Gotta for me it depends, what is in their profile and what do they look like. I am more inclined to answer and give them the benefit of the doubt if I like what I see. I think approaching the opposite sex or sending the first message can be a bit daunting and some men probably assume wrongly that women are going to be flattered, and think this tactic works. Its an opener, that's all. Obviously if they go on to have nothing sensible to say I would bin them.
I am sitting here still wondering what to do about MrC. He sent text on thursday and I still haven't responded. I just don't know what to say. I am a little bit ambivalent. I am not willing to even communicate much unless there is any point to it. I seem to always say the wrong thing, I'm often quite direct, he goes off on flights of fancy and is sensitive and dreamy, I am grounded and like my feet on the ground, a map and a rough itinerary. I don't think I can face more texts, phone calls or emails but I won't be the first to suggest meeting up and I doubt I shall be able to instigate a serious conversation about what is happening. I am more likely then to just be curt, blunt and direct and give him what for!! I need someone to reign in this tendency and glue my gob together.
Mr Actor Luvvie is a bit too full on for me, too many texts, calls and questions. Over two hours at a time on the phone and texting all day. I am exhausted, this is before I even meet him. I guess if it were MrC being this full on I would be skipping about with two tails and a grin, so I guess I know I am not ready to even contemplate meeting anyone else and need to resolve this "thing" with MrC. Problem is, the last conversation was me saying "its over, I will go away, never make contact and want to get on with my life" I can't be arsed with protestations of love, life, future, families followed by radio silence for days because he has developed cold feet. I have never pushed for more, and yet now he places me in a position where the only sensible thing I can do is pin him down and ask where this is going. I feel aggrieved because it's not really natural or easy for me to push for more, and yet I am not willing now to be directed at his whim or his mood. He was the one pushing for more. So, I could make myself further vulnerable by asking, or walk away, the alternative of just carrying on and never being certain is not an option now.