 personalised emails out to each of them. If you fancy a bloke, let him know by looking at his profile more than once or favouriting or winking at him.
Otherwise you're just going to end up weeding through the dross from blokes who are trying their luck, and the guys you actually fancy will be off messaging the women who winked.
One woman messaged me out of the blue and said I seemed attractive and funny, but I'd said I had kids so she wasn't interested.
Right. I'll just not be a dad then. Weirdo.
The other night I was looking through all my suggested matches on Match, and there were 6 attractive women, all between 5 years younger and 3 years older than me. All local enough. And not a single one of them had written a profile description of themselves. None of them. Most of them only had one photo, a facial close up.
How am I supposed to write a decent message to them? 'Hi. Interesting that you have eyebrows. I have eyebrows too. Maybe we should chat'
So I didn't bother, and sent a few messages to other women who had taken the time to write something - anything - about themselves, without too much use of the word 'lol' or the phrase 'work hard, play hard' in the text.