Hissy Thanks for the hug 
Right. Today I feel much better. At least in terms of feeling sad. I felt very sad, even though I knew ending it was the right thing to do, but I'm not going to feel sad about it forever. I can feel myself physically bracing myself against things that remind me of him to stop the hurt. But I'm telling myself that he probably hasn't given me a second thought and is up to God knows what, so I'd be wasting my time anyway.
I haven't heard from him since Tuesday and I hope that I won't.
Jarlin I'm pleased to hear you're meeting slow. Whatever the outcome is, you'll feel better, I'm sure. Good luck for the outcome you want 
Dire Thank you. Tbh, she did it to herself too. My parents divorced when I was 19. She changed herself for every man she dated after that. The food she ate, the music she liked, the interests she had, the places she went to, the way she behaved around them... It really frustrated me. There was no Her. She was just a reflection of the men she dated. I challenged her once and she said that was just what being in a relationship was like 
But I think she did it because she thought if she was just like them, they'd like and love her more and have no reason to leave her. So it stood to reason, I suppose, that if I disagreed or displeased someone they'd 'punish' me.
I could see it was wrong, but by then the damage to me was done. I find it very difficult to assert myself and to say "no" to people. My boundaries are shit. I've done all sorts because it doesn't occur to me that, "no" is an option. "Do as you're told" was clearly a message I took very much to heart! That's a bit of a worry, really. I think I'm definitely going to work on those boundaries...
Blossom Pleased to hear your date with MrItalian went well and at least the other one showed himself to be an arse before you went to the effort of meeting him.
Pink I don't think I'd do it. He's already admitted to 'using' your friend. I don't think I'd go there.